Dealing with Disappointment [Paperback]

Elizabeth Crary (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 2003

Learning to cope with disappointment and dissatisfaction is a skill kids have to learn. Without it, how will they handle routine---and serious---obstacles and frustrations throughout life? This easy-to-read guide provides exercises and examples that demonstrate how even toddlers can cope with their emotions, using self-calming techniques and problem-solving tools. Parents too often overwhelmed by frustrated children will appreciate Elizabeth Crary's straightforward suggestions on surviving emotional meltdowns and preventing future problems.

Editorial Reviews

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"Positive, practical approaches...Realistic scenarios." -- Parent's Guide to Children's Media

"This is a fresh approach, with lots of specifics and real-life examples." -- 2003 National Parenting Publications Gold Award

About the Author

A parent educator for more than two decades, Elizabeth Crary is the award-winning author of more than 30 books and dozens of articles on child guidance issues. Her landmark book, "Without Spanking or Spoiling," was published in 1979 and continues to be a favorite. Crary is a frequent speaker in North America and Japan; she has guested on "Ophrah" and many other television and radio programs.

Product Details

• Paperback: 96 pages
• Publisher: Parenting Press (April 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1884734758
• ISBN-13: 978-1884734755
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 4.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #154,461 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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16 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Filled from cover to cover with practical guidance, April 13, 2004

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Midwest Book Review (Oregon, WI USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Dealing with Disappointment (Paperback)

Written by Elizabeth Crary (a parent educator of 25 years' experience), Dealing With Disappointment: Helping Kids Cope When Things Don't Go Their Way offers parents, teachers, child care providers, and anyone else who works with children a straightforward guidance to teaching children how to meet and deal with seemingly insurmountable challenges. From learning to recognize when children are truly upset or shaken; to the dangers of trying to make or keep children happy at all times; to teaching young ones self-calming and problem-solving skills with step-by-step guides and games; to learning how to keep one's cool when the kids lose theirs, Dealing With Disappointment is an excellent and strongly recommended resource filled from cover to cover with positive and practical guidance and guidelines.

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book for handling feelings, December 17, 2008

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Rachael (Illinois) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Dealing with Disappointment (Paperback)

This is my favorite parenting (and lifeskills) book for learning how to identify, process, and master one's feelings. It is so practical and really applies to any age of child/adult and parenting style. The goal of the book is to empower kids (and parents) to be responsible for their own feelings by identifying and handling them in appropriate ways.

A variety of techniques are recommended depending on the age of the child and the child's own particular personality. (From art to music to reading to physical exercises and so much more).

The author suggests that for each year of age a child has, they should develop that many coping mechanisms when they are upset for how to get their feelings under control and process them.

This book strikes an excellent balance between the one extreme that says "You have no business feeling that way - just deal with it" which leads to stuffing emotions and angry outbursts, and the other extreme which focuses so much on talking about feelings "You're angry, you're upset, tell me how you feel, let's focus on your feelings for hours ad nauseum" that the child feels trapped by their own feelings and isn't given tools for moving beyond the situation.

Highly highly recommend this book! You as the parent will also come away with new and better coping skills for yourself.

5.0 out of 5 stars Teaches an essential life skill!, September 9, 2011

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Helen (Oakland, CA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Dealing with Disappointment (Paperback)

What a relief to read this book. As parents, it's so easy to assume it's our job to keep our kids happy. This workbook teaches step by step, how to help children talk about their feelings, calm themselves, and problem solve when things don't go their way. It even reminds us what we can to do stay calm when our kids are disappointed. There are so many possibilities and sales pitches in today's world that managing disappointment is essential. Fortunately, this book teaches how.