While I really appreciate the effort on his part, Ray J is offering more trash in an already garbage filled landscape. We are swarmed with self-help books on cheating, relationships, marriage, yadda, yadda. But what we REALLY need is truth, and this book is an evasion of plain black and white truth. With its attempt at creating a "New Monogamy" and the "what's right for you may be not right for him" ideaology. Really? We don't need any more of that, we HAVE that. Ray J comes at a man's cheating instinct just like the rest of society in that men have this instinct and they need to do a., b. and c. to control it OR be able to date women who are just down with it.
So, here's my two cents (and no, I didn't dare BUY this book - I read this children's comic in the bookstore): If you believe in the value and promise of marriage and monogamy, and if you believe in keeping a promise at whatever cost, then you don't have to cheat, period, end of story. it's a choice. So many people are flailing around in the waters of life with no hope because they have their instincts and their conscience to grapple with simultaneously - and without a value system and God (something bigger than yourself), you don't have a fighting chance. You can, like Ray J, try all you freaking want to change, but in the end, you are just a flawed human being like everyone else. Until you decide to become an honest man with the determination of getting up every morning and saying "Today I am not going to let my instincts control me and I'm not going to put myself in situations where they DO NOT have a fighting chance," you'll never win the fight. A good man will not melt no matter how hot the water - and to be good is to make that choice to follow what is right and be purposeful about it.