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Till Death Do Us Part (Unless I Kill You First): A Step-by-Step Guide for Resolving Marital Conflict

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This self-help book centers on Dr. Turndoff's twelve-step method to resolve marital conflict before it turns ugly, abusive, and over. The author AKA Dr. Love bases her conflict resolution methodology on research that has led her to conclude, "fighting creates a chemical imbalance in men" that leads to more aggressive and negative behavior. This book provides ways to end or at least reduce the cycle of marital warfare that spirals into divorce, hatred, and often time's leads to physical and mental abuse.

Though the steps seem obvious, it is helpful to see them written in a simple anecdotal manner that most adults can easily follow. The claim of 90% solution using this technique needs proper perspective, as the users will not have Dr. Love to personally guide them. It seems most likely that most relationships spiraling out of control need a third party arbitrator like Dr. Love to help the couple attain consensus rather than conflict. However, this book might prove beneficial to those partnerships not quite down the escalator trying to avoid the ride to marital hell.

Most "professionals" try to make fighting acceptable in relationships and I think that is to justify their own weaknesses. This book makes a good case that fighting is indeed not healthy, but can cause massive destruction in a relationship. I've never met any couple who characterizes their relationships as "blissful" if they are frequent fighters. I admire Michael Webb, author of The RoMANtic's Guide. He is one of the few professionals who say fighting is harmful but he also gives wonderful ways to fill your relationship with love instead.

I just finished devouring this book. Absolutely great stuff. This is the help I needed twenty years ago. Duh! Now I get it! My marriage of 30 years is over BUT maybe this can help me save a one year old relationship that has foundered due to my lack of "conflict resolution" skills. I'm going to re-read this book then do my best to apply what I've learned. (Then I'll read it again).

This self help book is based on the theory that arguments lead to flight-fight behavior in men. Men then become withdrawn and removed. Dr. Turndorf provides suggestions to cool down the "climate" so that they can reapproach each other. This book is packed with humerous anecdotes and case examples. Its a fun read even if you don"t have marital conflict.

i read this book after a break up and wished i would have known about it while i was in the relationship. it taught me so much about how terribly both me and my boyfriend at the time were communicating with each other. and especially how much overanalyzing i was doing. but all my future relationships did benefit from it. it definitely taught me to relax a lot more in relationships. the overanalyzing was killing my relationships.

This book is a must for everyone who wishes to have a harmonious and long-lasting, loving relationship. Dr.Turndorf's book was so simple to read and the steps are very clear. It is a beautifully written book and everyone can benefit from it. Dr.Turndorf understands relationships and her book is the solution to achieve relationship bliss now. A jewel of a book!