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Defending Ourselves: A Guide to Prevention, Self-Defense, and Recovery from Rape Paperback – December, 1994


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 216 pages
  • Publisher: Noonday Pr; 1st edition (December 1994)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0374524157
  • ISBN-13: 978-0374524159
  • Product Dimensions: 0.8 x 5.5 x 8.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 2.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #3,129,383 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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In this levelheaded and compassionate book, the founder of an organization that teaches self-defense to all ages addresses some of the key issues of women's safety. Made up of case histories, personal anecdotes, experts' commentary, and solid advice, the book explores what rape is and isn't; how to identify situations in which sexual assault can occur; how to avoid sexual assault; physical self-defense techniques; what to do during and after a rape; how to report assaults and what to expect from police, hospital staffs, and legal systems; how to cope with rape's aftermath; steps toward recovery; and how to get needed help. Wiseman adopts a nonjudgmental stance toward women who have experienced assault; always, she speaks as an advocate and tries to present as many choices for dealing with assault as possible. Because of those qualities, her book may prove particularly useful to younger women still unsure of their rights and boundaries. It is an excellent resource for all women, however, especially on account of the long list of sexual assault crisis centers throughout the U.S. appended to its main text. Mary Ellen Sullivan

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7 of 8 people found the following review helpful By Laura Binns on October 9, 1999
Format: Paperback
Much information with regards to what to expect after an assault, from emotional reactions to the legal system. I agree wholeheartedly with the author's feelings on the subjects of date rape and the problems caused by extreme feminist views on the subject. However, the section on guns contained many errors which worked to destroy some of the book's credibility (one wonders, if the author is this ill-informed with regards to guns, how accurate is the rest of her information?) Specifically, she states that a revolver has intrinsic safety features, such as the capacity for being stored half cocked, so the firing pin is not in contact with the cartridge (which she mistakenly refers to as a bullet). It is far easier for the firing pin to strike the cartridge when the gun is cocked or half-cocked, than when it is uncocked with the firing pin resting on the cartridge. Many modern double action revolvers cannot be half-cocked. Some single action revolvers can be half-cocked and the mfgs caution users NOT to leave them in a half-cocked position. Half cocked is anything but safe. When she speaks of the distance a bullet can travel (one mile) and the ability to penetrate walls, she does not specify handgun v. rifle, which makes a huge difference. Nor does she discuss the use of defense handgun ammunition which has great stopping power when it hits flesh but does not penetrate walls. Her shotgun discussion is equally off-base and dangerous. She advises loading with buckshot which she states has much stopping power but will not penetrate walls. Yes, buckshot has a lot of stopping power. If she thinks it doesn't penetrate walls, I suggest she load a shotgun with buckshot and fire it at a sheet of drywall, and then rewrite her section on firearms or better yet, omit it altogether and refer her readers to well written, accurate firearm defense books or classes.
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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful By aydelott@epix.net on July 21, 1998
Format: Paperback
As a self defense instructor I am always looking for new sources of information on effective methods. Defending Ourselves teaches methods that I feel are more appropriate in the dojo than on the street. The section on firearms contains many errors and over simplifications. The author should have made an effort to consult an expert on the topic or eliminated the section altogether. The book encourages women to take responsiblity for their own safety and well being. Something I agree with completely.
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0 of 1 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on October 9, 1999
Format: Paperback
Much information with regards to what to expect after an assault, from emotional reactions to the legal system. I agree wholeheartedly with the author's feelings on the subjects of date rape and the problems caused by extreme feminist views on the subject. However, the section on guns contained many errors which worked to destroy some of the book's credibility (one wonders, if the author is this ill-informed with regards to guns, how accurate is the rest of her information?) Specifically, she states that a revolver has intrinsic safety features, such as the capacity for being stored half cocked, so the firing pin is not in contact with the cartridge (which she mistakenly refers to as a bullet). It is far easier for the firing pin to strike the cartridge when the gun is cocked or half-cocked, than when it is uncocked with the firing pin resting on the cartridge. Many modern double action revolvers cannot be half-cocked. Some single action revolvers can be half-cocked and the mfgs caution users NOT to leave them in a half-cocked position. Half cocked is anything but safe. When she speaks of the distance a bullet can travel (one mile) and the ability to penetrate walls, she does not specify handgun v. rifle, which makes a huge difference. Nor does she discuss the use of defense handgun ammunition which has great stopping power when it hits flesh but does not penetrate walls. Her shotgun discussion is equally off-base and dangerous. She advises loading with buckshot which she states has much stopping power but will not penetrate walls. Yes, buckshot has a lot of stopping power. If she thinks it doesn't penetrate walls, I suggest she load a shotgun with buckshot and fire it at a sheet of drywall, and then rewrite her section on firearms or better yet, omit it altogether and refer her readers to well written, accurate firearm defense books or classes.
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More About the Author

Rosalind Wiseman has had only one job since graduating from college--to help communities shift the way we think about children and teens' emotional and physical wellbeing. As a teacher, thought leader, author, and media spokesperson on bullying, ethical leadership, the use of social media, and media literacy, she is in constant dialogue and collaboration with educators, parents, children, and teens.

She is the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World--the groundbreaking, best-selling book that was the basis for the movie Mean Girls. Her latest books, Masterminds & Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World was published in September 2013. In addition, she wrote a free companion e-book for high school boys, entitled The Guide: Managing Douchebags, Recruiting Wingmen, and Attracting Who You Want and a school edition entitled, The Guide: Managing Jerks, Recruiting Wingmen, and Attracting Who You Want

Wiseman's other publications include Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads, that address the social hierarchies and conflicts among parents, and the young adult novel Boys, Girls & Other Hazardous Materials. She is the author of the Owning Up Curriculum, a comprehensive social justice program for grades 6-12. She also writes the monthly "Ask Rosalind" column inFamily Circle magazine, and is a regular contributor to several blogs and websites.

Each year Wiseman works with tens of thousands of students, educators, parents, counselors, coaches, and administrators to create communities based on the belief that each person has a responsibility to treat themselves and others with dignity. She was one of the principal speakers at the White House Summit on Bullying. Other audiences have included the American School Counselors Association, International Chiefs of Police, American Association of School Administrators, and countless schools throughout the US and abroad. She is a consultant for Cartoon Network's Speak Up, Stop Bullying Campaign and an advisor to the US Department of Health and Human Services' Substance Abuse and Mental Health Administration.

National media regularly depends on Wiseman. She is a consultant for Cartoon Network's Speak Up, Stop Bullying Campaign and has been profiled in The New York Times, People, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post, and USA Today. Wiseman is a frequent guest on The Today Show, Anderson Cooper 360, CNN, Good Morning America, Al Jazeera, and NPR affiliates throughout the country. A sought-after speaker, Wiseman's presentations transcend cultural and economic boundaries in her appeal to ensure children's and teenagers' well being. Her engaging and forthright delivery promises to capture audiences and inspire them to build positive relationships among each other.