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Desires in Conflict: Hope for Men Who Struggle with Sexual Identity

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This book was like looking in a mirror for me. In a tough-love sort of personal way, the author speaks to the reader in the first person, and takes away much, if not all, of the confusion experienced by the Christian who is struggling with the spiritually conflicting desire to love people of the same gender in a way which, according to the Bible, God forbids.

The question, "Why am I this way?" was answered from many avenues as the author shared the growing pains experienced by people whom he has counselled over the years. I found that there are many others out there just like me.

There is a reason we struggle with these desires, and it is not because we were born this way. This book delivers a foundation for solid hope of leaving these desires behind, through Christ, and through healthy relationships. That is what the reader can expect from this book, if he is willing to listen.

This book speaks mostly to men, although there is a section dedicated to women as well. And the author is not just a professional counsellor, he himself is a "struggler."

The Body of Christ would do well also, by reading this book. The Church will never effectively deal with homosexuality in our society, until it learns to deal with it effectively within its own self. Many in the family are wounded and confused, because it simply doesn't know how to help us.

Most Sincerely, Dean

This is one of the best books I ever read. It is amazing, what an impact a book can have on people. 'Desires in conflict' helped me so much to understand where I was standing and how I got there. There is a way out of homosexuality! You are not born like that! And this book shows you clearly what you can do to fight it! I think this should be the first book to read if you want more information about homosexuality and how to overcome it.

Homosexuality has no place in the Christian life... I knew this all my life and could not find a way out of it... Being gay has never been ok FOR ME.... there are thousands of men who do not want the gay desires that they have... I would say that very few do... if gay men are honest, they will tell you that they would never chose to be this way, they would never wish this life of grief on anyone... yet just because they do not know the way out, they think there is no way out... and when someone like Joe Dallas says there is a way out... it just causes them more pain because it makes them face the fact that there are answers and it takes work to find them... when I learned to get real with Christ, I no longer had to go around trying to find other people to fulfill my needs...

The guys that have posted comments against this book, they hurt... they have such huge voids in their life... just like I once did.... spending you week looking for a date (sex) on Saturday night gets old... you soon have to fill you life with drugs, sex in public restrooms and city parks... it never ends for them unless they change or some even take their own life.... never knowing peace is a terrible way to live... I have heard the same comments for years... "just accept who you are!"... that would be accepting yourself as a Child of God and following His Heart.... nothing else will ever work and anyone reading this knows the emptiness that the "GAY" life causes... the conflicts are never ending... finding a guy that you can trust and have a long term sexual relationship, it never happens... gay men try to fill their voids with sex... the void is never filled and yet another guys suffers rejection and heads back to the bars seaching for "love" once again!

I have walked out of the gay life, into a life filled with Christ, He is the LOVER OF MY SOUL, the emptiness if filled in my life and I live in peace...

Finding the road map for a journey out of the "Gay Life" is not easy... Joe Dallas does not have all the answers, but I promise if you daily seek Christ and trust that he will provide the road map... it will arrive when you least expect it!

Look around in your little world of DRAMA... where is the end... where is the happiness, the peace.... why spend a life searching for it... when you could be enjoying it!

Blessings to you in your journey, whichever road you chose! ...

Joe Dallas has been through it all and is able to speak not only from a strong Biblical and psychological knowledge base, but also from personal experience. Conversationally written directly to the Christian struggling with homosexuality, this book gives powerful encouragement and practical advice. Especially exceptional is his coverage of all aspects of the religious and psychological processes of growth and change. It's easy to read, but may be emotionally and spiritually challenging. This book is also an excellent resource for parents, family members, and church members who seek to understand how they can help the struggler.

A few of the reviews for this book are very negative and very biased. As a counselor looking for the truth to share with those who would like "a way out" of the homosexual lifestyle, this is a very helpful book. If you don't want to know God's views on the issue and you feel that homosexuality is an OK option, don't read this book. If you feel like there must be something more to life than living the homosexual lifestyle and you want to experience God's love and acceptance, this is the book for you.

I wept heavily and joyfully while reading this book. In it, I learned more about myself than any other modern psychology book I've read. It is written for the Christian struggler, a perspective that was not I found to be helpful and life saving. His advice is difficult but he provides good Scripture based explanations. There are no words to describe my love of this book and my admiration for its brave author. Thank Heaven for Joe Dallas!

For those interested in understanding the underlying dynamics of homosexual attractions, this book will be a necessary part of your library. The author, Joe Dallas, overcame his homosexual attractions and has been a professional counselor, author and speaker for years on this issue. He is well-educated and compassionate in his approach. No one book explains everything on the issue of homosexuality but I recommend his book first to anyone interested because it gives a great overview in discussion of the general issues. A must read!

This book came in very useful. When I read it, not only did I come to a better understanding of the problems of my spouse, but of my own problems and where they stem from. Thanks to this book I am making excellent progress on the road to recovery, which has been full of little miracles. I heartily recommend this book for those who are struggling with Same Sex Attractions.

To the detractors of the ex-gay movement:
How can you ask for tolerance and respect for diversity, and then be completely intolerant of people in the ex-gay movement? Please grant us the tolerance you crusade for.
To those with genuine interest in the ex-gay movement:
This is first book I've read as I've become part of an ex-gay ministry. These first few months as a part of this ministry have been difficult, painful, & wonderful. The difficult and painful part is that I can't hide from this struggle anymore. I've had to take ownership of it. I can't let it be my dirty little secret anymore. The wonderful part is the people I've met who are like me, and this book. This book at times seems to be describing my life. I finally have hope.
Peace and the love of Christ to all of you.

Great book by a man who has changed his life. Don't believe some of the postings here saying that there is no science or valid proof in this book. As we are getting more scientific data, we are seeing that many people are changing and that gender-affirmative therapy is helping people who don't want to be gay. No one should be forced, but those who want to change are finding success.