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Dibs in Search of Self [Turtleback]

Virginia Mae Axline
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March 1990 0606005617 978-0606005616
This title presents the story of one little boy and his journey through childhood life up to his mid-teens, and also an insight into psychotherapy - how it works and what it can mean to people on a practical level.
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As a former teacher-turned-editor, who read DIBS many times before even coming to work here at Ballantine, I feel very connected to this book. The author is a leading authority on play therapy and the treatment of emotionally disturbed children. Dibs is one of these lost children. The story takes us through his long journey from being labeled as "mentally defective," to emerging as a gifted and lovable young man. Whether you're a teacher, a parent, a psychologist, or just someone who loves to actually feel what they're reading, DIBS is for you.

--Laura Paczosa, Editorial Assistant --This text refers to the Mass Market Paperback edition.

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The classic of child therapy. Dibs will not talk. He will not play. He has locked himself in a very special prison. And he is alone. This is the true story of how he learned to reach out for the sunshine, for life . . . how he came to the breathless discovery of himself that brought him back to the world of other children. --This text refers to the Mass Market Paperback edition.

Product Details

  • Turtleback
  • Publisher: Demco Media (March 1990)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0606005617
  • ISBN-13: 978-0606005616
  • Product Dimensions: 7.5 x 4.5 x 1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (109 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #14,143,387 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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52 of 55 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars The Boy Who Would Not Play October 2, 2003
Format:Mass Market Paperback
What could have caused a 5-year-old child with an IQ of 168 to clam up and stop talking, playing or laughing? Virginia Axline, author of 'Play Therapy' finds out as she records the progress of Dibs in this book that has since become a child therapy classic. A review in held forth that Dibs is autistic, but it is clear to me that he is not. Dibs is a child who deliberately withheld speech and affection as a means of self-defense against his cold, unloving, high- achieving and demanding parents and their battery of tests to prove him gifted. He does not suffer a neurological disorder nor is he autistic.
This remarkably moving and honest book gives credit not to the therapist/author for having worked a miracle, rather, it is the child and his inner strength and resolve that are given praise. The amazingly articulate child acts out his anger through his play of dolls. In a poignant part, Dibs reverses the parent-child role and 'makes' a 'mother' doll build a mountain upon the instruction of the 'boy' doll.
"It is too hard to do," said Dibs. "Nobody can build a mountain. But I'll make her do it. She'll have to build the mountain and do it right. There is a right way and wrong way of doing things and you will do it the right way."
After some thought, he decided he would help the 'mother' and not impose such an onerous task on her. He talks of love and caring for his mother and sister. This shows that Dibs, despite his frustration, fear and anger, has great capacity for compassion, empathy and forgiveness. The therapy sessions with his non-judgmental therapist helped Dibs be aware of his feelings and of matters within and without his control.
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94 of 109 people found the following review helpful
2.0 out of 5 stars Axline AND Dibs' mother are both victims... May 18, 2003
Format:Mass Market Paperback
...of an inaccurate perspective. In terms of writing quality and emotional "pull," this book deserves 5 stars. And, like Freud, it is important to read -- in the correct context. Axline was a pioneer of play therapy (for individuals and groups), and I think there is no doubt that it is a fruitful method for interacting with troubled children. In my practice as a psychologist, I have certainly found play therapy to be extremely productive because a) it is the natural "language" of children, and b) it is also one of the most important ways children learn.
So...yes, I believe Dibs (as presented by Axline -- we do have to rely on her description) closely fits the criteria for Asperger's Syndrome, a syndrome on the autistic spectrum where very bright children capable of complex thinking may be quite impaired in basic social, motor and communication skills. And I do believe her therapy with him was very helpful because she provided a model for social interaction, one-on-one (group situations were probably too overwhelming) that allowed him to increase his positive interactions with others (which, in turn, increased their positive response to him).
I sympathize with reviewers who are outraged at the use of "refrigerator mother" theory in the book -- and with the reviewers who experienced the pain of unloving or abusive parents. No, an unloving or uninvolved parent cannot "cause" autism. However, it is also true that no autistic child was ever helped by a lack of love or being locked away from others.
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19 of 19 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars impact of conversation on growth March 4, 2000
Format:Mass Market Paperback
As a practicing oncologist I deal with peoples struggles for their life.This is another story about an individual's struggle to take control of their life.In some other reviews of this book I think the readers missed the basic concept. This is not a book that blames parents for their childrens psychological problems, rather it points out the power of conversations and actions on another human beings emotional well being. Especially the power during early childhood when the individual is developing his or her self concept.It should remind us all that the conversations we have about people including ourselves can alter a life. The pivotal point for Dibbs was acceptance of his self expression by a talented psychologist then himself and finally his parents. In the epilogue the letter Dibbs writes points it out beautifully.I recommend it highly for all those interested in the triumph of the human spirit.
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16 of 19 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Dibs has "unlocked" the door to a happy life October 25, 1999
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In the novel, Dibs: In Search of Self, I found many instances of the word "lock." Through this stirring novel, Dibs is able to "unlock" his emotions and allow himself to be happy. He realizes that he can be angry, sad or happy and that is what makes him Dibs. This was a touching novel, I can understand how some readers may believe that it is cruel to motherhood, but from my viewpoint, Dibs mother did not smother him with love, as so many mothers do. She passed him off as a "chunk of a thing" and believed that with her intellect, she could not have a mentally retarded child. But as we see, Dibs has an IQ of 168. But that's not what is important in a child, or any being, it is the self-worth that Dibs found through his play therapy sessions. He "unlocked" the door and found himself. This was a remarkable novel, and I recommend this book to those who would like to see the strength in a child named Dibs.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
LOVED this book so much and I'm so glad I got to read it!
Published 8 days ago by helen
5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing book
This is an assigned reading for my Play Therapy class. I'm earning a Master's degree in School Counseling. This book is amazing, and I'm glad my professor required this assignment.
Published 11 days ago by Pen Name
5.0 out of 5 stars Brilliant book
I read this book - borrowed from the library - over thirty years ago. It was a book I just had to own for myself which is why I subsequently purchased it. Read more
Published 1 month ago by Marti
5.0 out of 5 stars Interesting and easy to read!
This book was great. It was a quick, easy read. Lots of great info and a great story to read!
Published 1 month ago by Sara Tyulty
5.0 out of 5 stars Iconic study in child therapy.....
This is an iconic study of a child in distress that is brought back by therapy. It is a riveting book - I first read it in college and loved it, then reread it and loved it again!
Published 1 month ago by samantha
5.0 out of 5 stars Awesome book
Read this book decades ago when going to college. My wife is just finishing up her masters in Psychology and hadn't had an opportunity to read it yet. Read more
Published 1 month ago by H. R. Ferguson
5.0 out of 5 stars This shows you how PLAY THERAPY should be!
This book really opened my eyes and demonstrated play therapy. I read it while obtaining training for play therapy, and it is truly an inspiring book. Read more
Published 2 months ago by Elysia Dean
4.0 out of 5 stars autisem
even if you don't know anyone with or have a child with autism we are all in someway searching to find who we really are so this book is a book for every one Ifirst read it as a... Read more
Published 3 months ago by sgmcfarlane
5.0 out of 5 stars Awesome read!
A pivotal book, despite the publication date, about play therapy and one child's experience. Quite interesting to hear the therapist's point of view throughout the experience.
Published 4 months ago by Sheryl Gamble
5.0 out of 5 stars Nice book
It's been a while since I got the item so I don't exactly remember how the shipping was, but the book was very good quality. I liked it a lot. Thank you.
Published 4 months ago by Karen C.
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