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Did My First Mother Love Me?: A Story for an Adopted Child

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This book addresses the needs of adopted children who feel the pain of having lost their birthparents. They may "miss" them--which is really an expression of loss.

Written by an actual birthmother who gave up her child, the book tells adopted children that their birthparents loved them but could not care for them. The book speaks of the sacrifice and love involved in placing a child in another home, in terms that even small children "get."

For parents, the book also includes an article by Jeanne Warren Lindsay, "Talking with your Child about Adoption." It explains key points that parents should make when talking with their adopted children--they were born like everyone else, being adopted is normal and natural and it's forever. And of course, their birthparents did not "abandon" them, but loved them in the best way they could. Alyssa A. Lappen

this book is short and to the point. very touching, without being sappy. i wish there were a boy's version as well, but we can ad-lib with what is here.

This is a very nice idea for a book. I would like to buy something to help my daughter understand that her birth mother made her choice out of love. But the term "first mother" seems confusing. I wish the author had titled it "Did My Birth Mother Love Me?" instead.

I am a birthmother whom order this book for my daughter whom I placed in a open adoption. This book helped me so much plus the author invites you change words to make it more personal for you or the adopted child. Good for birthmothers adopt children.

Special way to show your adopted child that their birth mother cared enough to find a forever family for their bio child. It helps children understand that love can be shown in different ways.

Presents a best-case scenario for adoption; may not be appropriate for all adopted children,

I never read this book nor would I.

I feel it is very confusing for a child..to call the birthmother the first mother..

The mother is the one who raises the child, the birthmother is the one who gave that child life.

I can not stand the saying First Mother...it does nothing but leave room for that child to think that
the adoptive mother is the second mother...

Which she is not.

Trust me when I say, I feel no threat to the birthmother. I just believe that putting a number in there
is nothing but confusing.