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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 272 pages
  • Publisher: It Books (June 24, 2014)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0062326651
  • ISBN-13: 978-0062326652
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.9 x 8.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (395 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #76,514 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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From the Back Cover

Courtney Robertson joined season 16 of The Bachelor looking for love. A working model and newly single, Courtney fit the casting call: She was young, beautiful, and a natural in front of the cameras. Although she may have been there for all the right reasons, as the season unfolded and sparks began to fly something else was clear: She was not there to make friends.

Courtney quickly became one of the biggest villains in Bachelor franchise history. She unapologetically pursued her man, steamrolled her competition, and broke the rules—including partaking in an illicit skinny-dip that sealed her proposal. Now, after a very public breakup with her Bachelor, Ben Flajnik, Courtney opens up and tells her own story—from her first loves to her first moments in the limo. She dishes on life before, during, and after the Bachelor, including Ben’s romantic proposal to her on a Swiss mountaintop and the tabloid frenzy that continued after the cameras stopped rolling.

For the first time ever, a former Bachelor contestant takes us along on her journey to find love and reveals that “happily ever after” isn't always what it seems. Complete with stories, tips, tricks, and advice from your favorite Bachelor alumni, and filled with all the juicy details Courtney fans and foes alike want to know, I Didn’t Come Here to Make Friends is a must-read for every member of Bachelor nation. 

About the Author

COURTNEY ROBERTSONstarred on season 16 of the hit reality TV showThe Bachelor, where she won the heart of winery owner Ben Flajnik. A model and actress, Courtney has has appeared in numerous print, runway, and TV campaigns for clients that include Old Navy, Jessica Simpson, Target, Diet Coke, DirectTV, Jim Beam, Kettle One, Volkswagen, Clairol, and Caeser's Palace. Courtney has also appeared in the pages ofVogue, Self, In Style, andFitnessmagazine. She lives in San Francisco, CA.

DEB BAERis a Los Angeles-based entertainment writer. Her work has appeared inGlamour, Cosmopolitan, Seventeen,andVegas magazines. She was the executive editor forInTouch Weeklyand worked on staff atCosmoGirl!, Seventeen, LifetimeandLadies' Home Journal.

More About the Author

A model and actress, Courtney Robertson has appeared in numerous print, runway, and television campaigns and in the pages of Vogue, Self, InStyle, and Fitness magazines. She lives in Santa Monica, California.

Customer Reviews

Funny, interesting, and very well written.
For sure, she's just a young woman trying to do the best she can with what she has where she happens to be.
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Great book- really gives you an insight into the behind the scenes of the show.

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47 of 54 people found the following review helpful By Niki Tee on July 7, 2014
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Courtney Robertson was the girl we loved to hate. I'm a big fan of the Bachelor/ette franchise as a general rule, but Courtney really brought the kind of pain to the show that hooked us viewers in. I started off this review saying she was demonized, but I think everybody's aware, especially herself, that she was fully aware of her own behaviors and how they affected people.

Anyway, this is not a review on Courtney's personality flaws, but the book she wrote highlighting her life thus far which focuses heavily on her time with Ben Flajnik, The Bachelor's 16th bachelor.

A bit of backstory starts us off, name­dropping as we go (Jesse Metcalfe, Adrian Grenier, Gerard Butler), where Courtney does her very best to set herself up as an awkward underdog whose ugly duckling difficulties in her teens and early 20s are intended to endear us to her. She stumbled into modeling completely unaware of her beauty as if she felt undeserving of the attention.

I suppose that angle may work for some readers, but ... hee. Not me.

In reality, and per the Bachelor show we all participated in as voyeurs, Courtney is exactly as she presented. I wish, as a reader and a viewer, she'd just embrace her inner bitch because it is what it is and it was what it was. She was catty and sassy as often as possible on the show, and attempting to play it off as "stand-up comedian gone bad" is just kind of pathetic.

None of what's written above, however, gives a pass to how Ben Flajnik treated Courtney post-Bachelor unreality.
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27 of 30 people found the following review helpful By Mikemac09 on July 8, 2014
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This is a revealing look both at what goes on behind the scenes in making The Bachelor and, whether intentional or not, at the raunchy lifestyle and persona of this Hollywood-model turned author. The biggest takeaway is that producers, through selective editing, can amplify conflict and create viewer tension by depicting Bachelor/Bachelorette contestants as either Mother Teresa's or budding Ted Bundy's. By the end we can't be sure whether Season 16's Bachelor winner, Courtney Robertson, was a mean-girl villain or a somewhat willing victim. There's plenty of salacious dirt to go around.

The book is peppered with locker-room language and lewd details such as the number of men 30-year old Courtney has had sex with (not that many according to her and primly rounded off. She also has a rule against going all the way on first dates with men she might be interested in getting serious with later on.) She describes her favorite positions for intimacy either alone or with a partner, complete with the Cosmo-inspired name for one of them. Robertson identifies the guy who bestowed "the best sex I've ever had", an alum of the show. And of course the number of times she and Ben did it on their overnight in the Fantasy Suite. Courtney gives us the names of other Bachelors and Bachelorettes who were intimate in their Fantasy Suite interludes, which commonly involve separate sex with all three of that season's finalists, two of whom are soon to suffer the humiliation of being publicly dumped by someone they've fallen for on national TV.

Robertson maintained a detailed journal during the wearisome downtime between exhilarating dates that some of the girls went on with Bachelor Ben Flajnik.
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41 of 57 people found the following review helpful By Irene on June 24, 2014
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If you are an avid Bachelor fan, you may know Courtney Robertson from season 16. Remember her? She was easy to cast as that season's villain: she went topless in Panama, skinny-dipped with Bachelor Ben Flajnik after his date with another girl, and sabotaged alone time between him and the other contestants. To top it all off, she stole his heart, and the two became engaged at the season finale.

Single now, Robertson is ready to spill everything. Reading her take on things was like eating candy. Nothing nutritional but you have to keep going. Ultimately a more emotional book than you would expect, this addictive memoir recaps Robertson's experiences with men in the past, her experiences on the show, and her life since then.

In the meantime, die-hard Bachelor fans will appreciate the behind-the-scenes details Robertson spills about the show. How to make your application stand out? (Send bikini pics and a sob story.) Did she and Ben Faljnik really have sex in the ocean? (Yes for 20 seconds, and then she got bitten by insects all over.) If you can't already guess, there's some explicit stuff inside, but we all need a guilty pleasure.
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6 of 7 people found the following review helpful By Holly on July 4, 2014
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I wish there was more logistics about the show, but appreciated her honesty and frankness. Its a great guilty pleasure read
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22 of 31 people found the following review helpful By Addicted2Books on June 26, 2014
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As a watcher of "The Bachelor", I was interested in reading Courtney's book. We all know that "editing" can make someone look better or worse, then they actually are. In this case, in my opinion, they got Courtney dead on.
She had the chance to redeem herself in this book but instead she continued unnecessary and un provoked attacks against ANY and EVERY one. If you remember her "snide" comments on the show, then know, they didn't stop there. She continues them in this book.

I agree with what another contestant said that, " she has a personality disorder". Courtney clearly shows histrionic and narcissistic traits

She is a woman who brags about all the men who want her, not realizing that the cheapest prices always attract the most customers.
She did share some interesting backstage secrets of The Bachelor but I found most of the book to be a continuation of her attacks against others

She tells what a controlling biotch her mother was then later puts Ben's mother down and says " my mother would never say that". Obviously, she forgot what she wrote in her earlier chapters about her mother, ( the battle ax. seriously look at her face)
It's not a surprise she had difficulty getting modeling jobs after the fiasco on The Bachelor. who would want a manipulative, conniving scam artist to represent their brand.

I was appalled at some of the things she told about in her book. How ashamed I would be, if she were my daughter......A lady does not kiss and tell... But then Courtney is no lady...
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