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Difficult Personalities: It's Not You; It's Them [Kindle Edition]

William O'Donohue
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Book Description

Some people are very, very tough to deal with and can make you miserable. This is a sad fact of life. This book will help you identify, understand and develop strategies to deal with toxic personalities that you encounter. Written by a prominent clinical psychologist and university professor it explains DSM diagnostic categories such as Anti-social Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder and others so that you can make a better determination of whether you are dealing with one of these kinds of indivduals, what science and clinical experience says about these, and most importantly how to deal more effectively with these. This information can help you move from being poisoned by these individuals to regaining control of your life.

Product Details

  • File Size: 1166 KB
  • Print Length: 215 pages
  • Simultaneous Device Usage: Unlimited
  • Publisher: Lucky Bat Books (June 9, 2011)
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B0055DYWWE
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Lending: Enabled
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #207,887 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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38 of 45 people found the following review helpful
2.0 out of 5 stars Book review October 19, 2011
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I'm not quite through reading this kindle book, and typically do not write reviews - but this annoyed me so much so, that I had to write. There are SO MANY errors in grammar, that it's very disappointing. I find errors on every single page (no joke!). Please, whoever is editing the digital version - could this be corrected...?? Please?

If the errors are corrected, I would be happy to retract this review if possible.
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14 of 15 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Sloppy execution mars otherwise useful book December 6, 2011
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This book is clear and to the point. It does what it says it will do - describes various personality disorders and offers tips for dealing with people suffering from them.
However, it reads like a first draft. It is full of sentences like this one: "Borderlines are most much likely to sue their psychotherapists than any other diagnostic category."
Each chapter is on a different personality disorder, and follows the same format. This makes it easy to follow, but it has also led the author into the temptation of cutting and pasting identical or near identical sentences into two or more locations.
The chapters also get shorter as the book progresses. Early chapters have many examples and quite a lot of detail, but the later chapters are very brief and shorn of examples. Perhaps this is because there is less to be said about Paranoid and Schizoid Personality Disorders, but the generally rushed feel of the book also leads the reader to suspect the author just ran out of time or interest as the book progressed.
In short, this book is a useful starter guide to personality disorders. It is cheaper than other books on the subject, and this goes some considerable way towards making its many flaws easier to accept. You may as well buy this to begin with, and then get a more expensive (and presumably better executed) volume later if you feel you need more information.
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34 of 41 people found the following review helpful
1.0 out of 5 stars A little OCD can be helpful November 5, 2011
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In order to review this book, I find it only fair to split my review into two sections - content and presentation.

The content isn't bad, but it isn't remarkable either. If you're looking for a good overview of various personality disorders in layman's terms, you could do far worse than this little volume. I do like the fact that the author presents the information as defensive strategies you, a presumed normal person, might take when confronted with a difficult personality.

As to presentation, this book is abysmal. The grammar issues, dropped words, and poorly structured sentences become, at times, comically distracting. My friends and I spent time reading some of the more choice examples aloud, and much hilarity ensued. Just as bad, I get the sense the author really wanted magazine-style sidebars, which just aren't possible in the Kindle format. The result is that the main flow of discussion is frequently broken up by mini-topics inserted into the main text. Ugh.

Bottom line, the book shows a shocking lack of professionalism or pride in one's work. It made it a little difficult for me to take seriously, and I feel just a bit ripped off. Would it have been too difficult for the author to pass the work off to a friend from some basic proof reading?
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13 of 16 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Extremely practical and helpful December 5, 2011
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I have been doing a lot of reading on personality disorders lately due to having regular professional contact with a couple of people I found inexplicably impossible to deal with. This book has been extremely helpful in identifying such people and communicating with them more effectively. I love the subtitle, because these people can be "crazy-making" if you don't recognize what is happening.

On the issue of the typographical errors as noted by several other reviewers, there are quite a lot, which will hopefully be corrected in the next addition, but I still think the book is fantastic for a lay person looking for practical solutions for dealing with impossible people, so I would not let the comments about typos stop me from reading it.
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15 of 19 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book for Sure September 25, 2011
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I read this book twice and LOVED it. As a former judge and a practicing trial lawyer, I found this book invaluable and uniquely insightful. Dr. O'Donohue's ability is remarkable in distilling complex psychological concepts and translating the same into hands-on, useful tools for dealing with difficult personalities. Every professional or any other person who works in a corporate environment should read this book. After reading this book, I am much more able to deal with the myriad of peculiar personalities in the legal profession. Thank you, Dr. O'Donohue for this great work.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent resource December 21, 2013
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This book is excellent! I've read others on the subject of character disorders, and never have I come across one that makes things so clear. The author also tells you how you should respond to these people. That's very helpful. I dropped a whole boatload of guilt when I read this book. I heartily recommend it.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars A Map To Figuring Out People Who Can Hurt You March 28, 2014
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This is just the book I had been looking for to help me recognize and understand difficult personalities. Not everyone is capable of working through their issues, I have learned, because of how they have been "programmed" from their life experiences.

I would rather learn how to see through to the core of someone's personality than invest significant time and emotions in that person only to find they are not capable of being a person I want to be around for the long term. While everyone has "baggage" of the emotional kind, there are earmarks to "reading" people and until I read this book, I tended to blame myself for the other person's inconsistent behavior, or ignore bad behavior because I thought I understood the person's background to be able to look past certain things. I have learned, by reading this book, that there are personalities that are to be avoided at all costs because they can and will hurt you in a hundred different ways if you allow them into your life. Being a People Pleaser, I thought I had to suffer all kinds of abuse, to be the "bigger" person! If you are dealing with an average person, that can work, but when you are dealing with a severe situation and don't recognize what is really going on, you can be hurt and badly before you know what hits you. I think this book is a must read for anyone who has not fully understood why a particularly troublesome person is in their life and whether or not to keep them in your life. I think this book is very helpful and it is a good read. For any women who have had a friend mistreat them time and time again, this book can help you make an important decision.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Difficult Personalities offers great insight into many behaviors in...
Difficult Personalities offers great insight into many behaviors in social interaction and breaks down different relationships from a psychological viewpoint. Read more
Published 20 days ago by Mark Friedlander
5.0 out of 5 stars Enjoyable and Useful
I enjoyed reading this book. It makes you aware that in relationships that sometimes it really isn't you, it’s them. Read more
Published 21 days ago by Aja McDonagh
4.0 out of 5 stars I loved the book
I loved the book. It was very helpful and educational. I recommend everyone that has a personality disorder, or knows someone who does to read this book. Dr. Read more
Published 24 days ago by marcella olivares
4.0 out of 5 stars Take it or leave it, he's still getting paid
This is a concise collection of abnormal personalities along with his interpretation of how to deal with him. Read more
Published 2 months ago by Devon Miller
5.0 out of 5 stars Vindicated!
I tend to "look in the mirror" when I am challenged by someone's personality to see my part in the problem. Read more
Published 2 months ago by Paula K Alexander
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Very good book. Excellent read
Published 5 months ago by bluemama82
5.0 out of 5 stars Top notch book on behavioral problems and how to handle them!
Superlatively written; has some typos which don't negate the quality of the information.
Published 5 months ago by Deidre Smith
1.0 out of 5 stars Peurile
I found this book to be marked by oversimplifications, generalizations, and inaccuracy. In many instances, it is clear that the author does not understand the research material he... Read more
Published 5 months ago by Macie L. Staples
5.0 out of 5 stars Practical handbook.
Well written and easy to understand. Gives a clue how the many difficult people one encounters day by day
come to their interaction and how one needs to avoid.
Published 6 months ago by Ralph Koch
4.0 out of 5 stars The general opinion seems to be that they'll never get better so deal...
This book gives a detailed description of the different personality disorders, but not much advice about "how to deal with those people" other than what to expect from them... Read more
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