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How Should You Handle Awkward Moments?, July 10, 2001
This review is from: Dilemmas: What Would you Do? (Hardcover)
If you like to think about challenging moments, this book will give you lots to think about. Although the book asks you what you would do, probably greater value will come from asking how you can gracefully deal with these situations. If you are like me, you will be left speechless by some of these circumstances. By discussing them with friends and family, you can probably find inventive, comfortable ways to respond that will make life more delightful.
What most of the situations have in common is that you are hit with something unexpected and for which you have limited successful experience. Here are some examples:
"You suspect that your neighbors physically abuse their children."
"On the eve of your wedding day, your husband's best man dies."
"You see someone shoplifting in a small local shop."
"A drunk driver pulls into your gas station and slurs, 'Fill her up!'"
"Your son decides to marry someone you can't stand to be in the same room with."
Clearly, some action is required in each situation. Taking the wrong action, however, can make the situation worse. What should a caring person do?
The dilemmas involve situations with lottery tickets purchased for others, getting negative information about fiancees, splitting checks in restaurants, borrowing money and goods, breaking things, new information about family and friends, sexual dysfunctions, annoying habits, being cheated, finding money, offensive acts or remarks by others, intimacy, knowing dangerous secrets, sperm donors, lying, putting a price on ethics, being HIV positive, being asked for false alibis, religious conficts, and affairs.
A book like this cannot do everything, but one nice feature is that many issues are tested by degrees. You find out if you feel differently about a situation based on how well you know the people, for example.
Another way you can use this book is to pull it out from time to time to see how your answers change. If you have written down your responses the first time, that will make it easier.
When you have finished your first reading and consideration of the book, I suggest that you outline other dilemmas and awkward situations that you find even more difficult than the ones in the book. Then, pursue those issues as well with people you respect and care about. If you have a spiritual or religious advisor, you may enjoy understanding what the teachings are from those perspectives, as well.
Be prepared . . . to be compassionate, considerate, and responsive in the most humane traditions . . . by thinking and talking things through in advance!
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Excellent Material!, March 13, 2002
This review is from: Dilemmas: What Would you Do? (Hardcover)
I must admit, I have read several of these "What would you do?" books, by far..this is the BEST.
Literally, I have had friends over and it supplied hours of in depth coversations, jokes and teases. Individually, it's also a great piece to read and ponder how you would react in these situations. This book really lets you step out of your normal everyday life and throws you in a category that can and will completely throw you off guard.
I definately recommend this book to anyone who is curious to buying it. It is well worth the money.
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Totally original, October 16, 2001
This review is from: Dilemmas: What Would you Do? (Hardcover)
This book is the coolest! I figured there'd be a few situations that would stump me, but the more I read, the more surprised I was, and not just me, my friends too. Some of the examples are easier to solve than others, but there were many that no matter who I asked, there'd be a different answer. And a few had us howling with laughter. This is a fantastic book to take to parties or nail your family with... make them try to 'solve' these wild dilemmas, because although each and every one could happen to you in real life, it's MUCH more fun to think about them in the imagination!
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