Dirty Little Secrets: Why buyers can't buy and sellers can't sell and what you can do about it [Paperback]

Sharon Drew Morgen (Author)

Book Description

Release date: October 15, 2009

Sellers often don’t close all of the sales they deserve to close. Why? The sales model itself fails to address the off-line issues buyers must manage before making a buying decision. Dirty Little Secrets takes the reader behind the scenes to understand how buyers buy, and offers tools to help them. Dirty Little Secrets exposes the problems with sales that have resulted in over 90% failure rates, and offers front-end decision facilitation tools to mitigate the failures. Until now, sales books have focused on helping buyers through the solution-placement end of the buying decision. No other book takes the seller through the behind-the-scenes issues that buyers must address before they get buy-in for a solution. This is not a sales book, but a sophisticated examination of systems, change, and decision making to help sellers close more, find more prospects, and greatly minimize the sales cycle. This book is essential for any serious student of sales. Do you want to sell? Or have someone buy?

Editorial Reviews

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Dirty Little Secrets

 

“This book is a dead-on analysis of how buying decisions get made. The examples are wonderful and I also love the personal style. The whole thing screams experience, wisdom, class, success, and authenticity.

—Anne Miller, author of Metaphorically Selling

 

“This book will disturb the industry; it pulls back the veil and we’ll never be able to go back to the old way of just selling. From now on, anyone who talks about sales has to mention this book—it’s too big to push under the rug. The book is necessary for any serious sales professional.”

—Jeff Blackwell, SalesPractice.com

 

“Dirty Little Secrets” takes us inside our buyer’s decision-making process where we discover the factors they need to address prior to making a decision – most of them having nothing to do with our solution.

- Jill Konrath, author of Selling to Big Companies

 

“This great book gives you powerful insight and practical steps to helping buyers have an easy time buying. It will alter everything you know about selling!”

—Chip R. Bell, author of Take Their Breath Away

 

Dirty Little Secrets is not a sales book. This is a book on the Hows of truly serving a customer.”

—Lee Glickstein, author of Be Heard Now

 

 “Morgen’s Buying Facilitation Method® is light years ahead of the field.”

—Phil Kotler, author of Marketing Management

From the Author

What is stopping you from closing all of the sales you should be closing? Hint: it’s not you, it’s not the buyer, and it’s not your solution. It’s the sales model itself.

 

In this groundbreaking book, Morgen brings us behind-the-scenes as buyers navigate through their off-line decisions to get the necessary buy-in to purchase a new solution. As Morgen methodically explains, sales merely manages the needs-analysis and solution-placement end of the buying decision without addressing the change management issues buyers must go through: relationship issues, old vendor issues, policy issues, internal politics. Dirty Little Secrets introduces new skills to help the reader become the GPS system to the buyer’s decision route, separating the sales process from the buying decision process, and speeding the sales cycle dramatically. This is both a change management book, an expose of sales, and a how-to book on decision facilitation. As with Morgen’s other books, this book is well-written, well-conceived, and an important addition to the field.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 272 pages
• Publisher: Morgen Publishing (October 15, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0964355396
• ISBN-13: 978-0964355392
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 0.6 x 6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (24 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #726,086 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

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Sharon Drew Morgen is the visionary and thought leader behind Buying Facilitation® the new sales paradigm that focuses on helping buyers manage their buying decision. She is the author of the NYTimes Business Bestseller "Selling with Integrity" as well as 5 other books and hundreds of articles that explain different aspects of the decision facilitation model that teaches buyers how to buy.

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

20 of 22 people found the following review helpful

1.0 out of 5 stars A sales job - not instructive August 9, 2010

By leevashni

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It's too bad that books are written these days to sell people and companies rather than instruct.
This book fits in this category.
Here is what it's all about: Sellers don't recognize that for buyers to buy, a change must happen within the buying organization. That's all.
Sharon Drew takes up over 200 pages to repeat herself, over and over again, but offers no way to actually do what she is selling. Clearly, she wants you to spend money on her, nothing more, nothing less.
Equally important is that we've known for some time now that to unseat a competitor or to win a competitive battle - the norm today - buying organizations must make a change. Sharon Drew tell you that you will never know how to make the change but also tells you that you must be the catlyst - a big contradiction.
The one insight that might help you is the idea that as a seller you are "installing a business solution not selling a product" but again, nothing instructive about how to do that - no system, no methodology, nothing about the how to of it all. You'll have to, and you can, do it yourself if you have been selling.
It's really too bad that publishers publish such poor stuff.

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars The Sale Behind the Sale December 8, 2009

By Steve R

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Sharon Drew Morgen's book is a big step into a universe few salespeople ever knew existed ... the sale behind the sale ... what customers really do when they say, "We'll think it over and get back to you." If you've never heard that, then you (a) aren't actually a salesperson, or (b) you don't need this book. Sharon goes into great depth about the Internal Sale ... what goes on internally in an organization when Your Customer wants what you're offering, but must sell it internally in order to get a go-ahead. It's most revealing and talk extensively about the REAL process that goes on behind the scenes -- (1) "can we stretch our existing system a little further to cover the LATEST problem? (2) OK ... we can't ... what is our CURRENT vendor offering? (3) how do we present it to management ... the LAST time they weren't too happy with our request; how do we make it seem that the previous solution was 100% good, but (something we did or didn't anticipate) has overwhelmed it? It's a critical and informative analysis of why current sales methodology (SPIN, Solution Selling, etc.) still aren't cutting it, esp. in today's economic decline, and how to step into this critical but otherwise unseen world where sales live or die beyond our vision and our ability to influence.

In conventional sales process terminology ... it is a (very) elaborate Qualification process that examines ... via a creative dialogue with the customer/prospect ... just what the likelihood of getting a sale will be given existing solutions, internal politics, ability of the customer to field your product/solution ... even IF they buy it. It's very good reading ... esp. the second time.

However, Sharon's book has a significant shortcoming ... she fails to spend any significant time discussing ...... how to raise customers/prospects interest at the onset. Her approach is essentially to construct an open, probing dialogue (dialogue goes beyond mere conversation) and use questioning techniques to unveil internal buying and political processes in order to influence them. But, her approach starts ... in the middle. There's no discussion of HOW you get to that initial point of raising the customer's/prospect's interest in your product or service ... so you can have that dialogue. She decries the conventional product-push/value prop approach saying that it marks the salesperson as aggressive and presumptuous and/or arrogant ("how would you know anything about our real needs", she would paraphrase the typical customer/prospect's reaction to the typical sales presentation). But she doesn't give us any guidance on how to get the sale started.

I value her book/concept (Facilitated Buying - her copyright) as the back-end, the real sales-engine, once the customer expresses interest in the product or service.

Steve R. Read more ›

7 of 7 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars She's so right! Important new contribution to the art of B2B sales September 4, 2011

By Astrid_Dom

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This author adds an important new dimension to the field of complex B2B sales!

To explain you what I mean, here is a short history of sales theories:

* Around 1990, authors like Neil Rackham helped us move from product-centered HARD-SELLING to PAIN-BASED SELLING, i.e. they learned us to search for and grow customer' problems, open the customers' eyes on a solution, etc. In other words, they learned us about 'consultative' B2B selling.

* Around 2005 authors like Marc Miller and Jill Konrath, add GAIN-BASED SELLING, i.e. they learned us to not only focus on pains, but to also discuss customers' strategic objectives, to always have a strong and relevant value proposition at hand, etc.

* In 2009 Mrs Morgen adds 'change management' (what she calls 'buying facilitation') and she is so right:
Pains and gains alone don't make compelling reasons to buy! Even if the customer is well aware of a problem and all its negative consequences, and even if he understands the vision of the presented solution and bought into it, then still:

-For every problem, there is a workaround
-The system (and every customer operates within a system) holds itself in place, prefers the ''status quo.
-NOTHING happens, until every component in the system understands what needs to be done to bring the whole system to a new, higher level (which also needs to be level of 'rest')

Hence, what is needed is: change management, with a focus on the buying (and buy-in) process.

In practice this means asking new types of questions, next to (and even before) the traditional problems exploring facts, problems, objectives, implications and solutions....

Why I gave this book 4 stars in stead of 5: For me, the book is at times too repetitive and I would have preferred it to be more to the point and with many more good, concrete examples.

I'm in B2B sales since 2005, and I like to read sales books and blogs. If you are the type who plans to read only one or 2 sales books in your life, don't choose this one. But if you are a professional B2B sales person, who constantly wants to improve his/herself and is hungry for the very best advice, read it, next to reading some of the classics.

I highly recommend:
- Tom Hopkins for all basic sales stuff (more targeted towards B2C sales though)
- Paul Cherry's "Questions that sell" to get a really good feeling about how exactly to formulate your questions.
- Neil Rackham's "SPIN selling" for learning the basics in B2B sales questioning techniques
- Jill Konrath's "Selling To Big companies" for golden practical advice on how to address new prospects.
- Marc Miller's "Selling Is Dead" for learning to adress gains not just pains, and for learning how to make a stunning Value Based Proposal. This book is a must-read if you sell a B2B product that is really innovative and new.
- And this one for learning to think in terms of systems and change management. Read more ›

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful

1.0 out of 5 stars On and On with no substance March 11, 2011

By Nannette Dimascio

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I certainly had high hopes for what I assumed would be the content of this book. I assumed that I would find actual buying facilitation questions and methods. It is empty of substance and high on creating a desire to buy her systems.

7 of 8 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Here's Why You're Closing Ratio Isn't What It Should Be October 16, 2009

By Paul Mccord, Author, Creating a Million Dollar a Year Sales Income: Sales Success through Client Referrals VINE™ VOICE

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Change is difficult for most of us and especially difficult for an organization full of individuals. Some of us resist, others encourage, others sabotage. If we want our organization to get change right, we've got to involve everyone who will be affected by the change and allow them to prepare themselves, their departments, and the organization's systems to handle the change in an orderly manner--or everything turns to chaos, and if chaos is an anticipated result, we simply won't institute the change no matter how potentially beneficial that change may be.

Buying creates change.

Whether purchasing a new product, replacing an existing vendor, or instituting a new program or service, when your prospects contemplate purchasing your products or services, they and their organizations are going to undergo significant change. Often that change never happens (that is, you don't make a sale), not because your product or service doesn't solve a real issue they have or because it won't improve their sales or because it won't improve productivity or reduce expenses. In fact, a great deal of the time purchases of products and services that have these very positive results are not made because the company can't handle the change--yep, even extremely positive change--the product or service will create.

What does this mean for sellers? It means the way we sell is all wrong--or at least the way we deal with the concept of selling is all wrong.

Sharon Drew Morgen in Dirty Little Secrets: why buyer's can't buy and sellers can't sell and what you can do about it (Morgen Publishing: 2009) changes the whole concept of the sales process.... We sellers have been taught that we find a suspect, qualify them as a prospect, connect with them, identify a problem or issue, develop a solution, close the sale. Morgen says that this vision of selling is all wrong because it doesn't take into consideration the change management issues that must be dealt with before our prospects can commit to making the purchase.

According to Morgen, when our prospects disappear--when they say "I'll get back to you" and never do, where they've gone is to deal with all of the behind the scenes issues they must deal with prior to making the commitment to purchase. Why do most of them never get back to you? Morgen says because they have not been able to get the people or the systems within the company in alignment to make the purchase. Worse, all of this change management stuff is stuff that we as sellers have little knowledge or understanding of.

If all of this change management must take place before we can consummate a sale and it's all out of our hands, is there anything we can do to either speed up the process or help the organization manage the change?

Yes, Morgen says, we can help facilitate the change by engaging the company--our buyer--with the Buying Facilitation method. This method, whose primary tool is Facilitative Questions, helps get all the necessary players within the company on board and leads them through thinking through the changes necessary to make the purchase possible.

Sound mysterious? This isn't rocket science but it's a far cry from light reading. Fortunately, Morgen makes it easier to understand by dividing the book into three sections.

The first section lays out the change management issue from the buyer's perspective. She gives us insight into the changes a purchase necessitates--from its impact on individuals to company politics to systems. She gives a great example of what a buyer must go through when making a simple purchase of a couple of extra dining room chairs (I'll leave it to you find out on your own by reading the book why it's so difficult to sell a couple of chairs).

Section two goes through the process from the seller's point of view, demonstrating where our traditional sales process has left us and our prospects high and dry.

And the third section details the Buying Facilitation method skills. Buying Facilitation is about change management, not selling. It is the precursor to selling, not a replacement for it. It involves its own set of skills that don't replace your selling skills but instead allow eventually using those selling skills more effectively and closing more sales.

If you really want to begin to understand why your closing ratio is so low, if you really want to know why those prospects never get back to you, if you really want to know what your selling process is missing, read Dirty Little Secrets. Read more ›