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Like most men, I was clueless about how I was negatively affecting my wife through our 18 years of marriage. That is, until my wife literally crumbled in front of me and asked for a separation! A friend suggested I read this book, and it has revolutionized my thinking about a whole lot of things.
First, Ken Nair explains in clear and compassionate (non-confrontational) terms how it is our responsibility as Christian men to care and nuture our wifes as God intended--and demonstrated to us through Jesus Christ in His own relationship with the Church.
Second, Ken goes on to illustrate examples from his counceling background and it provides real hope for us men that God can work us through these difficult times if we stop, listen, and obey the Biblical underpinning of his book.
Finally, I have never found a book so easy to read, so personally challenging, so interactive, and so encouraging. I am re-reading the book to let it soak in some more! I know that if you struggle with intimacy issues (and I do not mean sexual intimacy) you must read this book and examine yourself before God. Ken leads the way, and his example in this book is so clear that it can guide any man into a postive, nuturing, and more fulfilling relationship with his wife.
I can't say I'm out of the woods yet, and I can only pray that God will continue to bring healing and restoration to my relationship with my wife (and I would covet your prayers on this), but I can't imagine where I would be right now if it had not been for this book. Very, very highly recommended.

Whether you are thinking about getting married, currently happily married or going through marital hardship, you must read this book. I have read many a Christian marriage book in my day, but came away disappointed in the pop psychology cloaked in Biblical teaching that fills so much of the Christian bookstore shelves. Frankly, I had become highly cynical of the pat answers and spiritualized Christianese that I have endured far too many times. And along came this book during what is a very trying time in my own marital relationship. It is challenging me to the core to be a real man that acts the way Christ would to my wife.

This book will strike at the core of who you need to be in your marriage. It may tick you off because inside, you will know that what Nair is saying is right, but you have not been Christlike to your wife in various ways. Believe me, if you live by its advice (which is purely Biblical without being trite), your marriage will only benefit. You will have to gulp down your pride to learn what it is like to be a real husband, despite what our messed up culture is shouting at you daily.

If you want to do your wife and yourself a great favor, you will buy this book now. Don't think about it, don't waffle over it, just do it. You will be glad you did.

Buy this book, read it, and HEED it! It will not be an easy read. Ken Nair warns the male reader that he will be tempted to throw it in the trash, and challenges him to allow his WIFE to read and mark what rings a bell for her. If you are a Christian husband, the Bible commands you to live with your wife in an understanding manner (1 Pet 3:7)

Ken Nair can HELP you understand because he has a TRULY remarkable understanding of the mind of a woman. There are several examples in the book (taken from his counseling ministry) where he accurately predicts a wife's thought process before even meeting her, MUCH to the husband's shock.

Here are some quotes from the book:
"The biblical teaching that the wife is part of God's accountability structure to help us become Christlike is astonishingly threatening to men everywhere, especially to men in spiritual leadership roles...
I am constantly astonished thea men in spiritual leadership roles never seem to have read Philippians 2:3-4 in the context of their responsibilities in the home...
Contrary to popular notions, most wives do not want to occupy the throne in their marriages. A wife wants her husband to be her spiritual leader, but she is designed by God to feel secure only when she sees that her husband is not the final authority in their marriage, that he is looking to God for direction and guidance. Only then can she be confident that her relationship with her husband will be based on scriptural piniciples and not on her husband's personal preferences which she recognizes can be prejudiced or selfishly morivated. Rather than argue with her when a husband discovers that his wife truly feels that he is prejudiced or selfish, he should be willing to learn what he can do to change in order to restore her confidence in him.
From God's perspective, becoming Christlike is more important to a man that developing a home government in which the husband is established as king. And more important than being the boss is having the character traits of mercy and justice....
The Christian community seems to have wandered so far away from the idea that Christians must be like Christ that it's as if this is a new calling"

"I'm sure you have heard many preachers and Sunday school teachers say that we as Christians ought to be Christlike. But I didn't find anyone in my experience as a Christian who was teaching or demonstrating how to rigorously apply Christlikeness to the husband's role in the marriage relationship or to the father's relationship with his children."

"If we do not accept the responsibility for providing Christlike spiritual leadership, we will also be incapable of receiving the messages God is trying to convey to us through our wives. Not living with our wives in an understanding manner carries two consequences: we do not receive God's messages for our spiritual growth, and we make it difficult , if not impossible, for God to regard our prayers (1 Pet. 3:7)"

"Sure, go ahead and insist that your wife understand you. But it would be more Christlike if you said to youself, 'I'm going to demand that I settle for nothing less than completely understanding my wife, even if it seems one-sided. I'm going to insist that she help me see my poor attitudes and emotional weaknesses.' That selflessness on your part will not remain one-sided. Your wife will be drawn to you with deep deep love for you"

I ask you, isn't that result WORTH a little discomfort???

I have never read another book so stunning and eye-opening. It took me several copies of this book to get all the way through it; I kept getting angry and fighting it. But when its contents finally got through to me, it changed my life. I did not know that a couple could be as happy as my wife and I are now. We are in our twenty-seventh year of marriage, but happier than ever thought we could be! THANK YOU KEN NAIR!

This book challenges Christian men to stop blaming their wives for problems in the marriage relationship. Author Ken Nair shares on how his own marriage was affected when he made up his mind to begin treating his wife as Christ treats the Church. The ensuing death to his flesh brought about a better marriage than either he or his wife would ever have dreamed possible. He shares key principles on how to follow in Jesus' footsteps, and gives real-life examples to illustrate his points. If you are a married man who has been told that "Nobody understands a woman's mind, not even women," then this book will destroy your illusions and force you to face your responsibility to understand your wife's mind. The benefits of doing so will be well worth the effort.

This is the most powerful, challenging, and painful book on Christian marriage I have ever read. It's Bible-based and laced with true (and often gut-wrenching) stories of couples that had once thrown in the towel who were able to put it all back together.

Who would have thought such a basic concept, "Love your wife as Christ loved the Church," could have been so misapplied and so ignored for so long - and in so many marriages!

Men should only choose this title if they are courageously interested in putting away their own desires and becoming what God - and their wives - have been asking for. It hurts, and for all the right reasons! Ouch!

This book truly was an answer to prayer. After praying for the Lord to search my heart and remove anything that wasn't of Him... He lead me to this book. Mr. Nair is exactly right on all accounts in his biblical views of the husband/wife relationship and it's role in helping a man become more Christlike.
If you are serious about becoming the man God wants you to be... and reaping the benefits in all areas of your life then study this book. If you are looking for an easy way out or a book that will take you off the hook and place all the blame on your wife then don't bother to buy this book.
WARNING: Men will have to check their pride at the door.

I am not married, nor do I have a girlfriend, rather, I read the book as a part of my preparation for the future lifemate. The book changed my mind on many things and tremedously helped me already.

I saw a friend of mine reading that book. I made fun of him: "Nobody can understand a woman!" I am sure you have made or heard such comments. A year later I came crawling on my knees and asked him for that book (after the Holy Spirit put a burden on my heart).

I recommend it not only to men, but to women also. As I talked to my sister about some of the material I read, it was a revelation to her that men did not know some of the obvious (to women)things about the women.

If you can, give a copy to your pastor.

This is a tremendous book and I would go so far as to say that the Lord really speaks through Ken. He dives into what marriage is really about and how absolutely vital women are to men within that bond. Ken also brings to reality who the real enemy is within our marriages... and big surprise, it's not our wives!

This book is both a tremendous blessing and a hard teaching. It confronts you head-on and makes you reconsider what relationships and marriage are about. It's an easy read(difficulty-wise), but it may very well blow you away and make you angry. It will show you personally that you--in and of yourself--cannot have a marriage the way a marriage was meant to be... and here is where the challenge becomes manifest. This book, as the other reviewer said, will change the way you think about and see women.

I would not normally even read much less write a review on a self-help style book...but then I would not normally have been able to win back my ex-wife and family either. This book was revolutionary, not just revelationary.

Read it, believe in the underlying biblically-based principles outlined in it, and then live by it, and you may actually be able to restore your relationship as well.