Ditch That Jerk : Dealing With Men Who Control and Hurt Women [Paperback]

Pamela Jayne (Author), Andrew R. Klein (Foreword)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 15, 2000

Neither weighed down by research nor weightless with airy promises, Ditch That Jerk is a gritty, honest, and most of all experienced view of physical and emotional abusers and their effect on victims. Engagingly written, it shows women how to assess their partners and relationships for potential abuse, and for potential change - or not. Author Pamela Wiseman uses examples from counseling sessions to illustrate how the mind of an abusive man works and how to identify the patterns. She details the tricks used by such men to keep women in line and discusses warning signs, alcohol and drugs, and the excuses people use to explain abuse. Optimistic and empowering without candy-coating a difficult topic, this book gives women the tools to make clear-headed decisions about damaging relationships.

Product Details

• Paperback: 226 pages
• Publisher: Hunter House Publishers (May 15, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0897932838
• ISBN-13: 978-0897932837
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (19 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #398,198 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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50 of 52 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Everyone should read this. Applies to abusers of any gender., July 10, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: Ditch That Jerk : Dealing With Men Who Control and Hurt Women (Paperback)

I just picked this book up on vacation and I found it the most illuminating book I've ever read on dysfunctional relationships. It spells out hurtful, abusive behaviors and what they really mean. This book helped me see someone whose erratic behavior had confused and hurt me for years was running a classic pattern of tension, abuse, and making amends. Instead of feeling that the action didn't match the words, I saw clearly that he fit the mold of a control freak who sees relationships as win/lose or dominator/dominatee. While the book mostly applies to men, women can also be abusers who fit into these patterns. Every woman should read this book and every high school girl. It will save you wasted time and untold pain. It helps to differentiate between basically good men who will grow, bad men who may not change, and completely hopeless men who you need to leave in the dust.

26 of 27 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Ditch That Jerk, January 6, 2003

By A Customer

This review is from: Ditch That Jerk : Dealing With Men Who Control and Hurt Women (Paperback)

"Ditch that Jerk " was extremely informative, straight forward and easy to read. It accurately depicts an abusive person's characteristics, behaviors, strategies, and actual statements that are used to intimidate and control others. I have passed it onto my husband so he can see that his tactics are documented and will eventually undermine any chance of having a harmonious relationship. "Ditch that Jerk" clearly explains that the abuser knows the difference between right and wrong and if they resist change, the cycle of abuse will continue. This book gives the victim important information to recognize the behavioral patterns and how to get help. I found it to be an excellent book for women that find themselves in a domestic violence situation.

24 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Read it before you leave, and if you already have, August 13, 2004

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This review is from: Ditch That Jerk : Dealing With Men Who Control and Hurt Women (Paperback)

An invaluable manual for how to get out of an abusive relationship and how to break the ties afterwards. I also recommend it for women who are looking for a serious relationship and for young teens. There are definite red flags to look for BEFORE you become involved with someone.