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Divorce-Proof Your Marriage: 6 Secrets to a Forever Marriage

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Dr. Gary Rosberg and his wife Barbara have written a wonderful handbook for marriage that would benefit any couple, no matter how long they've been married, or even if they're just engaged.

The book covers six "types of love" one needs to nurture in a marriage: "Forgiving Love", "Serving Love", Persevering Love", "Guarding Love", "Celebrating Love", and "Renewing Love". The Rosberg's use many examples from real-life couples they've either counseled in Dr. Rosberg's practice, or people they've met in life or through their radio show, "America's Family Coaches Live". It's through the radio show that I found out about this book. As I wrote in my title, I wish I'd had this 20 years ago. My own marriage is strong, but it could have been so much sooner if I'd been told some of the truths in here. Biblically-based, the book can help you wherever you are on the "marriage map", as the Rosberg's call it. Do yourself and your "significant other" a favor, and invest in your relationship by buying this book.

I listened to the abridged audiocassette version of Gary and Barbara Rosberg's book on a recent road trip, and I would have to say that it left very little impression on me, good or bad. The book is organized into six different categories of love that will presumably prevent a marriage from ending in divorce. Though this is an admirable goal, I'm not sure how this book will accomplish such a feat.

My primary critique of the book is that it provides nothing new to the catalog of Christian marriage books. I've read many of them, and the Rosberg's contribution is largely a retread of many others. In terms of the book title, I'm now sure how this book is supposed to provide any specific advice for avoiding divorce. Its rather generic nature might suggest that a more appropriate title choice would have been "How to Have a Good Christian Marriage." To that end, their effort is respectable but largely unremarkable.

To their credit, the Rosbergs manage to navigate the tricky waters of co-authorship rather successfully. The interplay from one voice to the other was not choppy as is often the case with co-authors. They also told a number of engaging stories, both from their own life together and from many couples who have been counseled by Gary. The story-telling component was the most meaningful and useful part of the book.

Ultimately, there was nothing in "Divorce-Proof Your Marriage" with which I disagreed. And the presentation of the material was fine. The book just never really grabbed me in any significant way. If you're looking for a Christian book to really solidify and improve your marriage, I'd recommend Gary Thomas' "Sacred Marriage" or Gary Chapman's "The Five Love Languages" instead.

Dr Rosberg hits the nail squarely on the head in this book. He looks at marriage, not as a 50/50 relationship, but as a 100/100 persent relationship. His whole idea is not "what can I get out of this relationship, but how can I better serve". Not a position that is very popular today! I highly reccommend this book to anyone who is wanting a deeper and stronger relationship with their mate. This could also serve as a wonderful 'small group discussion guide'.

Good for getting couples to communicate better and visualize practical steps to help the marriage blossom. I highly recommend this book and have given it to over 30 couples.

My husband and I have been married over 30 years and quite frankly had reached a very apathetic stage. This book literally revitalized our marriage, got us talking again and we are no longer looking at divorce as an option. We have also been able to put spirituality and God where they belong in our lives and marriage. I would say that this book really saved our marriage and would highly recommend it. By the way, my husband and I each got our own copy so that we could mark it up and work on some of the exercises without pressure from each other.

This is a terrific resource. Gary & Barbara do a terrific job of explaining how to renew the love between you and your spouse. I found the predictors of divorce very eye opening. The presence of these indicators have a 94% accuracy in predicting divorce; this type of empirical evidence really gets my attention. There are so many pearls of wisdom in the book that I had to take lots of notes for future reference.

A great CD that gives a real once over to what you should do to have a health marriage. There is nothing ground breaking in the book, but it addresses many things that can or maybe overlooked. It also puts things in a context that can really hit home.

I'm only 24 and just newly married. We were given these books(both the Rosberg's books) from a friend as a gift. And we have taken on reading one a piece. We are both learning a lot about how to protect our marriage. We both came from divorced parents, and we don't want to see that trend happen with us! We are joining the fight to Divorce-Proof America's Marriages and plan to give this book to who ever gets married in the future! Suggest this book to your friends and family who are married. Even if they Don't have ANY problems...which is unlikely in any relationship. They are definately fighting the good fight with these books, and giving me and my husband a lot of direction to grow even closer and stronger in our marriage. Get this book for whoever you know for Christmas!! A saved marriage is a gift that will keep on giving for a lifetime. And it is nice to share reading it with your mate. No one plays the blame game, you just get back on the right path to marital happiness. If more people had this books, maybe they would not go through the discouragement that leads to divorce! GET THIS BOOK, SHARE THIS BOOK, RE-READ THIS BOOK WITH YOUR MATE. It really is giving us faith that all marriages can be saved, given two individuals who actually WANT to save their marriage and keep it safe. I love it and it is a real life book, not any pretty poetic or overly biblical solutions. Both real and spiritual, it really motivates us both to work harder everyday to fulfill each others love needs and keep our marriage going strong for the next 50 years! People map out their fianances and buy book after book about investing...well, let's invest in our marriages, our families, and even deeper, our next generations! It's definately worth re-reading over and over. Good luck on everlasting love!
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