Do I Have To Give Up ME to be Loved by GOD? [Paperback]

Margaret Paul (Author), Neale Donald Walsch (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 1, 1999

A Powerful Process to Connect with the Divine

Whether you think of God as a nebulous entity who exists only for other people, or you are a religious person hoping to deepen your faith, this groundbreaking book will guide you in developing and strengthening a personal relationship with a Higher Power.

"I have met people who have^opened themselves to God with their whole hearts, but they still do not know how to personally experience God," explains author Margaret Paul, Ph.D., who has helped countless individuals fill their spiritual emptiness that left them anxious, depressed or feeling "stuck" in relationships or careers. Dr. Paul shows readers how to relinquish earthly love, which focuses on getting, and to embrace spiritual love, which focuses on giving. By so doing, readers will connect with the Divine by discover­ing their true creative, intelligent and forgiving self.

Readers will explore their resistance to God; break down false beliefs about religion; eliminate the need to control God; heal self-destructive or addictive behaviors; and wel­come more love into their life. Most importantly, they will learn how to use spiritual power instead of power over others to manifest their dreams.

Editorial Reviews

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"...would you think me crazy if I said there was a single process that could solve all the issues with which we as human beings struggle?.... Over the years, I began noticing a common denominator in all these problems and came to the conclusion that there is only one issue: humankind's lack of experience in feeling our Divine self and our innate connection with the Divine. All other issues stem from this. ...Within the pages of this enlightened yet practical book, we are...taught a most loving process [that] will take you on a life-changing journey down a path full of awakenings, tears, compassion, reunion, joy and peace. This path, in reference to our divinity, is one seldom even thought about, much less explored.
-Lindsay Wagner, actress, author, humanitarian -- From the Forward, by Lindsay Wagner

"Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? is a treasure chest full of gifts which provide the essential tools for achieving inner peace, joy and fulfillment. A glorious book!"
-John Gray, author, "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" -- JOh Gray

"Here, in the treasure that you now hold in your hands, is a method for recreating yourself as a powerful, spiritually connected, loving adult self, capable of taking personal responsibility for your own feelings and behavior....This book offers you a process through which you may do that...I am very excited about this material. It takes the truths found in Conversations with God and other of the newest wisdom literature, and renders them functional in everyday life. Anything that takes a huge wisdom and turns it into a practical tool is a treasure indeed. It is one thing to behold the wisdom and quite another to be able to use it. Margaret Paul has for over a dozen years been working with, and teaching to others, a process which allow people to do just that....Now everything you could want to know about that process, and the eternal truths which underlie it, has been placed in a book. This book. This marvelous gift that that has come to be placed before your eyes." -NEALE DONALD WALSCH, author of "Conversations with God" and "Friendship with God" (From the Introduction) -- Endorsement

"Margaret Paul has written a powerful book that explores one of the most significant relationships of all - our relationship with God. She creatively teaches us the value of stepping into a new spiritual paradigm-into love and trust of self, others and God."
-Jack Canfield, co-author "Chicken Soup for the Soul" & "Chicken Soup for the Christian Soul" -- Jack Canfield

"Margaret Paul is an insightful and profound teacher. She skillfully helps us to explore, heal and deepen our relationship with God."
-Barbara De Angelis, PH.D., author, "Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know" -- Barbara De Angelis

About the Author

MARGARET PAUL, PH.D, is a professional psychologist who has counseled individuals, couples, groups, partnerships and businesses for the past twenty-six years. For the past twenty-two years, she has consulted, lectured, presented seminars and workshops, and authored and coauthored several books. Her previous published books include: Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You? (coauthored, 750,000-copy bestseller), Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by My Kids? (coauthored), Free to Love (coauthored), Healing Your Aloneness (coauthored) and Inner Bonding. She lives and works in Los Angeles, California.

Product Details

• Paperback: 200 pages
• Publisher: HCI (January 1, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1558746978
• ISBN-13: 978-1558746978
• Product Dimensions: 8.6 x 5.5 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #231,385 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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20 of 20 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Six Steps in Search of Self, January 25, 2000

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Nancy Weston (Danbury, CT) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Do I Have To Give Up ME to be Loved by GOD? (Paperback)

Dr. Paul's illuminating new book, DO I HAVE TO GIVE UP ME TO BE LOVED BY GOD? looks at the disconnection we feel within and with others as a result of (in the broadest sense) "spiritual abuse" that we have suffered. As Dr. Paul says, "Giving children anything other than love and compassion is spiritual abuse because all unloving behavior toward children creates an ongoing problem in their relationship with God. Any behavior that teaches children that they must be different (smarter, more polite, more obedient) IN ORDER TO BE LOVED [emphasis mine] by God -- or by their parents -- is spiritual abuse. Any behavior by an adult which disconnects a child from God is spiritual abuse. And any behavior that undermines a child's belief in God as an infinite source of love and compassion and wisdom that is always available to that child is spiritual abuse" (p.18). I particularly liked learning more about the false beliefs we have about God and our relationship with whatever term we each use to name our Higher Power. The Inner Bonding definition of loving intrigues me: Loving behavior is that which contributes to our own and others' spiritual and emotional growth. Often, what looks loving is just codependent, and in our addictive society, much confusion results when we act out the belief that if others really loved us, they would do what we want. If you read this book, you will learn about a new way of looking at behavior -- not in terms of judgment (a major controlling device of many religions) -- but in terms of the good reasons that parts of us have for our behavior. Life, according to Dr. Paul, is a journey about learning and loving for everyone, not about hellfire and damnation and the chosen. I know that just about every person on a journey thinks that s/he has just the right tools and resources for healing and personal empowerment, but in my experience there are few, if any, approaches and processes that are as encompassing, simple yet profound, practical, and portable as the Inner Bonding process. DO I HAVE TO GIVE UP ME TO BE LOVED BY GOD? builds on Dr. Paul's other 6 books that have so much to teach about one's relationship with self, others, and Spirit. Yes, there are many books and people and therapies and techniques out there promising us love, success, happiness, etc., but my whole world -- self, family, friends, career, spirituality -- is different because one of Dr. Paul's books literally dropped in my path 8 years ago. We live in times that are often filled with much conflict and pain, but also have so much potential for soul growth with new ways of learning to bring the best of ourselves to ourselves, to others, to the planet. Margaret Paul's work is a powerful tool for transformation. You owe it to yourself to read this book!

12 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Tools to Turn Your Life Around, Batteries Included!, January 12, 2000

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Gary Scarborough([e-mail]) (Fayetteville, Arkansas) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Do I Have To Give Up ME to be Loved by GOD? (Paperback)

I have been using Margaret Paul's tools consistently for over 9 years. If you have parts of your life that you want to change, you can choose to use this simple set of tools every day and change your life profoundly, often faster than you could have imagined.The tools are simple enough that you can teach children how to do them. Yet powerful enough that unwanted patterns that have persisted for a lifetime can lose their power and go away.

The other thing that comes with using these tools is, that by implementing the connection process, one seems to be able to draw on deep, limitless power. I know of no other process that brings the same sense of innate strength that helps you persist and carry out the tasks that need to be done to transform your life. Thus batteries are included.

What will make the difference here, is whether you can make a time every day to work the six simple steps Margaret presents. It doesn't take a lot of time. It takes consistency and growing an awareness to know when it's time to use the simple tools. Once you get the basics down, it's something you can do driving in your car, waiting in line at the grocery store, or lying in bed at night before you go to sleep. For me it's become as natural as eating and breathing. Her latest book ties together all her earlier works and focuses on the spiritual dimensions of this connection process. One does not have to believe in God to do this work, or FOR IT TO WORK. I can guarantee that. I've seen many people use the tools without focusing on the spiritual aspects. I can also tell you that if you value or seek a realtionship with God/a Higher Power, this connection process will greatly enhance that relationship. Personally, as I have been able to work with and deepen the connection process, I have directly experienced God to a greater and greater extent in my everyday life.

Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God is a beautiful work for those that want to heal the parts of their lives that hurt. For those that want to take that a step further and reap the spiritual rewards of this connection process, this book is a wonderful guide.

For those familiar with Dr. Paul's work, this book takes it deeper. I had wonderful Aha's, as the lightbulbs turned on deep in my being. This book describes the tools, that if practiced with consistency, can be the best gift you ever give yourself!

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Life changing read, November 20, 1999

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Patricia J. Gerrish (Madison Heights, MI) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Do I Have To Give Up ME to be Loved by GOD? (Paperback)

This book is a must read for anyone who wishes to live life with passion and joy. Margaret Paul's commitment to her own growth and desire to share this life changing process has resulted in a work which acts as both a clearly written introduction to Inner Bonding as well as a thorough and excellent resource for those who have practiced the process for any length of time.

I applaud Margaret Paul's courage in frankly and compassionately discussing a subject which some may feel is controversial, others may even say blasphemous. For those who wish to criticize the author for her views so be it. For anyone willing to take a risk this book will be an excellent guide for healing past spiritual abuse, becoming reacquainted to a personal Spritual guide and rediscovering the Divine self within.