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Ask the Experts: Exactly How to Spot a Cheater from the Authors of Does He Cheat?
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Cheating is sneaky business, isn’t it? Half-truths, outright lies and all sorts of clandestine activities go down when a person cheats on a partner. There's a new book out that hopes to shed some light on this tricky subject so of course we had to get the inside scoop from the authors!

 

Sterling Anderson, a self-proclaimed recovering cheater, and Stephanie Dart wanted to know exactly what was going on in the minds of unfaithful men. For their book, Does He Cheat?, the writing partners interviewed hundreds of men (all of whom admitted to cheating in relationships) across the country; they got men from a variety of different backgrounds to share their trifling secrets. We sat down with the authors to chat about their research:

What are some of the tell-tale signs of cheating?
Sterling: A sudden change in behavior patterns is the first alert, i.e. clothes—especially new underwear, fitness, music taste. Yes, new lovers exchange music getting to know one another.
Stephanie: Also take notice if they are hanging out with "best friends" who are known cheaters. Another red flag - having times when you are not allowed to call him: "not past 10PM," or "not when I'm on a business trip and going to bed early because of the big presentation in the morning," etc.

Is there a time of year when cheating is more common? Or a time when there’s a bigger temptation to cheat?
Stephanie: After interviewing hundreds of men, it seems it really depends on their stress in the job, availability of the other woman (when she presents herself) and nagging spouses.
Sterling: Lots of men did talk about spring fever, when the heavy clothing comes off. Also dramatic weather (rain delays, snowed into airport) is the perfect excuse to be delayed or fall off the radar. Stay overs at hotels are the worst!

What’s the best way to confront a cheater?
Sterling: "I don't know what you are doing but I'm noticing and it makes me feel bad. If you want to leave that's what you want to do, but don't make a fool of me and the kids."
Stephanie: Or simply state, "When you do X, it makes me feel Y. I wish you would do Z." Translation: let the man know that his behavior hurts and demeans you. And if he wants another partner, he should leave your relationship. He should be adult about it and respect you enough to go.

Do you think a cheater can change? If so, what makes him or her decide to change?
Sterling: Yes! A cheater can change. What they are doing in the first place is in direct proportion to self-esteem.
Stephanie: When they realize that no matter what someone will get hurt, and when they respect themselves and their partners enough (or potential new partners if they now find themselves single), they can change. They have to have enough self-confidence and self-respect, and be secure with who they are, instead of trying to find outside validation from many partners.

How can someone who’s been cheated on learn to trust again?
Sterling: Satchel Paige once said, "Love as though you've never been hurt." If someone cheats on you, it has nothing to do with you unless it's a repeated pattern. If it is a pattern, then you are the common denominator. It's not a matter of trusting but making better choices. Choose someone who does not cheat.
Stephanie: When in the relationship, know the signs, be open to communicating respectfully, don't be afraid of losing him if you say what you need, set boundaries and expectations for your relationship, keep your own self-esteem and self-confidence high, and know you deserve to be treated like the treasure you are.

Thanks Sterling and Stephanie!





"Does He Cheat" by Sterling Anderson and Stephanie Dart is a book about men who use statements to wives, girlfriends, husbands and boyfriends to hide their actions of being with another woman or man. This book mentions 50 signs of confessions from men that admit to cheating on their partners. Some of the confessions are simple and if the female partner believes that statement, she really should have another conversation with a best friend or a lawyer. Although this book is entertaining and also humorous, I think this book is a must read for any woman or man who have heard the familiar statement, “I am just not that into you”. It is an information guide to alert all kinds of partners involved in a loving, sharing and caring relationship. The most obvious confession is when there is a sudden change of routine behavior such as not returning phone calls, staying out late or the famous working late at the office, which are obvious signs of a cheating partner.

I enjoyed reading this information filled book of honest facts. I have to admit I have been the partner that has heard these confessions and after reading them I remember being told that same confession and I believed my partner. Silly me, now I am more aware of the confessions and I will remember them always, because now onwards when I hear a future partner say “I am going out with the guys” I can say in response that what is being said is a confession of a cheating partner.

Review: Lisa M.
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Does He Cheat? Confessions from Men: 50 Signs Your Partner May Be Cheating
For about three weeks, Does He Cheat? Confessions from Men: 50 Signs Your Partner May Be Cheating sat on my desk at work amidst a sloppy pile of books I was either reading, or had intended to read, clearly visible to all passersby. My coworkers now look at me differently, as do the handful of clients who have seen my reading list. I'm sure none of them noticed the yellowed copy of Moby Dick that sat in the pile that I told myself I'd re-read, but never got past the first page. (Truth is, I can't remember if I actually ever read Moby Dick, or if I've lied about reading it so many times that I actually believe I've read it). No one saw Salman Rushdie's Midnight's Children, which after page 100 turned into a coaster for my morning green tea. The Dancing Wu Li Masters I'm sure went entirely unnoticed, too, by people who are confident that I'm a dude who's into dudes, who thinks his dude is cheating on him. And you know what? I don't even care. I make that sacrifice for you -- my female readers -- so you'll know if you should read books like Sterling Anderson's and Stephanie Dart's user's manual for the cheating male; a veritable reference guide against which you can check if your mate's behaviors require immediate attention.

Does your husband's phone go straight to voice mail for hours at a time? Look that shit up. It's in there. That may be a sign he's cheating.

Does your guy have a weekly poker game? You may be picturing a sausage fest in some smoke filled, suburban finished basement, but the type of "poke her" going on doesn't involve chips or cards. It involves your man poking her - her, as in, not you. Well, maybe. There's only one way to know for sure -- buy the book and Anderson and Dart will tell you.

Dating a fellow who enjoys looking at naked ladies on the computer? He may be a cheater, according to Anderson and Dart. Does He Cheat? warns women that porn "is a gateway drug to becoming unfaithful," and while I would confidently wager that most guys, who like to rub one out while watching ladies touch each other, are not cheaters, I'm sure there are some that are. It probably isn't fair for Anderson and Dart to cast such a wide net in the process of trying to catch a few bad fish, (or more accurately, bad guys who smell like fish. Yeah, I went there), but this isn't science, and the authors make that clear in the preface: "We heard hundreds of ways to manipulate and deceive a wife or girlfriend. The frequent flyers made it to this book. None of what is written here is etched in stone."

The 50 signs, drawn from hundreds of interviews with cheaters, are conveniently divided into a cheater's confession followed by a section entitled, "Advice to You." So if your guy is calling you to tell you he's too drunk to drive home, Does He Cheat? suggests you offer to pick his ass up. His reaction will tell you whether he's to be believed.

Much of the book contains fairly obvious common sense advice, and as a guy reading it, I couldn't imagine a woman needing to be told that if her man gets all tongue tied trying to explain a 3 AM phone call, he's probably up to no good. And some of the other signs listed that a man may be cheating may or may not be indicative of infidelity, like purposely picking a fight to have an excuse to leave. I used to do that with an ex all the time, but it wasn't because I wanted to be with another woman, I just wanted to be withOUT my ex. Again, this is a guidebook, not a bible, and women reading it should treat it as such, lest they accuse their men of doing something he wasn't going to do until they got up his ass about it.

Ladies, use this book wisely, but certainly check it out if you suspect your man is cheating -- like I apparently do.

Review: Diary of a Disillusioned Dater

About the Author

Sterling Anderson was raised in Tuskegee, Alabama, and moved to Davis, California, for high school. He received a BA in English from St. Mary's College. In 1998 he wrote a teleplay called The Simple Life of Noah Dearborn for CBS, which starred Sidney Poitier, and received three Emmy nominations and won an Image Award. He began writing on network television shows, such as CBS's The Unit, as well as NBC's Medium and Heist. He has written two books on writing, Writing Without Fear and Beyond Screenwriting, and presently guest lectures and panels on screenwriting at film schools and festivals around the country. Stephanie Dart has worked as a professional trainer for twenty-five years. She has trained subjects from management and sales to electronic medical record systems. She received a BS in Health Education from Kansas University in 1986 and an MA in educational technology from California Lutheran University in 2001.
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  • Paperback: 168 pages
  • Publisher: Sterling Dart Productions (June 1, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0615471560
  • ISBN-13: 978-0615471563
  • Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 0.4 x 6.1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
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By Ani on June 10, 2013
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"Love it" is not quite right. But, I wish I had this book a long time ago since I could check off at least 40 of the 50 signs. Yes, it is possible to be that unwilling to see what's going on. There is more truth in "Believing is seeing" than "Seeing is believing".
So I would recommend this book to anyone who even "wonders" as well as for someone whose friends would also tell her she has parsley on her teeth. Knowing is better.
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1 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Marissa DeCuir on October 4, 2011
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We've all been there, and this book just helps us face the truth. I picked up a copy of "He's Just Not That Into You" when the craze was happening, and I think the same thing will happen with this book. Now don't let that confuse you -- this is in no way a lighthearted funny book. The similarity is that they are both very blunt. "Doe He Cheat" offers some really good pointers on what to look out for, even if you think you need to or not!
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0 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Common Sense on October 23, 2011
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The authors preface the book by noting that the listed 50 signs of "cheating" come from interviews with men from different cultures, races, and economic backgrounds. Women (and men readers) are encouraged to analyze their relationships to discover whether their partner is using any of these cheating tricks. Many of the scenarios also include suggestions for the suspicious partner to use as a test or a remedy. If your hubby enjoys golfing for hours on the week-end, plan to go with him and pick up the game too...or drive the cart. Is there an unexplained receipt or a gift hidden away in a drawer or closet? Ask what it's for. Does he leave the house in a blue shirt...and come home in a green one?

It's eye-opening and repulsive to realize there are so many ways to sneak away from working on a good relationship and vows of fidelity. The heartbreak of having a lying partner will hurt, but even worse is the chance that you could be infected with an STD by your cheating partner. Divorced "Grayson" chivalrously states that he waited three days after "cheating-sex" to try to be sure he wouldn't pass on a disease to his wife.

Women may want to read this handbook to consider the strength of their relationships...or to be reminded that they should be grateful for their wonderful husbands! After gaping at the duplicity of these dishonest men, the reader will be amazed that anyone (wife or cheating woman) would be interested in these duds.
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0 of 1 people found the following review helpful By samjo on October 4, 2011
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I love when people cater to my feelings when I'm droning on about how another man 'done me wrong,' but sometimes I just want the HONEST TRUTH so that I can stop wasting time when it comes to relationships. Does He Cheat? totally delivers that sobering slap in the face (and with a sense of humor, I might add). Ladies, we all need to stop making excuses and just recognize things for exactly what they are --- this book delivers exactly that.
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0 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Julie on October 4, 2011
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I had a friend who was concerned about her husband. I gave her this book. Well, she decided her fears were founded. I hate that it turned out that way for her - but I'm glad that there was a straightforward, easy-to-read book that I could hand her to help her come to her own conclusions. This book is for a target market - but those women who need this book - REALLY need this book.
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