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Domestic Violence Sourcebook: Everything You Need to Know

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"The Domestic Violence Sourcebook" offers a comprehensive look at the issues surrounding domestic violence. Historical, psychological, social, familial, and legal issues are each covered in separate chapters. Prevention and treatment is addressed near the end of the book, as well as guidelines for people who are affected. An up-to-date (1998) list of resources concludes the book.

This book was invaluable to me as both an educational and a resource tool for graduate research into domestic violence and substance abuse. The material is well-organized and presented in an easily accessible format. The content is useful whether you're a researcher or a general reader.

Five stars indeed.

Domestic Violence is one of the leading cause of deaths in the world. "Domestic violence is the maltreatment that takes place in the context of any romantic relationship that's being abused." ([...]). Domestic violence is a huge problem in today's households. Women and children lives in constant fear of not knowing athat what will happen next on a daily basis which also puts a strain on people who suffers from domestic abuse a higher risk in physically, mentally, and emotionally development. There are different types of domestic abuse such as: sexual, socio-economical, stalking, and spiritual abuse. The main common factors that triggers domestic violence is caused by control and power by men in the household, ego, financial status, trust, and jealousy. People who suffered from domestic violence struggled in their lives both personally and professionally due to their post syndrome effects they have experienced. Domestic violence is a tough growing crime and more attention needs to be focused about this epidemic and enforced stricter laws/consequences. This is an everlasting problem and it's time for the judicial system to realize the depth of this crime that affects in al perspectives of women, children, families, and communities. The laws of domestic violence really needs to be upheld and strictly enforced into the Supreme Court on each case because after all, the victims really needs is justice to served.

It is a very good book lots of information,It has gave me the courage to leave my abuser! So i definitly recommend this book!!!

There is a crucial differences between male and female domestic violence. If a man isn't afraid of a woman's violence, it's not abuse. Fear is a defining factor.

Abuse is systematically controlling another person through intimidation and control in a sadly self-defeating attempt to get needs met. An abuser believe violence is justified in achieving this. Non-abusers may flip out sometimes, but they genuinely believe that violence is only justified in self-defense, and only in enough measure to protect ourselves or others.

Ironically, when a woman is continually abused, she become nervous, volatile, exhausted, and may even respond with verbal abuse and, rarely, physical violence (rarely because the male is usually more powerful.) Think: cornered animal.

When a man begins to change or behaves less violently, the deep anger women have been feeling but suppressing out of fear may finally come out, and not always in the nicest way. However, this is categorically different from abuse: punishing, strategic, intentional violence.

Sadly, men who are violent will use any excuse to defend their behavior. Hence, accusing their female targets of being abusers. That might be where the court statistics listed below come from (if they are even accurate). Ironically, many women don't prosecute their male abusers out of a misguided hope of helping them through nurture and communication instead. (In fact, it appears that real painful consequences are much more likely to motivate an abuser to change.)

Women aren't "better" than men for being statistically much less likely to be abusers. They simply don't have that option due to the reality of the comparable strength of their bodies and society's conditioning.

Think about this: How many women buy a gun and routinely wave it around to intimidate their husband to control his behavior? It seems absurd, doesn't it? What might the man do in response? Run away? Try to overpower her anyway? Yet men easily intimidate women in this way without that gun, simply because they are physically (and often financially) stronger.

Ironically, women who actually are abusive are said to be the hardest to rehabilitate. This is because a woman who goes against all of society's training to use brute force to try to get her needs met is usually severely mentally ill.

So... To the man who feels a need to bring up women's abuse in a review of a book designed to help men stop abusing and help women escape their abuse... What need does this fulfill in you? Why not stop denying and blaming others for your behavior and get help? Or recommend a good book that specifically targets helping women abusers to change and their male targets to free themselves from women's abuse? After all, isn't the purpose of these books to help both men and women...and their children?

Just in response to a previous reviewer- As a domestic violence education professional, I assure you that all reputable sources on domestic violence agree that women make up the overwhelming majority of victims of DV (these statistics vary from the 80s to the high 90s in terms of percentages).

This is a necessary read for any therapist working with couples in crisis. Understanding the criminal nature of battering, the state laws governing the offense, and the denial and minimizing of the act of violence by the victim is important for appropriate intervention and safety of the patient.

Very helpfull for anyone who wants to understand the Why's, What's and When's of domestic violence.

Ladies, if you're a victim, read this book. (And I say "Ladies" because--despite what the woefully misinformed individual below tells his "clients"--women DO make up the HUGE majority of victims.)

Although this book could be of some use and help to female victims of domestic violence, the book itself is simplistic, and it is irresponsible of the author to suggest that virtually only women are victims of this form of violence. The author is either unaware or does not acknowledge the strong empirical data that sharply disagrees with her use of statistics. I cannot recommend to any client in my practice a book which is so blatently incorrect in its research on this subject. There are many other books available on the subject of domestic violence that I believe women would find of much more use to them.

Unfortunately, rather than taking on a very important social issue with objectivity and truth, the book simply repeates completely unfounded propoganda that women are the victim in "85%+" of cases. Anyone interested, do what I did (/do) as part of my employment -- go to your local family court and watch on domestic violence day(s). No one will be able to pull the anti-male wool over your eyes after that. Men are the plaintiff in about 35% of the cases -- and we need to keep in mind that men are far less likely to step forward and are far more likely to be ridiculed, harassed, and treated dismissively at every step in the process (for example - 90%+ of all domestic violence shelters have "women" somewhere in their title...not exactly an invitation to a male who desperately needs help).

Sadly, this kind of "book" (with dubious sources when they bother to give a source at all) perpetuates the myths and does great harm by keeping the +/- 40% of victims who need help oppressed.