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Don't Call Me Shy: Preparing Shy Children for a Lifetime of Social Success

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I have a 7 year old who is extremely shy. She won't play with other children in social situations and she always clings to "mommy." The author gave some great ideas and exercises that were easy to follow, and I am already seeing a lot of progress with my daughter. The book is very easy to understand, and I felt like the author was my friend helping me with my daughter's shyness. I highly recommend this book to every parent who wants to see real positive changes in their child who is shy.

Health education expert and former shy child Laurie Adelman presents Don't Call Me Shy: Preparing Shy Children for a Lifetime of Social Success, a guide for parents and educators to helping shy children develop to their fullest social potential. Chapters warn about the harmful effects that too much negative reinforcement have, and emphasize the value of positive reinforcement. Don't Call Me Shy guides the reader to create a mind-set geared toward social comfort in young children, and includes sample lesson plans for teachers, encouragement for shy adults, recommendations for supplemental reading, and much more. Enthusiastically recommended for anyone responsible for shy or introverted children.

As my oldest son struggles with social encounters, i found this book to be quite helpful. A lot of the information is common sense, so common, that you dont even realize it. The author definately described MY typical daily scenarios with my son so i really felt the book was directly talking to me. I learned a lot about how to relate to my son, and that definately made a diference. I read a couple of books on the subject of "shy children" and this one was the most down to earth. You may not be able to do everything suggested in the book, but Do read it! it will help. Its very easy reading and you wont want to put it down. I promise it will help you become a better mom (or dad) for your child.

While this book does raise sensitivity to using the term "shy" as a label, it lacked the tools to resolve the underlying issues. The book could be applied to any negative description, from "not good at math" to "wears glasses". The overwhelming theme really was to stop using the word "shy". I did not find any sample scripts for role-play, specific lists of behaviors to look for, or techniques to measure and reward my child's progress. While the author does include many stories and illustrations of a shy child, any specific behavior-shaping strategies were buried within the stories and the book is definitely not a concrete reference guide.