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Product Details

  • Paperback: 134 pages
  • Publisher: Hyperion (November 17, 1999)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0786884274
  • ASIN: B0014JOL7Y
  • Product Dimensions: 7.8 x 5 x 0.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (120 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #444,740 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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"[Don't Call That Man!] offers many useful ways to handle separation, grief and rage; and casts such a revealing light on the tendency to pursue the one who has left you that it is impossible to continue begging and arguing for what will not be given." -- Elan Golomb, Ph.D., author of Trapped in the Mirror

From the Author

I'm very happy that my book Don't Call that Man!A Survival Guide To Letting Go has given me the opportunity to help so many women let go of relationships that are not healthy for them. Since Don't Call that Man! has been published I have written other books and created and an App to support women in their journey : Don't Text That Man! A Guide To Self Protective Dating In the Age of Technology, The Commitment Cure: What To Do When You Fall For an Ambivalent Man, The Dating Cure, Portrait of My DesireA Jewish-American Princess Dethroned, the Don't Text That Man! Journal and the Don't Text That Man "App".

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Customer Reviews

One that I will go back and read if I feel the need to call him.
Rebecca Shanks
When you are feeling vunerable, hurt, sad, angry. alone, desperate, you want something, anything to make you feel better.
Sharon
One more good thing about this book is that it's a quick and easy read.
Sheila Thornburg

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

88 of 94 people found the following review helpful By donns on September 19, 2003
Format: Paperback
this was by far the best book i ever read when it comes to
jerky men, i dated a man for a year and a half and he was the
most wonderful person i had ever met. he couldnt do enough for me
and would spend money on me like it was nothing. afte a year he
changed drastically, he wanted no commitment (even thou after our
second date he wanted an exclusive relationship) he began to become more distant with no explanation. i would try to talk to
him and ask him what was going on and he would never really say
anything, then the phone calls stopped. i emailed him and he would never answer them, i purchased the book and read it all in
an hour and i went 6 weeks without calling him, i did have a setback after that and called him to see if he was dead or alive.
he was civil but thats about it. i didnt ask any personal questions nor did i ask him if he had a girlfriend. i basically
just wanted to hear his voice and since i did always care for him
i wanted to make sure he was ok even thou he apparently didnt care if i was dead or alive. i know now that i will not call that
man again, and this book will help me to not do that. i have started dating again even thou its hard only becauses i feel like
there was unfinished business with my ex, but i know that most
men dont know what closure is and there way is to just disappear.
i recommend this book for anyone going thru the same thing as i
did, thanks alot for your wise advice when dealing with a jerk.
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62 of 66 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on April 14, 2002
Format: Paperback
I was married and hopelessly obssessing over someone else (in retrospect to avoid the problems in my marriage), when I bought this book. The book was very powerful, every word rang true for me, and I began to see my insane, self destructive behavior, wasting my time obsessing over this inappropriate situation. The object of my obsession was a cruel, ambivilent man, who strung me along like a yoyo. We were never even intimate, and I never was unfaithful to my husband. That we never even had a relationship was one of the many reasons why my preoccupation was so insane. I saw from doing the work in the book that my obsession stemmed not from wanting this particular man, but from all the rejection and abandonment issues that he triggered. Finally, I was free from the obsession two months sfter doing the work in the book. Sadly, my marriage ended, but had I not stopped focusing on this outside person, I never would have gotten to take an honest, hard look at my own unhappy situation and make a decision based on reality, not an obsessive fantasy. I recommend this to anyone desperate to pick up the phone, or pursue contact with someone who is clearly not availiable to them.
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56 of 63 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on April 14, 2000
Format: Paperback
This book will save you when you feel like you are going insane. The suggestions about what to do when you feel like calling HIM are fantastic. The description of the ambivilent man fits most of the men I've dated to a tee. I've vowed not ever to date another on of these men again. Also, the exercises in the book help you discover why you have this need to degrade yourself by letting him make you feel like dirt.
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36 of 42 people found the following review helpful By "peince" on June 27, 2002
Format: Paperback
Believe it or not after my boyfriend dumped me I bought most of the books concerning breakups and sad feelings.This was by far the best!When my boyfriend left me I acted kind of crazy calling him 20 times in half an hour that day!After a few days I felt so humiliated that I wanted to call him back and prove him I am not a hysterical girl. This book had all the answers to my problems.
It stopped me from calling him for one more time and it stopped me from being humiliated for once again. I also wanted to make a closure and call him for the last time so we could talk calmly and so we could separate with friendly feelings.Big mistake!Rhonda made me realise that the only closure you should make when s/b breaks up with you is with yourself.
Now after reading it some times when I have the urge to call him I just look at the cover and all I've learned comes to my mind. After a couple of minutes I feel ok! Read this book again and again cause every time you'll love it and appreciate it even more!
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32 of 38 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on December 5, 2003
Format: Paperback
The book is as refreshingly straightforward as the title. "Don't Call That Man" is a survival guide for the woman blindsided by feelings of rection triggered by a breakup. Providing solid advice on how to resist the temptation to call him when it seems to be the only way to alleviate the pain, Ms. Findling leads the reader through a series of exercises designed to uncover why a woman may be vulnerable to destructive men and relationships. While she devotes a chapter to recognizing the kind of "ambivalent man" whose seductive/rejective behavior patterns can make a woman crazy wondering what she did wrong, she wastes relatively little time trying to analyze HIM. Instead, she emphasizes the need to look within for self-acceptance. This is NOT a "man-bashing" book, nor does it contain superficial, "treat yourself to a bubble bath and manicure to make yourself feel better, ladies"-type advice - rather, it offers a solid road map to building a strong foundation of self-esteem and self-awareness that is critical to lasting individual happiness and in developing positive, committed relationships.
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