Don't Let Death Ruin Your Life: A Practical Guide to Reclaiming Happiness after the Death of a Loved One [Mass Market Paperback]

Jill Brooke (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 29, 2002

In her unique guide, Jill Brooke reveals how to cope with grief and turn this time of sadness into an opportunity for positive change and growth.

Although they are no longer physically with us, we can keep our loved ones emotionally and spiritually close by incorporating their memories into our daily lives. As we draw comfort from their sustaining presence, we can have a positive impact on those around us. Recent research shows that the trauma of loss can stimulate creativity which leads to new pportunities for happiness and success. Katie Couric and Rosie O'Donnell are just a few people in this book who have coped with loss in unique and special ways.

Including tips on how to preserve our memories, create lasting family histories, and reach out to others, Don't Let Death Ruin Your Life shows how the experience of grieving helps us to heal, learn, and grow. Filled with gentle guidance and practical advice, this indispensable handbook takes readers on a journey that will motivate, inspire, and transform their lives.

"Should be on everyone's bookshelf . . . Charts a survival course with dignity and hope." (The New York Post)

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

The title of this book is something of a misnomer. While Brooke, a parenting columnist for the New York Daily News and former CNN correspondent, does include some information about coming to grips with the death of close friend or family member, she also focuses quite a bit on what to do before people die to ensure their memory. Presented is guidance on how to videotape interviews with elderly family members, write love letters to express feelings before it's too late, and get the best possible family pictures. Brooke also stresses the importance of preparing wills and preplanning funerals. This scattershot approach gets bewildering; although chapters are devoted to one topic, Brooke goes off on tangents within those chapters. For example, she jarringly inserts a paragraph on how to remember loved ones in the middle of a discussion on the death rituals of different cultures. A marginal purchase for public libraries.
Copyright 2002 Reed Business Information, Inc.

From Booklist

As Brooke points out in the introduction, the deaths of loved ones have positively transformed many people. She points to Eric Clapton, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Susan Komen, among others. However, for too many, the death of someone close leaves a void in the heart that it seems nothing will ever fill. Rather than the "letting go," as many from Freud on through the years have prescribed, Brooke says it is important to confront grief, experience it fully, and use it to transform oneself positively. Brooke stresses that it is important to integrate the memories of our loved ones into our daily lives. This is truly a practical book in that death is viewed as a normal part of life and dealing with it constructively should be a more common reaction. The book includes such particular issues as a child's grief, seeking professional help, and dealing with the deceased's possessions. Marlene Chamberlain
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Product Details

• Reading level: Ages 18 and up
  
• Mass Market Paperback: 288 pages
• Publisher: Plume (January 29, 2002)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0452282985
• ISBN-13: 978-0452282988
• Product Dimensions: 8 x 5.4 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (15 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,419,581 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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17 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars THE BOOK OPENS YOUR HEART TO PEACE AND ACCEPTANCE, April 3, 2001

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Sandra D. Peters "Seagull Books" (Prince Edward Island, Canada) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Don't Let Death Ruin Your Life: A Practical Guide to Reclaiming Happiness After the Death of a Loved One (Hardcover)

Losing a loved one is of the most profound emotions we will ever feel in our lifetime. Loss often evokes a combination of so many different emotions, sadness...for what we have lost, often guilt...could we have done more or prevented the loss, anger...why now, why was this person taken from me. Time heals all wounds, but often the scars and sense of loss remain.

There is a time to grieve and a time to move on, and this book is an excellent resource on the subject of death and loss. The book helps one to divert those mixed emotional feelings into constructive accomplishments - how to deal with the acceptance of loss, not reject it. There are no easy answers, but being a survivor gives us inner personal strength, more than we sometimes ever thought it was possible to have. When I was young, I remember reading the birth and marriage announcements in our newspaper to find out which one of my friends was getting married or announding the birth of a child. Now when I read the newspaper, it is often a formidable reminder of how fragile and short life truly is when I suddenly see some of those same names appearing in the obituary column. Regardless of your religion, spirituality or what it is you personally believe in, a measure of comfort comes from knowing that in spite of all the pain and joy that comes with life, the universe truly is unfolding as it was intended. There are a lot of wise words printed on the pages of this book and I would not hesitate for a moment to give or recommend this beautiful book to anyone who has experienced this difficult time of loss in their life.

15 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars SURVIVING THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE., February 18, 2001

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Dorothy Weiss (ORLANDO, FLORIDA United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Don't Let Death Ruin Your Life: A Practical Guide to Reclaiming Happiness After the Death of a Loved One (Hardcover)

Death leaves its mark, but there are ways to move through the painful aftermath of the loss of a loved one. "Society won't let us talk about our loved ones as if they are still alive" writes author JIll Brooke. But that is exactly what one should do- talk about them. Even though their physical presence is gone- one can experience incredible happiness just by be able to discuss a loved one. It is ok to say their name. The book walks people through bereavement healing steps such as keeping the memory alive, and channeling feelings of loss into accomplishment. As an incentive, Ms. Brooke enumerates people of achievement who became greater, stronger because of the loss of a loved one. Survival teaches us something more about ourselves. We are all achievers; we can go on, and yes time does heal all wounds. Sensitive and beautifully written. Well worth reading.

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars MEMORIES ARE A GIFT TO TREASURE FOR A LIFETIME AND BEYOND, February 11, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: Don't Let Death Ruin Your Life: A Practical Guide to Reclaiming Happiness After the Death of a Loved One (Hardcover)

Jill Brooke's wonderful book has inspired me to give careful thought to how I would like to perserve the memories of my loved ones, not only as a way to give me strength and comfort to draw upon for the rest of the days of my life but to also inspire future generations of my family -something I haven't previously given thought to. I have this book close at hand in my library and I think everyone could benefit from doing the same.