Don't Forgive Too Soon: Extending the Two Hands That Heal [Paperback]

Dennis Linn (Author), Sheila Fabricant Linn (Author), Francisco Miranda (Illustrator)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 1997

Shows how to forgive in an active, healthy way by moving through a five-step process that renounces vengeance and retaliation but is not passive or self-abusive in any way.

Editorial Reviews

Review

Healing reaches out to me even in the title of this book. -- The Provident Book Finder

Landmark book. -- Crux

Offers simple, healing processes for all those who struggle for the freedom to forgive. -- Barbara Shlemon Ryan

Product Details

• Paperback: 144 pages
• Publisher: Paulist Press (April 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0809137046
• ISBN-13: 978-0809137046
• Product Dimensions: 9.2 x 7.4 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #114,674 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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41 of 41 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Very thoughtful and helpful clarification of forgiveness., September 15, 1999

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This review is from: Don't Forgive Too Soon: Extending the Two Hands That Heal (Paperback)

This discussion of forgiveness and its relationship to the five stages of grief is very helpful to anyone seeking to resolve conflicts in relationships past and present. The book is useful in helping the reader discover deeper issues of unforgiveness and gives careful and helpful guidance as to how to resolve these issues. As a professional psychotherapist and Christian counselor, I found the insights meaningful and the entire book encouraging as to the hope it offers for healing hurts in relationships. Parents, partners, friends, spouses, teachers, counselors and others will benefit from the sage counsel and practical advice.

24 of 24 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars An excellent review of the process of forgiveness., March 19, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Don't Forgive Too Soon: Extending the Two Hands That Heal (Paperback)

This book reinforces the idea that forgiveness is a process, and shouldn't be entered into lightly or too soon. The use of Kubler-Ross's 5 stages of death provides an easy to understand framework for assessing where the reader might be in a current forgiveness process, and is also thought provoking for assessing one's general understanding of forgiveness and it's place in daily life. The book is easy to read, and follows philosophically the attitudes expressed by the authors in "Sleeping with Bread..." I highly recommend this book to families, counselors, and clergy, as well as to individuals looking for help with the difficult and growth-producing process of forgiveness.

19 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A very creative and practical book, March 5, 1998

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This review is from: Don't Forgive Too Soon: Extending the Two Hands That Heal (Paperback)

I highly recommend this book for anyone with the need to work through forgiveness. It is written in a disarmingly simple, lightly humorous style, but the concepts it expouses are very powerful. Claiming that any hurt is like a "mini-death", the authors use Kubler-Ross's five stages of bereavement - denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance - as a framework to work through the forgiving process.

At the same time, the concept of the two components of nonviolence, resisting evil but at the same time wooing the evildoer, is introduced as a creative way to foster reconciliation.

The book is religious in nature, but by no means oppressively so. It will be beneficial to persons of any or no religious persuasion. A delightful book.