I Don't Know How She Does It [Paperback]

A. Pearson (Author)

Product Details

• Paperback
• Publisher: VINTAGE (2003)
• ISBN-10: 009950457X
• ISBN-13: 978-0099504573
• Product Dimensions: 6.6 x 4.3 x 1.2 inches
• Shipping Weight: 2.1 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (348 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #6,781,919 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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44 of 48 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Has Allison Pearson been spying on me??, October 7, 2002

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Nancy U. Jacobs (L.A., CA USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: I Don't Know How She Does It: The Life of Kate Reddy, Working Mother (Hardcover)

I just devoured this book on a guilt-ridden business trip and identified so strongly with the character of Kate. It was the first time I have heard the working mom's voice articulated so clearly. I laughed out loud repeatedly on the plane and ultimately felt a little better about the decisions I have made in my life. A must-read.

57 of 64 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Guilty Pleasure, December 18, 2002

By A Customer

This review is from: I Don't Know How She Does It: The Life of Kate Reddy, Working Mother (Hardcover)

As a working mom logging in over 2,000 billable hours a year outside the home -- I couldn't put the book down. Obviously this book "spoke" to me on a very personal level. It was such a guilty pleasure to read -- when, like Kate, I had Holdiay cards to send, cookies to bake for the school Christmas party and matters of the family to attend to all after coming home from work at 10 pm. But, I'm not sure I would "get" this book or enjoy it much if I hadn't already walked a mile in Kate Reddy's shoes.

Of course this book is over the top -- doesn't it have to be to be entertaining? Even I found myself saying "I don't know how she does it." But there are many thoughts in the book that are right-on and thought provoking. Take for example Kate Reddy's observation that fathers that leave work early or schedule business around their family commitments are lauded as "involved fathers" when mothers doing the same are suspected of not being committed to their work or are seen as unreliable or unaccessible. Whether you are a mom working full-time outside the home or not, this and many other insights in the book highlight interesting social issues.

I would be interested to know whether this book appeals to stay-at-home moms. I suspect not based on the fact that many of my own stay-at-home friends have little interest in what my life is like and often think that a mother who works full-time outside the home is akin to a mother who eats her young.

As for mothers working full-time outside the home, this book is sure to be a winner and a welcomed comic relief. As for myself, I plan to give this book to my mother for Christmas to help her understand the dilemmas of being a professional and a mother of young children and the difficulty of "having it all".

72 of 85 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars mixed feelings ..., November 30, 2002

By A Customer

This review is from: I Don't Know How She Does It: The Life of Kate Reddy, Working Mother (Hardcover)

Although I was totally engrossed in this novel, and thought that Kate was a very real and often sympathetic character, I ended up with very mixed feelings about this book. I am a mother who has temporarily given up a career I loved to stay at home with my kids. This wasn't an easy decision for me, and I would never criticize those who made a different decision (or who have no choice in the matter). I was shocked at the venomous comments about stay-at-home mothers from Kate and from other reviewers of this book. While I am sure that there are some stay-at-home mothers who take pleasure in making working mothers feel bad (they are probably the ones who are at-home because they feel like they should be, rather than because they want to be, and are miserable themselves), I believe that most of us have alot of sympathy for the sacrifices and trade-offs that working mothers are forced to make. And, frankly, most of us are too busy getting through our own days to worry about what others are doing. The descriptions of stay-at-home moms as spending all of their time at the gym, having manicures, writing notes for playdates, was just ludicrous. I have two toddlers and I feel incredibly lucky when I have the time to shower in the morning or get out for an hour by myself to go shopping. Being a stay-at-home mother isn't easy, neither is being a working mom, and I find it incredibly sad when we have to insult each other in order to feel better about our own choices.