I Don't Love You Anymore: What to do when he says, [Paperback]

David Clarke Ph.D. (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: October 1, 2002

"I don't love you anymore." These simple words have the power to send the listener into shock, denial, and desperation. The obvious response is to ask oneself, "What can I do to win my partner back?" In I Don't Love You Anymore, Dr. David Clarke provides just the battle plan needed.

Contrary to what many relationship "experts" recommend-weak, passive plans that involve begging or romancing a spouse back-Clarke offers an approach that he calls guerilla love, which essentially turns the tables on the wandering spouse. He outlines the biblical view of marriage and instructs readers on:

• Drawing healthy boundaries.
• Five things he really means when he says, "I don't love you anymore."
• The most popular "exit lies" and how to see through them.
• Classic symptoms of a person who is having an affair.

Most important, Clarke empowers and equips readers to make the best, most God-honoring, attempt at saving a marriage.

Product Details

• Paperback: 224 pages
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson (October 1, 2002)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0785265155
• ISBN-13: 978-0785265153
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.5 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (21 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #255,727 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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13 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Tough Love - May not work, but can't hurt, December 23, 2003

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Paul Skinner (Manassas, Virginia United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: I Don't Love You Anymore: What to do when he says, (Paperback)

The title of this book is what grabbed my attention - the five words nobody wants to hear. Inside, Dr Clarke gives hard hitting advice for dealing with an adulterous spouse, based on the tough love approach probably first advocated by Dr James Dobson. I found Dr Clarke's book more direct in its advice than Dobson's however. Clarke makes the victim realize that they have nothing to feel bad about, which if all that's one is to get out of the book, isn't a bad thing. Clarke hammers home again and again that nothing one spouse does to the other justifies the adulterer from the sinful action of adultery. Preach it, Dr Clarke.

I suspect the people that take Dr Clarke's advice are not very likely to win their spouses back - but then they aren't likely no matter what strategy they follow. So why not? Take Dr Clarke's advice and start picking up the pieces and feel better about yourself. Don't let your adultering spouse attempt to transfer their guilt onto you. Take charge! They flipped your world over, so flip it back!

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars great if you are new to the marriage failing, August 17, 2007

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Edna Cody "edna cody" (titusville, fl) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: I Don't Love You Anymore: What to do when he says, (Paperback)

I read this book when my husband had already moved out and is living with another women. For me, this book was too late but if you are in a place where your life partner is about to leave or has just left....this book is great. I am a Therapist and I highly recomend this book.

5 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Straight Talk, September 30, 2002

By A Customer

This review is from: I Don't Love You Anymore: What to do when he says, (Paperback)

I purchased this book because my best friend's husband told her that he wanted to break up (they had been married less than 1 year) and that he had had an affair. Probably because I've never been through the pain of having someone cheat on me, and because of our society's acceptance of just getting a divorce if things don't work out, I wasn't even very shocked by his behavior. My initial reaction to his adultery was for her to be the one to try to win him back. After reading this book (which I sent to her) it made me very angry at what he had done. This book provides the biblical approach to dealing with something as devastating as a cheating spouse.