31 of 34 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
No advice, just lots of answers ..., March 27, 2002
This review is from: Don't You Dare Get Married Until You Read This! The Book of Questions for Couples (Paperback)
Like another reviewer, I've been married twice already. Both times I, too, thought I'd given it my all. I had just about given up on the idea of "happily ever after".
As Mr. Donaldson was, I am involved in an across the planet romance.
When Rod came from Adelaide to Detroit to visit and propose to me last August, I was both thrilled and terrified. Yes, he seemed very different from the others, but I'd thought they were, too, at first.
Mr. Donaldson's book came to our attention because he and his wife had tackled this six years before we did. The first really good sign was that Rod was as enthusiastic as I was to try this...the second is that we're about halfway through the book now and are finding very few areas for concern. Nor, for that matter, many topics to which we can't say "As we'd discussed before". (You talk a lot when 10,000 milkes makes that the only avenue of contact.)
The book is not filled with advice, nor is it a "how to". It will take real work, painful honesty, and complete openness to make any meaningfiul use of this book, but if you're willing to do that, it is a wonderful resource! It's like a "do-it-yourself" preCana conference. The questions to share range from the mundane (who should do the dishes and change the diapers) to the profound (what is the meaning of your life) to the scary (what would you do if I had an affair).
If you're smart enough to really use this book, I highly recommend it. I also recommend that you both answer the questions before you read one anothers answers ... and Rod and I find it impossible to resist commentary on the questions. We also add comments to eacxh others responses. We're doing the exercises by e-mail, but it spawns many hours long phone conversations.
Want to really know who you're marrying? Buy this book, use it, and take it seriously.
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27 of 30 people found the following review helpful:
3.0 out of 5 stars
Good but not great..., January 13, 2003
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This review is from: Don't You Dare Get Married Until You Read This! The Book of Questions for Couples (Paperback)
This book does have many questions, but they are often overly simple and leading. If you really don't know the person you are about to marry, this is probably a good start, but I felt it lacked hard questions.
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22 of 25 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Outside of the box thinking!, February 7, 2003
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This review is from: Don't You Dare Get Married Until You Read This! The Book of Questions for Couples (Paperback)
I thought I had read all the books that pose the questions to ask before marriage. What I know now is that I had read only the books of a low standard.
After reading about Donaldson's book in The Wall Street Journal yesterday I had to have it. This is the No#1 best book that couples need before they get married.
Donaldson's interviews with 1500 people to get the 500+ questions provides such a high variety of issues to be covered. This is a must for any couple who really wants thier marriage to start right and last!
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