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Don't You Dare Get Married Until You Read This! The Book of Questions for Couples

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Like another reviewer, I've been married twice already. Both times I, too, thought I'd given it my all. I had just about given up on the idea of "happily ever after".

As Mr. Donaldson was, I am involved in an across the planet romance.

When Rod came from Adelaide to Detroit to visit and propose to me last August, I was both thrilled and terrified. Yes, he seemed very different from the others, but I'd thought they were, too, at first.

Mr. Donaldson's book came to our attention because he and his wife had tackled this six years before we did. The first really good sign was that Rod was as enthusiastic as I was to try this...the second is that we're about halfway through the book now and are finding very few areas for concern. Nor, for that matter, many topics to which we can't say "As we'd discussed before". (You talk a lot when 10,000 milkes makes that the only avenue of contact.)

The book is not filled with advice, nor is it a "how to". It will take real work, painful honesty, and complete openness to make any meaningfiul use of this book, but if you're willing to do that, it is a wonderful resource! It's like a "do-it-yourself" preCana conference. The questions to share range from the mundane (who should do the dishes and change the diapers) to the profound (what is the meaning of your life) to the scary (what would you do if I had an affair).

If you're smart enough to really use this book, I highly recommend it. I also recommend that you both answer the questions before you read one anothers answers ... and Rod and I find it impossible to resist commentary on the questions. We also add comments to eacxh others responses. We're doing the exercises by e-mail, but it spawns many hours long phone conversations.

Want to really know who you're marrying? Buy this book, use it, and take it seriously.

This book does have many questions, but they are often overly simple and leading. If you really don't know the person you are about to marry, this is probably a good start, but I felt it lacked hard questions.

I thought I had read all the books that pose the questions to ask before marriage. What I know now is that I had read only the books of a low standard.

After reading about Donaldson's book in The Wall Street Journal yesterday I had to have it. This is the No#1 best book that couples need before they get married.

Donaldson's interviews with 1500 people to get the 500+ questions provides such a high variety of issues to be covered. This is a must for any couple who really wants thier marriage to start right and last!

I don't normally write reviews but this book has struck me with such a sence of wisdom and perspective that I cannot resist the desire to write about it.

I thoroughly enjoyed Donaldson approach having interviewed more than 1500 people to identify the right questions to ask before marriage. Somehow he resisted the temptation to provide a commentary on the questions he poses which I really appreciate. I love that I can make my own decision about why certain questions are or are not relevant to me. Basically Donaldson presents the questions and the reader decides what to do with them.

I was refered to this book by a friend of mine because I am engaged and she knows that I hate to repeat the mistakes of others. In the beginning chapters of the book I resonated with the authors revelation that 'the majority of divorce causing problems are forseeable before the wedding'. Donaldson argues that having access to the right questions allows you to unearth these divorce causing problems before they arise, before the big day.

Simply put, this is one of those books where everything said and the questions posed make common sence, as if you already knew what was written but you just needed it to be articulated. This has been and continues to be an excellent book for my intended wife and I. If you want to avoid the mistakes that most make and make a wise marriage choice - Order the book right now!

This book of "Don't you dare get married until you read this" has really been a lifesaver for me. I have been married 2 times and I could never understand why I was not making a success of my marriages. I thought I was putting 100% effort to making the marriage work, but something always seemed to go wrong. After my 2nd breakup, I came across this book through a friend and after reading it, I realised that I did not really know my previous partners. I now have met 'my soul mate' and together we have been going through the book and it is amazing how much closer we are and how well we know each other. We understanding where we are both coming from, and that I have never had before, even though I Thought I did. This book has given me the confidence to know that I am making the right decision in getting married for the third time. I am going into the marriage with my eyes wide open. Thank you Corey for having the insight to write such an informative book.

After reading countless books on relationships, & more importantly preparation for marriage, I was put onto Corey Donaldsons book. Reading it personally & as a couple has ignited new understanding & substance to our relationship whilst proposing questions never asked or thought of before. We enjoyed what we called the "personal approach", as questions were posed to us rather than a dictate on marriage. We experienced a gamut of emotions whilst reading & more importantly studying the book, & can now safely say we are prepared for marriage.

While it's important to discuss some of the issues in this book with your potential spouse, I really feel that a lot of these questions are the type that get answered pretty early on in a relationship. Perhaps this is a book for those who plan to get married after only a very short relationship. If you've been together for any real length of time, you'll already know the answers to nearly all of these questions. These are questions to ask someone you've just started dating, not someone you're already engaged to. My fiance laughed and laughed at most of these, because they seem silly once you know a person well.

We took the advice of another reviewer and started trading questions back and forth via email. Answering eachother's questions and having a discussion about our answers. It has been a great tool to taking our relationship to a new level as far as getting to know eachother..since we live on opposite ends of the continent. I was very leary of being in a long distance relationship and getting serious - but this book has calmed some of my fears. I was in a worlwind romance that led to 9 years in a bad marriage to someone that was my opposite. With the help of this book I feel that I am making a more conscience choice in choosing my next mate - significant other. If you want to find out how much you really have in common and it is priority in your marriage - try this book - it works..and best of luck to you.

"Dont you dare get married until you read this"...presented both my fiancee and i a compelling way to discover each other. Corey's uncanny way to help us reach at issues now that would only unearth later is remarkable. This book is the 'lightswitch' to any relationship that lies before the road of marriage.

This is a great book and really helped my fiance and I get closer by going over the questions in the book.