“Offering plentiful composite case studies, the fair-minded, inclusive, and congenial Nemzoff doesn’t promise quick solutions and realizes some problems are unsolvable, but she focuses on helpful ways to improve relationships that with time and effort can be fixed.”—Publishers Weekly
“Family therapists know that the main difference between humans and animals is that humans maintain relationships with their in-laws. Ruth Nemzoff’s Don’t Roll Your Eyes is a trenchant and insightful exploration of that species-specific behavior.”—Brad Sachs, PhD, author of Emptying the Nest
"Indispensable advice! Ruth Nemzoff’s recipe for healthy in-law relationships rests on impeccable research and a wealth of real-life experience, but it is also well-seasoned with a depth of wisdom and common sense that is truly exceptional. Her straightforward strategies make this book the perfect wedding gift—not just for the bride and groom but for their parents and siblings too."--Gina Stepp, Family and Relationships Editor—Vision Media
“Ruth Nemzoff thinks wisely and deeply about family connections. She presents a carefully nuanced consideration of this oldest of topics. Don’t Roll Your Eyes has something to teach everyone. It would make a wonderful gift to any family member and is an essential addition to the bookshelf of any professional working with families.”--Judy Osborne, author of Wisdom for Separated Parents
“With her characteristic wisdom and wit, Ruth Nemzoff treads into the minefield of in-law relationships, from extended families to grandchildren, money, religion, and myriad other issues. She offers examples and expert advice to help us keep in-laws from turning into out-laws. An indispensible field guide for generations on both sides of the in-law divide.”--Mary W. Quigley, www.mothering.21.com, NYU professor and author
"Dr. Nemzoff's clarity and candor, wit and wisdom really shine through. She is not afraid to tackle any issue, any modern permutation of the extended family in the 21st century."--Joan Wise, former general counsel AARP
Ruth Nemzoff is the author of Don’t Bite Your Tongue, and a popular speaker on the topic of parenting adult children and family dynamics, including at the AARP. Ruth was profiled or interviewed for many national and local papers and radio and television, including The Boston Globe, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, Jewish Advocate, and InterFaith Family. She is a resident scholar at Brandeis University's Women's Studies Research Center, and lives in Boston, MA. Find her on the web at www.ruthnemzoff.com.
Put a statute of limitations on slights". "Forget perfect, settle for okay."
It's a good reference book for any in-law just in terms of bringing up issues that commonly arise and giving options of how to deal with them.
She examines the forces that make in-law relationships troublesome as well as how multiple generations can benefit from them.
I really enjoyed this book as a daughter-in-law trying (and currently failing) to forge a workable relationship with my in-laws. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Desertgirl
While addressing universal concerns, Dr. Nemzoff also ask us to see on a very personal level how family relationships can be repaired, resulting in feeling better ourselves and at... Read morePublished 9 months ago by Ann Abram, PhD, LCSW
With sensitive insight and a wealth of experience, Nemzoff offers common sense solutions and strategies for dealing with difficult family situations. Read morePublished on October 5, 2012 by Susan Johnson