Don't Stop Now, You're Killing Me: The Sadomasochism Game in Everyday Life [Hardcover]

David Brandt (Author)

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Brandt addresses not the sexual masochism of whips and chains but the "Everyday Masochism" (EM) of self-punishment. Almost half of Brandt's test subjects showed signs of EMthwarted assertiveness, low self-esteem, or guilt. He finds four types of EMs: pleasers, martyrs, perfectionists, and avoiders, all of whom are natural victims for opportunistic lovers, spouses, or workmates. Brandt includes a test to help readers determine their own EM tendencies, tells how to spot potentially sadistic partners, and offers advice on breaking the EM pattern and increasing self-esteem. While the book is well written and will appeal to many readers, Brandt offers little related research to support his theories. Margaret Allen, M.L.S., West Lebanon, N.H.
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Product Details

• Hardcover: 240 pages
• Publisher: Simon & Schuster (May 30, 1986)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0671527959
• ISBN-13: 978-0671527952
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.5 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #152,245 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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5.0 out of 5 stars A fabulous and insightful book, March 3, 2003

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This review is from: Don't Stop Now, You're Killing Me: The Sadomasochism Game in Everyday Life (Hardcover)

This book is one of those rare finds. A highly readable and insightful book about a too common psychological issue: self sabotage. The author's brilliant insights and accessible examples reflect a deep understanding of the dynamics of self sabotage and explain why so many of us do ourselves more harm than good. Procrastination, destructive relationships, job failure, inability to advocate for ourselves, these are all examples of what Dr. Brandt calls everyday masochism. He offers wise and brilliant advice for chaning these destructive patterns