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Don't Take It Personally!: The Art of Dealing with Rejection

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I usually find that the average self-help book could be boiled down to a long magazine article and not lose anything valuable in the process, but "Don't Take It Personally" is different. Dr. Savage is obviously a very experienced therapist; I especially like the perceptive way she explores the many reasons we allow other people's opinions and comments to wound us. I recognized my own tendencies in several of the case histories presented, and was also impressed by her canny analysis of clients' family background. I can't say that reading "Don't Take It Personally" has cured me for good of my hypersensitivity, but I do feel that I have a better grip on it: when someone criticizes me now, I'm far more likely to remind myself, "That's simply her viewpoint; she may be right or wrong, but it doesn't have to define who I am." Taking control of your own life is a great experience, and Dr. Savage's book is a useful tool for getting you there.

I've never read a self-help book that so completely addressed pertinent issues for me. Not only does it deal with rejection, but also with over-sensitivity, personal boundaries and co-dependent relationships. The book makes you think a lot about how the messages from your childhood have influenced the way you perceive yourself as an adult. Once you can identify things like that, you can accept and move on. This is a wonderful book.

I first saw this book while browsing for something completely different. The price was right so i decided to pick it up. I really wasnt expecting much at all from it, but was pleasantly surprised to find it explained alot where behavior comes from when dealing with others in plain English. I wouldnt say it gives enough advice to do as the title says, but it does give alot of insight into re-evaluating past rejection--especailly with families. I feel this book has a lot of pontential, but unfortuantely doesnt explore things into as much depth as i would prefer. I would also have liked to see more said about approaching things and how to change instead of just exploring where certain things come from. However, it has a lot of great ideas presented clearly. All in all, a good book.

"Don't Take it Personally" is a wonderful guide to exploring the rejection encountered in family, intimate, office, and social relationships. Elayne Savage's personalized and clear style engaged me from the beginning and led me through the process of identifying, understanding and taking control of my rejection issues. Dr. Savage establishes a comfortable atmosphere to understand the impact of childhood experiences of rejection on adult relationships and expectations, and helped me to realize that I am not alone in my feelings. In fact, throughout the book I often found myself exclaiming "Wow, that's me!"

A wonderful book that offers practical advice for not taking things so personally. Elayne Savage's writing is clear and easy to understand as well as being very touching. I have come away from this book with a whole new understanding of my own patterns with taking things personally and I feel now that I have some of the tools necessary to make changes in my life.

The book Dr Savage wrote was absolutely electrifying to me! I did not expect to have answers and solutions to my personal and social questions. As an example, I was stunned to realize that I cry, when my husband directs his anger at me because I was emotionally abused as a child. That was something that never occurred to me. And I better understand things like why women stay with me who are severely abusive to them. As a result of reading his book, I'm noticing when I start to sabotage my hearts desire and I can reverse that action. I think if I read this book over and over I will continue to glean true jewels of understanding about myself and those around me. I definitely take this book personally. I think everyone could use this as a guide book to improve their life and understand the people of the world a little better.

This book provides examples of many kinds of rejections and positive steps one can take to cope.

While reading this book I quickly came to realize that this is the type of book you read and re-read and re-read. An excellent reference book to help you through life's many trials and tribulations.

I rated this book with 3 stars cause I feel it was just OK. This book was recommended by a professional so I was really looking forward to it. Not a bad read over all, i really enjoyed the case study format of it . I did feel however that this book just didnt really blow me away with any new insights.

Most helpful (and yes I feel this particular point has helped greatly) Just as the title suggested "dont MAKE it personal" it rarely ever is. Most people are so wrapped up in thier own drama, they seldomly set out to "do" anything persnal to you, so try not to perceive everything in a "me against the world" you may find if you dont react so offended to start with you may diffuse a situation before it begins, so the power lies with in you, as always.

Enjoy