Don't Take It Personally!: Transform Rejection into Self-Acceptance [Hardcover]

Elayne R. Savage (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 2000

"Never before has the impact of rejection been explored to this degree. Don't Take It Personally! offers much reassurance and inspiration."-Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and End the Struggle and Dance with Life."This wonderfully readable book offers wise counsel and information...useful insights into an issue that impacts each of our lives-rejection"-Judy Tatelbaum, M.S.W., author of The Courage of Grieve"This is psychological education at its best. Elayne Savage has provided a thoughtful, good-humored, original treatment of a crucial life problem."-Elaine Aron, Ph.D., author of The Highly Sensitive Person

--This text refers to the Paperback edition.

Editorial Reviews

Review

Never has the impact of rejection been explored to this degree. Don't Take It Personally! offers much reassurance and inspiration. -- Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., author of Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway and End the Struggle and Dance With Life

This is psychological education at its best. Elayne Savage has provided a thoughtful, good-humored, treatment of a crucial life problem. -- Elaine Aron, Ph.D., author of The Highly Sensitive Person

This wonderfully readable book offers wise counsel and information...useful insights into an issue that impacts each of our lives-rejection. -- Judy Tatelbaum, M.S.W., author of The Courage of Grieve --This text refers to the Paperback edition.

About the Author

Elayne Savage is an internationally known relationship expert, media guest and member of the National Speakers Association. She holds a Ph.D. in family psychology, drawing on twenty-five years of clinical experience with individuals, couples and families in Berkeley, California. She is the author of Breathing Room?Creating Space to be a Couple and can be reached through her website: www.elaynesavage.com. --This text refers to the Paperback edition.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 226 pages
• Publisher: Mjf Books (May 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1567313779
• ISBN-13: 978-1567313772
• Product Dimensions: 8.6 x 5.8 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.3 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #815,541 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Dr. Elayne Savage is The Queen of Rejection.® She shows you how to enhance your personal and professional relationships by not taking rejection and disappointment so personally. You'll discover how to clear out hurt feelings and resentment, creating space for connection.

Elayne owns over twenty-five years experience in communication, relationship, and workplace coaching and as a Marriage and Family Therapist. Her books are published in nine languages.

A skilled storyteller, she vividly illustrates the powerful impact rejection has on us. She provides a reflective window for you to recall and process your own experiences.

A professional member of the National Speakers Association, her speaking programs, training, and consulting provide innovative approaches to handling rejection, criticism, miscommunication, difficult people and expectations and disappointments.

Elayne Savage is widely quoted in national and international media outlets including WashingtonPost.com (online discussion cohost), Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, CNN.com, Forbes.com, Forbes Woman, Glamour.com, WebMD, Newsday, USA Today, Cosmopolitan, Self, Ladies Home Journal, Women's Health, Men's Health, Modern Bride, Bridal Guide, Psychology Today, NPR, MSNBC, The London Guardian, Maury Povich, David Brenner Show, and BBC World News.

For lots of information and articles on rejection and taking things personally visit http://www.QueenofRejection.com

And you can access my 'Tips From The Queen Of Rejection'® blog archives at http://www.TipsFromTheQueenOfRejection.com

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

45 of 46 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A sensible and compassionate approach to a painful problem, October 16, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Don't Take It Personally!: The Art of Dealing with Rejection (Paperback)

I usually find that the average self-help book could be boiled down to a long magazine article and not lose anything valuable in the process, but "Don't Take It Personally" is different. Dr. Savage is obviously a very experienced therapist; I especially like the perceptive way she explores the many reasons we allow other people's opinions and comments to wound us. I recognized my own tendencies in several of the case histories presented, and was also impressed by her canny analysis of clients' family background. I can't say that reading "Don't Take It Personally" has cured me for good of my hypersensitivity, but I do feel that I have a better grip on it: when someone criticizes me now, I'm far more likely to remind myself, "That's simply her viewpoint; she may be right or wrong, but it doesn't have to define who I am." Taking control of your own life is a great experience, and Dr. Savage's book is a useful tool for getting you there.

32 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This book changed my life., July 22, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Don't Take It Personally!: The Art of Dealing with Rejection (Paperback)

I've never read a self-help book that so completely addressed pertinent issues for me. Not only does it deal with rejection, but also with over-sensitivity, personal boundaries and co-dependent relationships. The book makes you think a lot about how the messages from your childhood have influenced the way you perceive yourself as an adult. Once you can identify things like that, you can accept and move on. This is a wonderful book.

30 of 31 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Good Read with Some Great Advice, July 8, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: Don't Take It Personally!: Transform Rejection into Self-Acceptance (Hardcover)

I first saw this book while browsing for something completely different. The price was right so i decided to pick it up. I really wasnt expecting much at all from it, but was pleasantly surprised to find it explained alot where behavior comes from when dealing with others in plain English. I wouldnt say it gives enough advice to do as the title says, but it does give alot of insight into re-evaluating past rejection--especailly with families. I feel this book has a lot of pontential, but unfortuantely doesnt explore things into as much depth as i would prefer. I would also have liked to see more said about approaching things and how to change instead of just exploring where certain things come from. However, it has a lot of great ideas presented clearly. All in all, a good book.