32 of 36 people found the following review helpful:
3.0 out of 5 stars
A Leason in Forced Bi-Sexuality!, March 24, 2002
This review is from: Don't Tell Anyone (DVD)
People like myself, who have spent their lives in fairly open and liberal environments, might have trouble with the ultimate statement of this film. It seems to be saying: if you can't beat them, join them.
We observe in this film a young Peruvian's, Joaquin, struggle through his youth and adolescence with the knowledge that he is gay in a society that is both too macho and Catholic to tolerate alternative lifestyles - not to mention his family, which represents this society in microcosm. (Possibly his father's Hitler moustache is a tick over-the-top!)
As a college freshman, he makes a desperate attempt with a nice, but highly naïve, girl to be "normal". He explains his problem to her, and she believes in her naiveté that she can cure him. Joaquin falls, however, madly in love and has an affair with Gonzalo, the fiancé of his girlfriend's best friend. Gonzalo is shock when Joaquin breaks off with his girlfriend out of love for him. Gonzalo explains that leading an openly gay life in Peru is not a viable option for him; he suggests that Joaquin come to his senses - meaning he should get back with his girlfriend, marry her even (as he intends to do with his), so they can go back to having their affair on the side without problems.
Botching it up with Gonzalo by telling his fiancé of their affair, he quits school and goes on a drug and alcohol binge with his queer-bashing schoolmate, Alfonzo. Well, wonders never cease - Alfonzo has the hots for him and they sleep together. When asked why he beats up on gays in the park, he explains because they're queers, not like them - respectable people, who will marry, have kids and screw with men on the side.
Alfonzo seems to have OD'ed on their wild drug binge, and Joaquin, terrified, runs off to America, hoping to leave this whole mess behind him and finally be able to find some happiness in life. He ends up dog-sitting in an attempt to make enough money to stay off the street as a hustler. In the end, he hates his life in Miami and returns to both his country and his girlfriend (who's still naïve enough to believe she can change him).
He meets up first with Alfonzo (no, he didn't die), who is now married with a kid on the way (we can sense, however, what he's doing on the side) and with Gonzalo, who - despite the fact that he did not marry - claims to have not changed his opinion. In the end, it's clear that Joaquin will also marry, but have his "desert" on the side.
At first, I was somewhat shocked by this, but then again, I've never had to live under such oppression. I'm assuming that many in North America and most European countries will have trouble identifying with this film, even find its characters somewhat despicable. It almost seems to be a glory hymn to bi-sexuality. On second thought, I felt like I should cut it some slack, though.
Regardless of what you ultimately think about the film's message, it is well written, directed and acted...
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15 of 16 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Perú à la française or say cheese, February 22, 2001
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This review is from: Don't Tell Anyone (DVD)
This is a stunning film from Perú about being different in a stifling, conservative society where appearances are everything and honesty is not an option. Caught between an overbearing, racist father (racial tolerance still has a long ways to go in these parts) and an obviously repressed, pious mother, a well to do young man must come to grips with his real self encountering hypocrisy both in the straight and gay world. Unfolding with a gift for storytelling and a dash of wit, this film is a candidate as permanent fixture in the gay or human rights wing of any dvd collection. The transfer is tack-sharp and the colors vivid; the sound is excellent. Some might quibble that such a hadsome, personable and bilingual young man might connect with the gay community in South Beach, where he goes to live for a spell, managing to get work at a men's clothing boutique, or disco, or whatever, instead of being reduced to walking dogs for rich folks and hustling on the side, but then the filmmaker would have had to scuttle his deliciously sardonic (and sad) final wedding shot that ends the film. Don't hesitate, get this one!
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34 of 41 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
An honest movie about sexuality..., April 21, 2000
"Don't tell Anyone," or "No Se Lo Digas a Nadie," is great, scrappy little Peruvian movie that was a big hit last year at the Latino Film Festival in Chicago. It don't think it was ever widely released here in the states but it's a movie that's definitely worth checking out.
It's a coming-of-age story about a young man who is struggling with his sexual identity amidsts the often glitzy and decadent club scene of Lima, Peru.
What really makes this movie special and sets it apart from most American "gay" movies is the fact that it is utterly honest, it never tries to oversimplify this man's relationships. Maybe what's really refreshing is that it's wise enough to know that the truth about human sexuality does not lie in extremes, that someone should be "gay" or "straight."
It's a gay movie that is subversive for not dogmatically celebrating the gay lifestyle as the end all and be all of homosexuality.
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