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Worth Reading, April 18, 2011
In 1913, women were expected to wear smotheringly hot full length dresses in order to be considered decent. Most women did not work outside of the home, being expected to be happy in their role as wife and mother. In most of the world, women didn't even have the right to vote. Surely any marital advice given at this time would seem incredibly outdated or, at the very least, charmingly quaint, in the year 2011? It was with this attitude that I first opened the pages of 'Don'ts For Wives' by Blanche Ebbutt. It did not take me long to realise just how wrong I was. While some of the tips are no longer relevant to the average reader - those having to do with how to deal with servants, for example - much of the wisdom within this volume is as relevant today as it was then. I found myself taking note of many pieces of advice, with the intention of attempting to remedy my behaviour within my own marriage.
Much chastened, I moved onto
Don'ts For Husbands with a more open mind. Once again, I was surprised at how relevant much of Ms Ebbutt's advice is to today's relationships and the progressiveness of some of the points, considering the era in which the book was written.
It is a shame that these books have been so unknown for so long, as I feel that the advice in them is more relevant to a newly married couple than a dozen books of the
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex persuasion. I would venture to go so far as to state that a copy of each of these books should be given to the happy couple as a wedding present (or perhaps a housewarming gift for those in less formal arrangements). Certainly anybody in a permanent relationship should consider reading them. You will be surprised at just how much you are doing wrong.
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Some dated, some timeless, April 28, 2008
This review is from: Don'ts for Wives (Hardcover)
Definitely early 20th century, but more balanced than you might expect. You have (paraphrased), "Stay out of his way when he gets home, he doesn't want to be bothered after a hard day's work," but you also have, "Tell him what you think, you have a right to your opinion." My favorite is (also paraphrased), "Even though you can buy jelly in the store, the pleasure he takes in eating yours makes it worth the trouble to make it yourself." That's right. Make your own jelly. Good for a chuckle.
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Don'ts For Wives, October 5, 2009
This review is from: Don'ts for Wives (Hardcover)
Great Book! Much like the Don't For Husbands, it's amazing that people don't change. Only the times.
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