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Doomed Grooms: Gay Husbands of Straight Wives

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This book was healing therapy for me. It has helped me to realise my bitterness is fading away and I can once again get on with living. Bonnie is writing about the fall out when it is revealed a spouse or significant other is gay. It was comforting to have a voice through her writing.

I am a bisexual man. This book should be required reading for any bisexual man or straight woman who is contemplating marrying a bisexual male. I am not a faggot. I like men and I think that other men like me are sorely misunderstood. Think your guy is gay? Read this book and learn the difference.

I am a gay married man who is at the crossroads of his life. After 14 years of living with a woman who is loving, kind, and understanding, I have decided to make the most difficult decision in my life to date--namely, be honest with her. After reading the book "Straight Wives, Shattered Lives," by Bonnie Kaye,I realize that the longer I withhold this truth from her, the more damage I am doing to her life. When I read some of the stories of these women in the book, I was faced with the reality of what I am doing to my own wife. I have fought these feelings of male attractions for many years. I wanted to be the husband my wife needs. I never meant to hurt her. I take my marriage vows very seriously. I married her because I was in love with her, and I still love her so much. But now I realize that I can never love her in the way she deserves to be loved--totally and completely. I know this because I have read the book "Forbidden Love With a Married Man: Email Diaries" by Dennis Schleicher. In his story, I saw the kind of relationship that I too desire with someone of the same sex. Between these two books, I realized I had to be honest with myself before I could be honest with my wife. I know my life will never be the same after I reveal this news, but I don't want to keep hiding behind a lie. Wish me luck.

This is an insightful perspective to the difficulties faced by the wife's of gay Husbands. I think it has certainly left me with some thinking to do, and has helped me to process my own situation much better than trying to do it myself.

I do think tho, that it could be better titled, and does have a sense of it being inevitable that the relationships will end. I would like a little more emphasis on issues such as couples who do stay together however.
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Samantha-SYDNEY