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Drinking with Men: A Memoir [Kindle Edition]

Rosie Schaap
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Book Description

NPR “Best Books of 2013”
BookPage Best Books of 2013
Library Journal Best Books of 2013: Memoir
Flavorwire 10 Best Nonfiction Books of 2013

A vivid, funny, and poignant memoir that celebrates the distinct lure of the camaraderie and community one finds drinking in bars.

Rosie Schaap has always loved bars: the wood and brass and jukeboxes, the knowing bartenders, and especially the sometimes surprising but always comforting company of regulars. Starting with her misspent youth in the bar car of a regional railroad, where at fifteen she told commuters’ fortunes in exchange for beer, and continuing today as she slings cocktails at a neighborhood joint in Brooklyn, Schaap has learned her way around both sides of a bar and come to realize how powerful the fellowship among regular patrons can be.

In Drinking with Men, Schaap shares her unending quest for the perfect local haunt, which takes her from a dive outside Los Angeles to a Dublin pub full of poets, and from small-town New England taverns to a character-filled bar in Manhattan’s TriBeCa. Drinking alongside artists and expats, ironworkers and soccer fanatics, she finds these places offer a safe haven, a respite, and a place to feel most like herself. In rich, colorful prose, Schaap brings to life these seedy, warm, and wonderful rooms. Drinking with Men is a love letter to the bars, pubs, and taverns that have been Schaap’s refuge, and a celebration of the uniquely civilizing source of community that is bar culture at its best.


Editorial Reviews

From Booklist

Drinking memoirs generally fall into two categories: “Never again” and “Pour me another.” Schaap, who writes the “Drink” column for the New York Times Magazine, has composed one of the latter, an ode to the “great tradition of regularhood” advocating “equal regularhood rights for women.” From her teenage discovery of the bar car on the Metro-North New Haven Line; to her college years at the Pig, in North Bennington, Vermont; to a marriage-ending epiphany at Else’s, in Montreal, Schaap charts her path from adolescence to adulthood, bar by bar, sometimes having a few too many but always finding the sense of community and belonging she clearly craves. Early passages can seem a bit naive, as when she suggests bars’ negative depiction in popular culture (what about Cheers?) or when she just can’t understand what her friends and family have against her new pals from the bar. But, as her remembered self ages, deeper and richer insights emerge. Ultimately, this is as much about growing up in bars as it is growing out of them. --Keir Graff

Review

"Schaap brings a poet's touch to her memoir, which brims with insight and wisdom."
–Jimmy Breslin

“This book will be a classic. There is so much joy in this book! It’s a great, comforting, wonderful, funny, inspiring, moving memoir about community and belief and the immense redemptive powers of alcohol drunk properly.”
—Kate Christensen, author of In the Drink and The Great Man

"There are bar stories and there are coming-of-age stories. And then there is Rosie Schaap's thoughtful and funny chronicle that reminds us of all the drinks, dives, and deep conversations that helped make us who we are. This is a wise, engaging memoir."
—Wendy McClure, author of The Wilder Life and I’m Not the New Me

“Schaap warmly toasts the urge so many of us share to find a spot where everybody knows your name.”
People

“A witty homage to pubs and bars and the regulars who call them home.”
O Magazine 

“[Schaap] describes the unusual camaraderie among bar ‘regulars’ with poignant specificity. It’s a cozy, intimate pleasure to go belly-to-bar with her.”
Entertainment Weekly

"With focused premise and expansive feeling... [and] very smart assessments of a mode of being that’s not given the credit it deserves. 'Drinking With Men' would pair very well this time of year with a well-aged whiskey and a handful of peanuts."
The Boston Globe

“A wonderfully funny and openhearted book from a generous, charismatic writer… [Schaap is] a born storyteller… There's no substitute for the kind of community you can find in a good tavern. And no American writer can explain it better than Rosie Schaap.”
—NPR.org

“Rosie Schaap’s New York Times column on the pleasures of drinking has always been—like the best bartenders—funny, smart, and slightly bawdy. This memoir is also all those things—and there’s no hangover.”
W Magazine

“Beautifully rendered.
”—The Daily Beast

“Funny, smart-as-hell, moving.”
Salon 

“Witty…a vivid study of both Schaap’s life in bars, often as one of the few women regulars, and a gimlet-eyed exploration of modern bar culture.”
Chicago Tribune

“[Schaap] has a way with words, writing about her experiences in the bars of her life in a heartfelt, honest, and relatable way. I would like to request a drink pairing with each chapter.”
The Atlantic Wire 

“Phenomenal… Schaap is an expert storyteller.”
Food & Wine

“Ms. Schaap has a gift for camaraderie—and excellent taste in booze.”
New York Observer 

“Pour yourself a double and let Schaap’s writing amuse and enchant you.”
BookPage 

“Schaap is a gifted storyteller.”
Time Out Chicago

“Witty, compassionate…a meditation on learning how to drink well, wisely, and with eyes wide open…if you want an elegy to good bars and a stiff drink, Schaap has you covered.”
Full Stop

Drinking With Men will have you raising a glass to its incomparable author and the great bar-stool stories she tells.”
Flavorwire.com (Best Nonfiction books of 2013)

“Lively … [Rosie Schaap] is an energetic and warm storyteller, and the book celebrates bar culture at its best.”
HowAboutWe.com

“A perfect book for the beach, plane or coffee table — and, most especially, for anyone who loves hanging out in bars but can't quite put their finger on why…[a] fun, honest memoir.”
NPR (Best Books of 2013)

“Beautifully composed…detailed and genuine…the stories just seem to tell themselves.”
Library Journal (Best Books of 2013)
 

Product Details

  • File Size: 590 KB
  • Print Length: 288 pages
  • Publisher: Riverhead; Reprint edition (January 24, 2013)
  • Sold by: Penguin Group (USA) LLC
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B008ON3ZOI
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #217,092 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Book About Life February 1, 2013
Format:Hardcover
This book is so beautifully written, and although it's about life in bars, it's also about life in general. Tears came to my eyes on more than a few occasions as I read Drinking with Men, and I got my fair share of chuckles from it, too.

When I reached the end, I not only felt as though I knew Rosie Schaap really well, I felt as though I loved her, too, just like I love many of the people I've hung out with at bars over the years--for their insights, for their honesty, and because they've been kindred spirits.

This is a book that I'll re-read over and over again. Sort of a bar-goers Bible if you will.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Better than the title implies March 17, 2013
Format:Hardcover|Verified Purchase
There are so may ways most of us can identify with in Rosie's journey - drinking with men is simply a metaphor for how women find their place in the universe. I love that she uses the bar culture as a common equalizer of the sexes. It's not the pick-up bar or the sports bar she frequents, but the neighborhood bar where you have to humble yourself to your core and set your soul vulnerable. Believe me, the book is not this esoteric. Rosie leads us to the place better than group therapy, a place - when stumbled upon - can keep us sane.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars I could really identify! January 29, 2013
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Author Rosie Schaap really connects with her readers through thoughtful, often hysterically funny, and honest reflections of her time spent in some very important watering holes throughout her life.

I too, spent much of my younger days on bar stools -- I married my bartender for goodness sake. And it's only after reading her book that I realize how central these places were to the various chapters of my life. Throughout my reading of Drinking with Men, I often had to pause and consider the impact of the people, the communities, and even the tragedies that occured in and around the places I frequented. They all helped shape who I am and how I preceive the world around me. I realize that this is part of what is missing from my life now, as I have no place - aside from home and work and friends houses - to call my own. And like Schaap, it's not so much about the booze, it's not about nurturing alcoholism, but about finding a place where you fit in. At least sort of. For a time.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars The Religion of Tavernsim April 8, 2013
Format:Hardcover|Vine Customer Review of Free Product (What's this?)
You don't need to have a fondness for taverns or drinking to enjoy this book. Drinking with men can be summed up in one word: community.
Religion is nothing more than a community of like minded people..."a family." We all search for our own community, and Rosie found her community among those who trade money for shots of vodka and a basket of fries. Perhaps I loved this book because I've always romanticized taverns - having worked in plenty in my younger days - I know taverns function like a family; sometimes dysfunctional, sometimes stressful, almost always supportive.
And so, if you're a reader who enjoys stories filled with spirited characters and zig zag journeys, I've no doubt you'll enjoy Drinking with Men.
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5 of 6 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Homeward un-bound, with refreshments... February 2, 2013
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As a man, and a writer and someone who enjoys a drink I'm happy to add this little book to my library of books on bars. Seriously. Here Rosie Schaap's memoir will sit alongside Pete Hamill's A Drinking Life, J.R. Moehring's Tender Bar, and Malachy McCourt's several titles. As a look at the intricacies of the bar culture, Drinking With Men displays a joyful abandon and a new point of view. It arrives at a few important conclusions regarding the unwritten rules of bar conduct that guarantee safe passage. But there's more here than that alone. Ms. Schaap has considerable skills as a storyteller and overall, the book lurches, leaps, struggles and dances along on her search for a sense of belonging, for home in all it's senses. But one. Permanence.

If, as she points out in a pivotal chapter, self-reinvention has its price, then indeed this is the price she acknowledges with little avoidance. Anyone who has ever felt like an outsider can certainly relate to envying those who can move as she does, effortlessly through different social milieu, even if the label of outsider was self applied. There is a great deal to consider in these pages about one's self-worth and self-knowledge. Especially a sense of one's connection with the world around them and the constant need for varying depths of communication. Give and take.

In the end, for me, it was very clear that Ms. Schaap has certainly found a substantial home, if not in her choice of drinking haunts, then in the community of writers. I look forward to her next work, especially her fiction, which I hope will not be long in coming.
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5 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Epic Tales of Life as a Bar Regular January 31, 2013
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Rosie Schaap's "Drinking With Men" perfectly captures that combination of electric-comforting-elegant-underbelly that is a life as a bar regular. The book is an absolute pleasure to read, and on many levels, too. Schaap is both a poet and expert BS-sniffer, a real latter-day New York City dame. Her writing is not unlike soccer, the sport she loves: equal parts elegance and kicks, smooth and sharp. It's filled with wonderful stories that give insight both into Schaap's story and character and also offer a refreshingly positive view of bar culture. There are reasons why people become regulars and, as Schaap illustrates, alcoholism isn't necessarily one of them. The intriguing tension of the book is that while Schaap has forged deep and lasting relationships and downed many pints of Guinness with friends and strangers she remains, quite literally, an outsider, too: the teenager reading tarot cards in the Metro North bar car, the American abroad and, as the title suggests, the woman among men. What does it mean to belong? To this reader, that is the central and most affecting question asked throughout the profoundly entertaining, expertly-written "Drinking With Men."
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars Rosie Schaap is a beautiful writer.
Rosie Schaap can write the pants off any off any of the men she drinks with in her marvelous memoir, never mind go head to head (and probably drink for drink) with the famous male... Read more
Published 6 days ago by Melissa Kirsch
1.0 out of 5 stars One Star
hate it
Published 10 days ago by Lydia Burger
5.0 out of 5 stars Men, Women and Drinking in Bars
Fascinating memoir, as I come from a family of heavy drinkers/alcoholics.
Published 24 days ago by Llsmith
5.0 out of 5 stars So warm, intelligent and vulnerable. A beautiful book!!
I fell in love with so many of the people in this book--especially Rosie and Frank. Anyone who has friends will love it. Anyone who has ever been in love will love it. Read more
Published 4 months ago by Deborah in Florida
3.0 out of 5 stars Ups and Downs
Rosie Schaap's Drinking with Men has just as many "up" qualities as "down" qualities. Read more
Published 6 months ago by nick seaver
3.0 out of 5 stars No what I expected...
I don't really know what I expected, but it was definitely more than what I got. The book was okay, but I just wanted more stories, more meaning. Read more
Published 7 months ago by tx_76087
3.0 out of 5 stars A story of 'NEED'.
The book reads like a travel log with excellent human observations along the way. At the end of the book you realize she never comments on her relationship with her famous father. Read more
Published 9 months ago by Thomas Anthony Agoglia
5.0 out of 5 stars A Must Read
Such beautiful, funny, touching and realistic prose. Kudos to Rosie for capturing the comaraderie of all regulars at their locals. Read more
Published 10 months ago by Susan Pallarino
5.0 out of 5 stars Loved this book!
One of my favorite books of all time. What a great memoir. I want to have a drink with Rosie.
Published 10 months ago by L. Lillibridge
2.0 out of 5 stars Pretty darn dull
Thought this would be a good book after hearing about it. Not what I expected. The author does a good job of relating many stories about different bars, and the various... Read more
Published 11 months ago by Tad O. Pary
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More About the Author

Rosie Schaap is the author of Drinking With Men: A Memoir. She has also been a bartender, a fortuneteller, a librarian at a paranormal society, an English teacher, an editor, a preacher, a community organizer, and a manager of homeless shelters.

A contributor to This American Life, npr.org, theatlantic.com, the Poetry Foundation, and publications including Lucky Peach, Marie Claire, and Saveur, Schaap writes the monthly "Drink" column for The New York Times Magazine. She is currently working on a book about whisk(e)y.

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