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Dumped!: A Survival Guide for the Woman Who's Been Left by the Man She Loved

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I was dumped a year ago. In addition to the confusion of betrayal in a 27-year relationship, I was confused by the conflicting advice of the many self-help books on divorce. I did not see my situation as an opportunity for growth. I did not care that half of all US marriages end in divorce. I wasn't interested in the differences between people from "Mars and Venus." I wanted to die. Warren's book was a rock of practicality in the turbulent waters. Now, even a year later, I read passages late at night, like the Bible, to keep me on track. Women will especially like her chapters detailing the signs of an imminent "dumping." Despite my despair at the time, I couldn't help but laugh at how predictable, like a testosterone-written script, my husband's behavior was. Also, ladies, you will LOVE the chapter on how she turns those self-blamings of "If only I had..." into "if only HE had..." I'm not through the tunnel yet, but Sally Warren's book gives me hope.

I had no idea that I could make it through my nighmare. The author knows exactly what we go through when we are dumped- and being dumped is certainly different from when couples mutually call it quits. Mine hurt and stung and I didn't know how I could live anymore. This book gives us support and hope and courage (the three things we need most!). If you've been left by the man you loved, READ THIS! My only regret is that I waited 2 months to get it. God Bless...

A friend gave me a copy of this book "Dumped" and it has been like finally having a friend who understands what I have been through. Six months ago,my husband left me for another woman after 16 years of marriage. I didn't know that there was Hell on earth until that happend. When you are dumped, it is really hard for other people to understand the trauma and emotion. While I got sympathy at first, after the first few weeks, people don't want to talk about it anymore and yet I couldn't seem to control my own emotions and began to feel like a pariah. While I understood that, I really didn't understand a lot of my own emotions and trauma. Ms. Warren has put it all in perspective for me and really made it easier to cope with this dramatic change in my life. I just hope that many other women ( and men) will have the chance to read this book. I would suggest that it would be useful to read it before you may be faced with a breakup as it would really help you to understand the signs and perhaps deal with them without so much pain and trauma. Thanks for your help Sally.

For the first time in my life, I found myself being the "Dumpee". Somehow, in the fog of hurt I found the book Dumped! I began reading the preface and immediately found three things that had happened to me that are "classic" in being dumped. I was hooked and rapidly read this wonderful book. It was of great help in my realizing what had happened, what I could do to pull myself out of the slump I was in, and to realize that I am still a likeable person. I have since passed Dumped! on to friends who have been dumped...seems to be an epidemic lately. Buy it...you'll like it!

Only thing wrong with DUMPED by Sally Warren -- it hadn't yet been written when I was dumped years ago. From the desperation and emotional devastation stage to the realization that getting dumped was a blessing in disguise, this book would have been an invaluable resource. The insight and wisdom contained in DUMPED provide a lifeline for those experiencing the pain and trauma of separation and divorce. This excellent book is a must read not only for "dumpees," but also for all of their support system friends and family.

From those first horrible days of walking around in a fog, to accepting this trauma and moving on. Dumped is full of great practical advice about what to do and what not to do. It will make you laugh, and it will make you cry, but it will also put some of this madness in perspective and help you to move on.

This book is a great read, and can play an important role as a catalyst in helping "dumped" women to heal. Having practiced family law for twenty years, I often find that it is not just the financial wounds but also the emotional wounds that leave women dependent upon the men who left them. The timing will always be right to read this book: read it just after you've been dumped, years after, or - God forbid, before! - and you will look into the lives of the brave "dumpees" who shared their stories, and find lots that you can identify with. Sometimes humourous, sometimes sad, yet always helpful, this book will help women to help themselves.

I just went on Amazon to purchase a copy of DUMPED by Sally Warren for yet another dear friend who is going through a painful (aren't they all) divorce. I was amazed to read the "Superficial and Useless" review written in 2000. What? Superficial? Useless? Trite cliches? Is this reader for real? Each time I pass a copy along to a "DUMPED" friend, not only do they find it insightful, comforting, and enlightening, but they also swear it has helped them through their ordeal more than any other book on the market. Each teller's tale rings true. This is a marvelous book! I've lost track of how many copies I've shared with wonderful women who have been DUMPED. Until today, I've never heard anything but the highest praise for this work. I wish this reviewer well, but totally disagree with her review.
Susan Varian, Longwood, Florida

This book is probably the best self-help text available on this topic & applicable to anyone going through this mess called "getting dumped" - irregardless of even sexual orientation (my dumper was a woman). It really helped a LOT and my copy is dogeared, tearstained, in my purse to stay along with my lipstick & brush, well loved and STILL used. Do NOT miss this book! It has been INVALUABLE in my healing process.

When my partner (who of course had another candidate waiting in the wings) walked out on me after a 27 year relationship, I was not in the mood for the Pop Psychology books that well-meaning friends sent my way. I was not in the mood for "the wonderful growth" opportunity I was told divorce really was, if I would just "get over it" and move on. I wanted to die. This book was the only one that was hard-nosed, 100% believable and practical. I especially appreciated how the author predicted everything leading up to the typical "dumping." So, my partner's actions were common, predictable as a script, and not one bit unique after all! Whether its true or not, now I was able to see it all as a process, like living and dying. I think it's genetic for men, and with no social or moral controls in place, the poor sods apparently have little control over their minds and bodies, and cannot live alone with themselves or, God forbid, a long-time partner who knows too much and has seen the bad with the good. Now I feel sorrier for them than for me. They never get it. This book saved my life. I never would have gotten through the first dark months without it. Even now, a year later, I read passages at night, like the Bible, to keep me on track.