Customer Reviews

For Each Other

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Potential readers should start by considering what this book *isn't*. It's not an "erotic" book, intended to titillate. It's not a "how-to-make-your-hot-marriage-hotter" book or a "how-to-be-a-better-lover" book. Neither is it intended for couples whose marriages are extremely dysfunctional, erotically or otherwise. It also might not be helpful for people who don't have a regular sexual partner. With some modifications, it might be helpful for gay and lesbian couples.

It's possible that some of the negative reviews on Amazon have come from people who did not have realistic expectations of this book.

This is a self-help book for couples in committed loving relationships, who are having trouble getting normal enjoyment from sex. Couples having problems in bed with ordinary issues like modesty, female orgasm (that isn't usually a problem for men), difficulty becoming aroused, difficulty expressing tenderness and affection during sex, clumsiness and inexperience, and so on, will find they are guided toward easy and friendly solutions.

In most cases, the underlying problem for such couples is poor communication. Many couples find it difficult to *talk* productively about such intimate and potentially humiliating matters, even though they are *doing* it all the time! That's unfortunate and unnecessary, of course. The author provides a wide variety of ideas, techniques and structured experiences that will help couples overcome these barriers to enjoyment of sexual love.

Sex counselors and all-around marital counselors have been recommending this book for years, and still do. It's a classic. If you look at the list of other titles Amazon customers considered, you can see that this book is one of the best of its type.

The author previously wrote a self-help book for "orgasmically challenged" women. That does not mean she is biased in favor of women, or unable to understand the male point of view. She's a seasoned professional perfectly able to understand the sometimes-differing needs and feelings of men and women. She handles these topics even-handedly, with a compassionate light touch. Highly recommended.

I found this book very useful in it's approach and focus. It helped me out tremendously. Barbach has many useful exercises to practice both alone and together, as well as many insights into possible problems.

Every man and wife should read this book !! It really helps to hear a female sex therapist describe how a woman really feels about sexuality . And more importantly it helps a woman to be orgasmic on her own and then to share this joy with her husband. Highly recmend

This book was presented on the back cover, in the introduction and in the reviews as a book for both males and females in regards to their relationship. I call B.S.!

What the book is - a book written by a woman about women in relationships. I read through this book looking for insight into relationships and all I could pull from it was that relationships are one sided. The book presents relationships as 'controlled' by a man and what the book proposes is that the woman should take back 'control.' Relationships should not be controlled by one or the other. In fact relationships work best when the people involved work together and not try to 'control' it.

If the author reads this, I hope next time she re-writes this and includes a mans to co-author the book, so his opinion can be included in each topic discussed.

The absolute worst relationship I ever had the unfortunate displeasure to be in had me get this book. This absolute worst relationship person told me to get this book since they thought that "we" had a problem. The book sat by my bedside where I did not read it and instead reflected all the while that the problem was that this person was very verbally abusive, controlling and really mean which is not conducive to intimacy (duh) . Im sure its a good book for normal people who respect and are kind to their partners. I got rid of it like a hot potato and got an attorney instead.

I only bought this book because it was a dollar or two. If I had seen it in a bookstore instead of online I wouldn't even have spent a dollar or two. Not a very modern sex book. Wouldn't recommend it at any price.

VERY disappointed in this. Thought it was a way that both partners could share, but it's written by a woman FOR women on how they can work through the WOMAN's perspective.
Actually didn't even read much of the book -- skimmed all chapter titles and several sections. This is a "Return to Sender" for me.