Each for the Other: Marriage As It's Meant to Be [Paperback]

Bryan Chapell (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 1, 2000

Most people understand that self-sacrifice promotes healthy relationships, but Brian Chapell gently uncovers the biblical motivation for sacrificially serving your marriage partner as Christ chose to serve the church. He illustrates clearly how offering Christ's unconditional love to a mate can transform an individual and build a spiritual foundation that binds partners together as one.

--This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

Editorial Reviews

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Each for the Other is a refreshing and definitive look at Gods instructions to couples on how to live sacrificiallyfor each other and for their families. In a day when the world espouses a self-centered view of love, this book gives us the Bibles standards of love. It is a book that should be read by all couples seeking to know Gods plan for their marriage. -- Dennis Rainey, executive director, Family Life, Campus Crusade for Christ

Each for the Other is a scriptural treatment of the covenant of marriage as God designed it, with in-depth teaching on the meaning of sacrifice. . . . Chapell gracefully addresses the controversial subject of submission and authority and offers meaningful insights on parenting together as a couple. This would make a handy resource for pastors and others engaged in marital counseling, as well as married couples themselves. -- Christian Retailing, Jan. 1999

Each for the Other is one of the few indispensable books on marriage. Because of its biblical precision and practical sensitivity, it is sweetly radical and bracing. Here is the landscape of marriage as it ought to be. This is a book to read, re-read, and savor; a first class achievement. -- R. Kent Hughes, senior pastor, College Church in Wheaton

As I read Each for the Other I had the sense of finding something for which I had long looked. The church is in desperate need of a teaching tool to help Gods people build marriages that reflect the reality of His grace. I think this book is that tool. Bryan combines theological precision with tender practicality and passionately presents the need for and Gods provision of grace in our marriages. This book is a must-read for every married couple and for every person considering marriage -- Susan Hunt, author, director of Women in the Church, Presbyterian Church in America

Cant we both just get along? Chapell responds with a positive yes in this meaty resource that inspires couples to model Gods grace toward each other. Rather than offering cookie-cutter formulas or remedies, Chapell takes readers on an in-depth journey through Scripture to help them understand the oneness God intends for marriage. . . . This is an excellent tool for premarital counseling. Also recommend it to couples who desire to nurture their relationship and make it healthy and complete. -- Sherri Ballard, CBA Marketplace, Jan. 1999

In a culture that often depreciates or functionalizes the marriage relationship, Bryan Chapell calls Christian couples to live beyond themselves in living out the gospel for one another. By reminding a husband, for example, that headship has strings attached, and by encouraging a wife to honor her spouse not because of the goodness he possesses, but because of the grace he needs, this book invites both partners to commit themselves to becoming conduits of Gods sacrificial love for one another and for their children. Each for the Other is balanced, refreshing, practical, and thoroughly biblical. -- Nancy Groom, author, Married without Masks and Heart to Heart about Men

It is one thing to read the Bible or to quote the Bible; it is quite another to hear it and apply it. This book is a marvelous treatment of the biblical method for and teaching on the family that lives coram Deo. -- R. C. Sproul, author, theologian

Wielding his biblical scalpel with careful thoroughness, Bryan Chapell cuts to the heart of selfishness, irresponsibility, and abuse that mar so many supposedly Christian marriages today. More than that, he marks out the path of self-denying love in marriage with a firm hand, and provides discussion questions to ensure that couples who have read the book have grasped its message. This exposition can do nothing but good. -- J. I. Packer, author, theologian --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

From the Back Cover

"A refreshing and definitive look at God's instructions to couples on how to live sacrificially--for each other and for their families."--Dennis Rainey, Family Life Today

Building a strong marriage is tough. Yet the Bible is packed with principles on nurturing an intimate, rewarding relationship. Marriage as it was created to be means understanding God's plan for unconditional love.

In Each for the Other, Bryan Chapell and his wife, Kathy, offer an in-depth discussion of biblical truths you can apply to your marriage starting today. Together, they teach you:

-how denying yourself can create the most rewarding relationship ever
-what biblical headship and submission really mean--and why they're important
-six key building blocks to help solidify your marriage and family

Whether you're engaged, newly married, or in a seasoned relationship, Each for the Other offers indispensable truths on how to sacrificially love your partner. It also includes discussion questions--perfect for individual or couple study.


"A marvelous treatment of the biblical model for and teaching on the family."--R. C. Sproul, author, theologian

"One of the few indispensable books on marriage. This is a book to read, re-read, and savor; a first class achievement."--R. Kent Hughes, senior pastor, College Church in Wheaton

Bryan Chapell is the president of Covenant Theological Seminary and a former pastor who is a widely traveled speaker in the United States and abroad. The father of four, he is also the author of numerous books, including Praying Backwards and the award-winning Christ-Centered Preaching. He and his wife, Kathy, have been married for more than twenty-five years and live in St. Louis, Missouri. --This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 208 pages
• Publisher: Baker Books (February 1, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0801058333
• ISBN-13: 978-0801058332
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (16 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,114,628 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Bryan Chapell (PhD, Southern Illinois University) is president and professor of practical theology at Covenant Theological Seminary in St. Louis, where he has served in various capacities since 1984. In addition to his work at Covenant, Chapell is the author of numerous books, including Christ-Centered Preaching and Holiness by Grace.

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23 of 23 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Deals with the major biblical passages in significant depth., November 9, 1999

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This review is from: Each for the Other: Marriage As It's Meant to Be (Hardcover)

This book builds a theology of marriage. A mutually self-sacrificing marriage is seen as a primary means of revealing God's grace to sinful humans.

The author argues that headship and submission do have meaning and validity, even in today's culture. His view is traditional in many ways, but the insights he draws out of the major Pauline passage in Ephesians 5 seem fresh and not at all chauvinistic.

The writing can at times seem a bit stiff and wordy, but this is a minor quibble. The book may still be recommended without hesitation. The depth of insight he brings to the scriptures is quite significant.

16 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Strongly recommended for anyone in or approaching marriage, May 18, 1999

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This review is from: Each for the Other: Marriage As It's Meant to Be (Hardcover)

I was given this book a few months before my wedding, and I am very glad it was given to me. The author confronts an issue that is quite controversial these days from a strong, biblical viewpoint. He explains and gives many practical examples of how the marriage relationship is most fulfilling when both partners have their God-given roles in the proper perspective. He describes the principles behind biblical love and submission and makes clear that the two are equally important and necessary for a proper relationship. Since reading this book, I have been challenged and motivated to look at how I love my wife and to find new ways to put her before myself. I strongly suggest it for men or women who are married, will be married, or ever will be married.

8 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars THE BEST EVER, August 6, 1999

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This review is from: Each for the Other: Marriage As It's Meant to Be (Hardcover)

For a covenant view of marriage, this is unsurpassed. Even better than the classics in this field-- Douglas Wilson *Reforming Marriage* and Mike Mason *The Mystery of Marriage.* I bought three copies this month.

The only thing nearly as helpful is Gary Thomas, The Sacred Marriage.