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Eat by Choice, Not by Habit: Practical Skills for Creating a Healthy Relationship With Your Body and Food Paperback – October 28, 2005
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I think Silvia Haskvitz has something very powerful here. In fact those are the words my client used to describe the book's effect upon her - "powerful." She and I both said that our only criticism is that it was too short. Each sentence is pregnant with meaning, so pregnant that I found that I had to read and reread some passages in order to fully grasp what was being said. I can see from reading the book that Sylvia has spent a lifetime developing her ideas. They are well thought out and deep. They are complex ideas, layered in philosophies of nutrition, psychotherapy, NVC, and spirituality just to mention a few. I thought the book was a marvelous marraige of all the disparate disciplines. These ideas are probably second nature to her now but for the neophytes who have not delved into such philosophies, the concepts are likely to be less transparent. I felt that each concept could have filled a chapter all by itself. Hence, I have a wish.Read more ›
This book is subdivided as follows:
Being Your Own Best Friend
Play with Your Food
Compassionate Eating in Restaurants
The author of the book is a nutritionist and a trainer in "Compassionate/Non-violent Communication". This form of communication seems to focus on positive communication in lieu of the negative. The author tells us that moral condemnation and compassion cannot coexist. The focus is on accepting what is, and then changing it.
The author wants us to focus on what we need when we reach for that bagel even though we aren't hungry. She wants us to try to address what need we are trying to satisfy with the food.
The topics covered in this book are interesting. However, I don't think that this book alone is adequate to get someone to change a long-term issue with food. In conjunction with counseling or additional books this may be enough. I view this book as a "booklet" rather than a book. It points you in a particular direction, but doesn't have enough information to actually get you to the end of your journey. If you are looking for a different approach, and don't know if this will work, this book will give you a basis to make that decision. However, I believe that if this approach is for you, additional resources will be required to get you to your goal weight.
The author wants to inspire each of us to take responsibility for our lives and become more conscious of what we are doing, and how we are meeting our needs. I agree with Ms. Haskvitz that we have the wisdom within to make healthy choices, and her book gives us permission to further access this inner voice, while giving us some practical knowledge and skills.
Buy this gift for your best friend (we all need to become our own best friend), and allow a new chapter to be written in your life, one that will give you a longer, more balanced, and healthier life. You deserve it!
Marcia Breitenbach, founder of [...]
Moreover, in the end, it does have a slight judgmental vibe that contrasts with the perceived object of the book which is to accept and change compulsive eating patterns not by shame, our "shoulds" and deprivation, but through a natural process of becoming more aware of the feelings and needs that lead us to eat when we are not hungry.
At a given point, the author talks of how, when she worked at a Burger King, she refused to get a "heavy" (her words) couple a second helping of milkshake, because she was concerned with their health. Which led me to wonder why she was working there in the first place. It just felt a bit... well, sanctimonious, to be honest.
And all the stuff about eating healthily? It is not that that isn't important. It's just that it is a decision one has to make inside oneself, without shoulds. You either let go of the shoulds or you don't, you can't go just half way but still feel really guilty if you have the roastbeef and not the salad.
But then again, maybe I just didn't get it.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Wow. The cover of the book is so racist. You make the black women eating her cake and looking sloppy. While the white woman in cautious eating her melon.Published 1 month ago by Kimberly L Goins
Having familiarity with NVC I found it segued nicely into compassionate based living. But i would definately recommend it to friends who are not necessarily NVC-based because the... Read morePublished on May 25, 2013 by suzanne mc
This book is very helpful for those who suffer from binge eating and over eating. I learned a few trchniques that are very useful. Read morePublished on April 18, 2013 by richard maddox
I just love this book! NVC is new to me. I think it is a great thing to treat ourselves with kindness
when it comes to food.
The book is fun to read. Read more
Couldn't put this book down. This is by far one of the most helpful books on eating I've ever read. Thank you Sylvia Haskvitz. Read morePublished on August 22, 2010 by Miracles Happen Everyday
This book is amazing. In is helping me to understand why I eat even though I am not physically hungry. Read morePublished on January 5, 2007 by G. Bastian
This is one of the only books that I have read about
eating that resonates with my values of choice, health,
self-acceptance / love, and efficacy--rather than... Read more