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The Entitlement-Free Child: Raising Confident and Responsible Kids in a "Me, Mine, Now!" Culture

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The author offers several good options on how to proceed when confronted with various situations upon raising a child at various ages. The best feature is that both the "entitled" and "entitlement free" perspectives are shown, to think about where you, or a child you are dealing with, may be coming from.

This is by no means an academic study on the matter, and the suggestions should be taken as suggestions, and with a grain of salt.

One particular glaring error in avoiding instilling a sense of entitlement in children is the "birthday party" section, in which the author suggests asking that gifts for your child be "books only." This sends an utterly wrong message. It is horribly rude to tell guests what to give -- all gifts are optional and one should NEVER make any such suggestion. This suggestion would tell a child that it is okay to preemptively tell others what to give, because -- apparently -- the honoree is (all together...) ENTITLED to a gift(!)

Yes, you definitely need a grain of salt with this book, but it does do a good job in describing perspectives which you or other people may have in various situations.

I am one of those people who thinks that kids these days are spoiled. Mine are no exception.

My kids, and probably yours, have tons of toys, DVDs, etc.. We schedule playdates and parties and give them everything. Yet, the kids WHINE and complain and generally make us miserable.

I am a product of my environment, and our culture says buy this gadget or product or sign your kid up for this activity to make things better. But buying things isn't really the solution.

I've tried to reform myself -- force my kid to do what I want to turn a deaf ear to the crying. But, I feel horrible when I do it.

Karen Deerwester's strategies in this book give me new hope. They are real, and sane. She thinks that you can raise kids in this day and age who have high self esteem and also obey their parents.

The book is easy to read and divided up into chapters to help you deal with your kid from toddler to tweens.

The book has some creative ways to deal with old problems. You should really check it out.

What a relevant and engaging book! Karen Deerwester provides all of the essentials to navigating the parenting road with practical strategies. It is easy to read and leaves parents feeling empowered to handle a wide variety of parenting situations. A truly motivating and much needed book for today's parents.

book was disappointing and lacked significant insights - examples seemed extreme - my kids and their friends don't do any of that stuff, but there is still a sense of entitlement and i was hoping for deeper insights on addressing the issue

Author needs support for her comments, otherwise anyone with an opinion can write this book. Her background appears solid, however, this book seems rushed and written for marketing, money purposes over the research supported, knowledge based book it could have been

This book was easy to read, easy to follow, and has worked spectacularly well with my four year old. It really helped me to realize the values my family holds and how to teach them to my children, without yelling. It has inspired me to be a better parent. If your child is spoiled, or on the road to becoming spoiled, this is a must read. In just a few days, I see a big behavior difference in my son.

Great reading that provides parents with inspiration and the tools we need to raise our children as best as we can!