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Equally Shared Parenting: Rewriting the Rules for a New Generation of Parents Hardcover – January 5, 2010

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"The Vachons are the leading edge of true social change."
-Laura Vanderkam, The Huffington Post

"Kids become whole people when they're raised by whole people-the Vachons show us how."
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About the Author

Marc and Amy Vachon are the founders of, the first dedicated resource for egalitarian parenting from the perspective of both genders. Amy is a clinical pharmacist in a management role and Marc is an information technology specialist. REVIEW:

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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 304 pages
  • Publisher: Perigee Trade; 1 edition (January 5, 2010)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0399535586
  • ISBN-13: 978-0399535581
  • Product Dimensions: 5.9 x 1.1 x 8.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,199,217 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful By Michelle D. Barry Franco on January 6, 2010
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I love this book. I am so grateful for the stories, the perspectives and the "outside-the-box" thinking that the Vachon's and the other ESP couples in this book bring to the family life option table.

Disclaimer - I am the Michelle of "Michelle and Jim" in Chapter 2. However, that's as far as my interest goes in writing a rave review. Well, that and the fact that Amy and Marc are exceptionally warm and generous people - though I've never met them in person. I am very proud to be a part of this book and I certainly wouldn't be writing this review for all to see if I wasn't thrilled with the outcome. Amy and Marc have done an excellent job, in my opinion, of representing the Equally Shared Parenting lifestyle, in all of it's goodness and imperfection.

I would never try to convince a couple to choose ESP if they didn't both have the desire to equally share time with kids, family financial contribution, personal time and house care. It simply doesn't work that way - through coersion and persuasion. But if you and your partner have any remote desire to explore the Equally Shared Parenting lifestyle I whole-heartedly, with great passion, encourage you to go for it. It is SO possible! And the best start to that venture is getting this book. You will surely find stories, ideas and models here that you can apply to your own life. Seriously - just get the book and see.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By M. Schneider on July 8, 2010
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I often get asked what I am going to do after I've done this whole "stay-at-home dad" thing? Leaving aside the insulting nature of the question, I actually do think about what's next. Do I want to go back to work either part-time or full-time? Do I want get more involved in my kids' school? Maybe I should get involved in one or two community organizations? I also think a lot about the impact these decisions have on my family. What will happen to my wife's career if I go back to work? How will my kids react? Is there a way to find a balance between a fulfilling career, being the Dad that I want to be, handling the minutiae of everyday family life, and having time for myself?

The book is a practical guide to how real families have found a way to find equality and balance by first arriving at the conclusions that both parents are "fully capable in all family roles" and "both parents deserve to be full partners, and to have a full partner." ESP is not about score keeping or getting your partner to do more work, but instead consciously recognizing that you want balance and equality in your life and you want balance and equality for your partner. The authors use real couples, including themselves, to illuminate the ESP lifestyle, identify some common mistakes, and suggest some rules to follow if you decide to pursue this model.

Obviously, this would be a hard pill for some couples to swallow. Can Dad really give up control of what goes in Junior's lunch box every day? Can Mom cut back on hours at work to spend more time taking the kids to soccer practice? Yes, this means that career paths might get altered. Yes, this means that partners would need to do things they wouldn't normally do. And yes, this means that tasks might be completed in a different way than usual.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Learning New Ways on January 5, 2010
Format: Hardcover
Really great book that gets into the logistics and common barriers to making the adjustment to modern peer marriage from patriarchal marriage.

Marc & Amy have clearly worked very hard on this, both prior to their meeting and in building their family. Their modeling of this and sharing of it in a personal way is a great gift to all of us.

If you're like myself and struggling to sort these issues out, I highly recommend this book. I grew up in a patriarchal home and found it incredibly stressful and difficult. That alone was enough motivation for me to seek change and to avoid patriarchal marriage myself, but really seeing how such change can work is nonetheless even more motivating. And Amy and Marc remind that you don't have to wait for government action or approval from your peer group or even your own parents. You can make this happen here and now; it just takes two willing, ready and able partners.

In the face of a culture & political economy & religious environment that seeks constantly to put men and women in conflict with each other and to insert a lot of unnecessary melodrama and insecurity in our lives, Marc's and Amy's calmness, candor, and resilence really warms my heart and gives me the sense that there are sane and responsible men and women in the world and hope for our future.

Great job and keep up the good work! I'd love to read a sequel when you're parents of teenagers. :)
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Rosanne in Madison on November 30, 2010
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Easy and enjoyable to read, Amy and Marc have shared their innovative, creative and practical program for Equally Shared Parenting (ESP) for society's benefit. The authors' conversational style, positive message, and story examples keeps you turning the page. In a country that appreciates diversity in all things, this husband and wife team recognize ESP may not be for everyone. But for those who have grown tired of modeling traditional gender roles, they reinforce, with many examples, how ESP is doable. "You don't need more money," they emphasize "The two of you, with awareness and personal determination are enough." And you don't have to get divorced to discover ESP out of necessity, because this book is geared to in-tact families that want to maintain equality in four domains: breadwinning, childrearing, housework, and time for self. Such a concept might, in fact, prevent divorce. Amy and Marc, co-parents and partners in every sense, offer their insight from personal experience with wisdom and understanding, humor and the realities of sharing it all- the joys and the hardships. They show that with shared parenting, you are never on your own and you're never alone. Nothing is a chore because you are both invested as a team. They say, when the work is equally shared, and no one is forced to do anything (you can choose your preferred tasks) then a couple has achieved the closest things to ESP equality. Cheers to Amy and Marc for brining a new reality to the world of parenting and the meaning of family.
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