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Escaping the Boy: My Life With a Sociopath [Kindle Edition]

Paula Carrasquillo
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Book Description

One of the least diagnosed members of the population is also one of the most destructive: the narcissistic sociopath. There is nothing romantic or advantageous about being a sociopath and having no conscience. Sociopaths are good at going unnoticed by the rest of us because, unfortunately, they are good at pretending (lying) and wearing many masks (again, lying). Simply put, they lie to themselves and everyone else. They lie so much that some of them are convinced of their own lies, which is where evil is born.

I am no psychologist, psychiatrist, or counselor. However, I have lived alongside a sociopath and feel the need to share, even if in a tale-like fiction setting, how I understand the psychopathology that insidiously penetrated my body, mind, and spirit until I was nearly convinced that I was the evil one. How? Projection, transference, and control, that's how.

This biographical story describes the evolution of the boy, the epitome of a narcissistic sociopath. Chronicled are his many abuses against his friends, girlfriends, fiancées, wives, family members, and the nature of humanity itself.

Is it possible to break free from such a person unscathed? Is it possible to beat such a person at his own game? Can good triumph over evil? Will the boy ever understand what he is? Or is it up to the rest of us just to stay out of the way of narcissistic sociopaths?

Awareness is at the heart of the story. Awareness brings power and strength. Readers will walk away from this story wondering if the person who is hurting them is a narcissistic sociopath too. (It‘s very possible. Do you want to take the chance of never knowing?)

The Resources page of this publication provides a list of recommended websites, organizations, and other books to help improve, increase, and foster each reader's growing awareness of narcissists, sociopaths, and their connection to domestic violence and abuse.

Knowing you are not alone in your struggle to deal with such evil is the first step in purging your life of that evil.

Paula Carrasquillo
May 2012

Product Details

  • File Size: 162 KB
  • Print Length: 72 pages
  • Publisher: Publications by Paula's Pontifications; 2nd edition (May 8, 2012)
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B0081UABM8
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15 of 18 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful and Well-Written May 10, 2012
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In her book "Escaping the Boy: My Life with a Sociopath" Paula Carrasquillo dives into a biological approach to understanding life as lived with a narcissistic sociopath. Through careful reflection on her own experiences, Paula illustrates the formation of the "boy," his psychopathology, that pathology's influence on his relationships, and ultimately how that pathology affects those other parties involved in those relationships. According to the Preface, the aim of the book is building awareness. Paula does that well throughout the book.

Her writing style is easy to follow (as is her fondness for parenthetical comments). The layout of the story is fun (if such a word can be used for the subject matter at hand). And, Paula engages the reader well with her style. As I read some of the material regarding the Boy's behaviors toward the Woman's Child, I felt myself getting angry with the Boy (which is a sure sign I'd be sucked into the story, which makes me think it's written pretty well).

In short, Escaping the Boy is a thought-provoking journey into the mind and world of the narcissistic sociopath. Well worth the read.
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13 of 16 people found the following review helpful
1.0 out of 5 stars I wanted to like it, but didn't. May 11, 2013
By Zoe
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Having read (or at least started to read) several books on the subject of narcissism, borderline personality disorder, etc, I felt that something major was missing. In most books, the author will characterize both the abuser (because oftentimes these books are about people with BPD or NPD and so forth who abuse and mistreat their partners and not those who actively work at changing but I digress) and the survivor in incredibly cliche and stereotypical ways. The abuser gives a honeymoon period followed by a big list of DSM-identified behaviors that aren't good and the victim stays for predictable reasons. There is little variation or validation for those who are in more unusual situations than those.

I purchased this book thinking it might be different. It was advertised as a first-hand account of a survivor who dated a very abusive man. While I sympathize with the author's experiences, the writing style really put me off. The protagonist made no real effort during the book to figure out why "the Boy" behaved the way he did or to find answers to her troubles. She does not really analyze why she was with this man or what compelled her to stay beyond "he gave me the honeymoon period and then things went bad" ie: the generic party line of "why co-dependents stay." There was no indication that the woman in the story had previously exhibited characteristics of a co-dependent. Her ex-husband was described as a fairly healthy, stable man, and she seemed to be on good terms with her family. It was only this one man, the Boy, who had ever manipulated her in the way that a narcissist or a sociopath would. From there, it's hard for me to conclude that co-dependence or learned helplessness kept her in that relationship. I would be fine with that if another reason were provided.
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10 of 12 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Needed to be told May 18, 2012
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Too many people suffer through situations like this on a daily basis and think there is nothing they can do. Or worse, they go along thinking this is how life is, I cannot change this person, I must deserve this treatment, who else will love me?
Paula brings the abuse to light without dredging through all of the details of the abuse suffered by her and her child at the hands of the "boy".
Anyone who has been, is in, or knows someone close who is in a mentally abusive relationship can read between the lines and see this abuse and this situation was far worse than Paula shares.
It is not about bashing the "boy". It is about helping people realize you do not deserve this type of treatment. It is about realizing it is OK to leave. It is also about the emotional freedom you gain after you leave.
Paula took great steps to put this in the most basic prose. She details telling signs.... Things most of us would see and write it off as "Dysfunction". After all, aren't most families a little dysfunctional these days?
This is about one previously abused soul reaching out to other abused souls, to create an awareness and a hope.
The story is easy to read and straight to the point.
The most amazing thing is the story was true, lived out by Paula and her young son.
If by writing this Paula can help one person escape the nightmare she lived, then her job is done.
Well done!
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10 of 12 people found the following review helpful
2.0 out of 5 stars Dissapointed May 30, 2012
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After reading Escaping the Boy, I was left feeling a little dissapointed. The author tells an interesting and important story, however I don't feel I understand Sociopathy or Narcissistic Sociopaths anymore from reading this book and I do feel I have gained anything from the experience. This book shares the story of one person's experience with another. However as someone wanting to understand more about Sociopathy and narcissism, I don't feel like I was really taught anything about these concepts other than given some examples about what one has done in the past. I feel this book didn't give me what I was hoping it would and I was left a little dissapointed. This author has without question gone through a lot, but this read more as a break up bashing than it did as anything informative. It is also written in a rather unengaging manner. I don't reccommend to anyone wanting to learn more about the concept of Sociopathy as it is rather limited in this department, however if someone wanted to just read a story about someones experience with a sociopath than it is an interesting enough read.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
1.0 out of 5 stars Wow
I am so disappointed that I paid for this. I thought it would be a first hand account about hard lessons and healing, instead I found it to be bitter, vicious, clearly a "payback"... Read more
Published 4 months ago by Christine
2.0 out of 5 stars Not a great read, more of a rant
I was attracted to this book because I grew up with a sociopath, who happened to be my father. Many of the same behaviors and actions the author experienced were experienced in my... Read more
Published 9 months ago by Somebody's Nurse
5.0 out of 5 stars I Do Suggest This Book
I purchased Escaping the Boy: My Life With a Sociopath while doing research for my book, THE SECRET LIFE OF CAPTAIN X: MY LIFE WITH A PSYCHOPATH PILOT. Read more
Published 9 months ago by MRSXNOMORE
1.0 out of 5 stars Will never support this "writer" after being a short time follower of...
Over the course of several weeks, I followed Paula's Facebook page daily. There was some helpful information, but nothing I hadn't read elsewhere. Read more
Published 9 months ago by Marilyn Scuto
3.0 out of 5 stars Quick read...not a lot of resources or guidance.
This is a very short book; I read it in less than an hour. It's got a lot of profanity, so if you're easily offended, don't read it. Read more
Published 10 months ago by Amber Baker
3.0 out of 5 stars really liked the first part, a bit too weird on the second
i really liked the first part of the book, where she seriously addresses how to spot narcissism and a sociopath. it's got helpful information, good detail, etc. Read more
Published 10 months ago by Anonymous
4.0 out of 5 stars very good book
this book helped me start writing my story about my sociopath and how I escaped my person. This book was a good read and you will like it.
Published 14 months ago by kasondra
4.0 out of 5 stars Simple story, but very true - a cautionary tale
I'm a psychologist and I was married to a narcissistic sociopath. This book was not meant to be a psychology text - it was meant to be a tale to retell this life story. Read more
Published 15 months ago by Maria
5.0 out of 5 stars good and brave
This is a very brave work, that you have written here.

This takes nothing short of pure guts to explore this in yourself.

Thanks for that.
Published 16 months ago by Lloyd
5.0 out of 5 stars It takes guts to tell a story like this
Paula's writing is clear and concise. The story is short and to the point - there is no beating around the bush. Read more
Published 17 months ago by Ryan Adam
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Paula was born and raised in the United States. She is a survivor of domestic violence, rape and fraud. She holds a bachelor's degree in English and a master's degree in communication and adult education. Paula is also a certified yoga teacher and health coach. Over the past 10 years, she has facilitated training and learning opportunities in corporate, higher education and non-profit environments. Her passion is to help individuals, organizations and communities transform and prosper with compassion and consciousness at their foundation. She lives in the Washington, D.C. suburbs of Maryland with her husband and son.


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