How Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm: And Other Adventures in Parenting (from Argentina to Tanzania and everywhere in between) [Paperback]

Mei-Ling Hopgood (Author)

Book Description

Release date: January 10, 2012

A tour of global practices that will inspire American parents to expand their horizons (and geographical borders) and learn that there’s more than one way to diaper a baby.
 
Mei-Ling Hopgood, a first-time mom from suburban Michigan—now living in Buenos Aires—was shocked that Argentine parents allow their children to stay up until all hours of the night. Could there really be social and developmental advantages to this custom? Driven by a journalist’s curiosity and a new mother’s desperation for answers, Hopgood embarked on a journey to learn how other cultures approach the challenges all parents face: bedtimes, potty training, feeding, teaching, and more.
 
Observing parents around the globe and interviewing anthropologists, educators, and child-care experts, she discovered a world of new ideas. The Chinese excel at potty training, teaching their wee ones as young as six months old. Kenyans wear their babies in colorful cloth slings—not only is it part of their cultural heritage, but strollers seem outright silly on Nairobi’s chaotic sidewalks. And the French are experts at turning their babies into healthy, adventurous eaters. Hopgood tested her discoveries on her spirited toddler, Sofia, with some enlightening results.
 
This intimate and surprising look at the ways other cultures raise children offers parents the option of experimenting with tried and true methods from around the world and shows that there are many ways to be a good parent.

Editorial Reviews

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"The book is breezy and entertaining and Hopgood is charmingly self-deprecating about her own mothering of the formidable Sofia, who emerges as a sassy character in her own right."—Boston Globe

"A pleasure to read . . . No doubt some details will be too enticing not to try, like recruiting the whole family for meal preparation and training young children to take responsibility for simple tasks. Ultimately, this absorbing assemblage of perspectives will help widen our own." —BookPage

"Throughout her carefully organized text, [Hopgood] shows enormous respect for everyone she speaks with and everything she learns... A best bet for new parents.”—Booklist starred review

"Hopgood’s text is a satisfying mix of research, observation, interview, and personal experience... Readers will laugh, marvel and muse over the many (frequently opposing) child-rearing methods that persist despite the growing globalization of parenthood.”—Publishers Weekly

About the Author

Mei-Ling Hopgood is an award-winning journalist and writer. She lives in Buenos Aires, Argentina, with her husband and two daughters. Find her online at www.meilinghopgood.com.

Product Details

• Paperback: 304 pages
• Publisher: Algonquin Books (January 10, 2012)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 9781565129580
• ISBN-13: 978-1565129580
• ASIN: 156512958X
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.5 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (47 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #31,849 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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18 of 19 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars You'll Have Fun with Mei-Ling Hopgood as Your Global Guide to Parenting March 4, 2012

By David Crumm TOP 1000 REVIEWER

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Mei-Ling Hopgood is a top journalist who now teaches at the prestigious Medill School of Journalism at Northwestern University. For her readers, that means she's a lifelong storyteller, which you'll discover immediately when you dip into this wonderful book of real-life stories that circle the globe.

She is famous in her own right. Born in Taiwan and adopted by an American family at an early age, the bittersweet story of her reunion with her Taiwanese family as an adult appears in her earlier book, Lucky Girl. For most of her early life, Mei-Ling was a typical American: She grew up as a smart, enthusiastic Midwest school kid and even got a spot on her high school pom pom squad. When she became a journalist, her award-winning work appeared in newspapers and magazines nationwide. Before moving with her husband and children to the Chicago area recently, they lived for years in Buenos Aires. Given her global wealth of family experiences, Mei-Ling was fascinated by the vast differences in parenting choices as she circled the planet.

She was completing her new book, How Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm, while two other controversial best sellers in this niche were making headlines and burning up websites: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother and Bringing Up Bebe: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting.... Given Mei-Ling's background as a journalist, always seeking accuracy and balance, it's not surprising that Mei-Ling's book on global parenting now is widely compared by reviewers to Tiger and Bebe as -- the kinder, gentler book in this trio. Or, as Mei-Ling herself puts it in the conclusion of her book:

"I've reached a pretty optimistic conclusion after observing the adaptability and resilience of families in many circumstances and environments. Despite vast differences in beliefs, religion and culture, moms, dads and caregivers in most societies share a common desire: to raise children who can thrive in the reality in which they live. While no culture can claim to be the best at any one given aspect of parenting, each has its own gems of wisdom to add to the discussion."

If you've read Tiger and Bebe, then you know that viewpoint marks Mei-Ling's book as a distinctively different voice. As a parent and a long-time journalist myself, I was struck by how much fun I had flipping the pages of her new book. Among her journalistic talents, Mei-Ling has an eye for overall pacing, which means delivering those special gems that she promises at regular intervals to keep readers flipping page after page. Among those gems are little sections between chapters that might be described as fun facts. If you're drawn to this book, it's because you want to discover a whole Noah's ark of fascinating stories about kids and their parents from all corners of the world. Mei-Ling understands that desire and delivers regular doses of gee-whiz, real-life stories. Read more ›

7 of 7 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars Good Insight for Parents March 11, 2012

By Christopher Alexander VINE™ VOICE

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Since I'm a child psychologist, I found myself intrigued by this book after I heard some interviews with the author on the radio.

I also travel a good deal, and I'm continually struck by cross-cultural differences in child rearing, the freedom (versus not) allocated to young children, and parent-child interactions. On my recent trips to Spain, for example, I saw very few kids or teens who were 'hooked up' to some kind of apararatus, be it an I-pod, hand-held game, or cellphone. The love and affection between children of both sexes and their fathers is also admirable; so sad that we see little of that here (especially between parents of school-age kids or teens).

In our own culture, a good number of parents get overly-invested in 'doing it right.' While this is a concern to parents universally, we have such little support for parents--societal and familial--that it's no wonder their anxiety is so high. Parents contact me all the time, asking for books/references on how best to raise their child, fearing that one woops will damage the kid for life. I usually tell them to read one book on attachment; one on basic child development; and then to forget about the books and get on with the task of parenting.

Though none of us are surprised to learn that there are cross-cultural differences in raising kids, this book helps to illuminate the notions in starking and sometimes surprising detail. What is a way of life in one culture, for example, might warrant a report to child protective services in our own.

In addition to the stories of different cultural perspectives on parenting, the book has a way of pulling the reader in, begging us to take a look at how we were raised, as well as how cultural influences in our past affected our grandparents and parents....

This book will certainly appeal to parents, but those interested in expanding their world view will also derive a lot of information and thought from it. It's a well-written, well-paced book. Read more ›

8 of 9 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Makes you feel better as a parent February 18, 2012

By crystal

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The book gives a global perspective on parenting in a non-judgmental way. This perspective helped me see this trivial nature of some of the things we parents unnecessarily obsess about. The author researched her data thoroughly and her personal stories as an American ex-pat mom were refreshingly honest and relatable. I highly recommend this book for the parents of a young baby or toddler.

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Totally Fascinating & Entertaining--and It Gives You Confidence to Follow Your Own Path February 23, 2012

By Mayflower Girl TOP 500 REVIEWER

Format:Paperback

I really loved this book. I have four kids, so I've read a ton of parenting books. :) This was one of the most interesting to read by far. I've always wondered at the different advice given regarding pregnancy and kids.... soft cheeses and wine are totally forbidden here, but fine in France. Co-sleeping is "risky" here, but the norm elsewhere. The author and her husband were working in Argentina when she gave birth to their daughter. That lead to seeing how different Argentine's were regarding bedtimes (and socializing with kids) versus Americans. This also lead her to explore other differences. Some of the things (like baby wearing) are pretty mainstream these days...still, each chapter was a great read.

There are great tips here on having kids who are good eaters (France), close families (from the Arab-American community in Dearborn, Michigan), good sleepers (Argentina), great fathers (Africa), early potty training (China), etc. We can learn from other cultures--and just because an American "expert" says one thing, don't assume that it's that way around the world. What I found refreshing was that often the experts she did consult verified that the practices abroad were not harmful (such as kids staying up late). Probably the most fascinating (for me) was learning that male nipples may have evolved to give Dads a way to sooth kids when Mom was not available. Who knew?

This would be a great baby shower gift or a gift for any Mom. Highly highly recommended.