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Every Man's Marriage: An Every Man's Guide to Winning the Heart of a Woman (The Every Man Series)

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I am a woman who is married to a man much like one of the authors (By the way, contrary to another reviewer, I would never describe them as "abusers." They simply didn't understand how much pain they were causing their wives by their actions.). I know my husband loves me deeply, but he has never really understood how to connect with me so we can enjoy the fantastic sex life he (and I) wants! This book is about mutual submission, and any husband who takes it seriously will reap rewards that he has only dreamed of. Men, your wives want what this book describes more than anything else in life. I had given up that anything like this was even possible after 20 years of marriage. For one thing, I couldn't even describe it to my husband so he understood, but these authors have been there and figured it out, and they speak to men like men. They found these answers by seriously seeking God and asking Him to show them what their marriage was really supposed to look like (after some serious problems, which almost destroyed their marriages and their wives!). If you are serious about having the most fantastic marriage that God intended for all of us, then read this book and live it like these guys are.

I started reading this book thinking it was primarily directed only to "Neanderthal" Christian men who don't have a heart or a brain when it comes to interaction with their wives! The pace does begin slowly, but in hindsight this pace would be helpful to those men who need to start at square one in their relationships. There is much here however, that will refine happily-married Christian men who have been living with contented spouses for years.

The author starts by describing how marriages grow cold. He then progresses to offer his instructions on how to return the warm glow to the grey embers. The bulk of the book focuses on the concept of being a bondservant to one's wife, both in heart and in mind. This concept really makes the book, and the author's exposition of it is well worth the purchase price. The volume concludes with a description of how submitting to one's wife, and her needs, can totally revive and rejuvenate an ailing marriage.

I recommend this book to all Christian married men, regardless of the strength or the longevity of their marriages. After all, none of us as husbands have arrived! Get it, read it, practice it, and see the difference!

As I read this book tears poured down my cheeks. This is how I should have treated my wife. This is what she deserved, but it was not what she got. I now do not have a wife after 25 years of marriage. I am now single but I can tell you this when I do find another wife this book will be my workbook! The book is easy and light reading but it is a very powerful book. I would have paid a thousand times the price for this valuable information. If you want your wife's heart, practice the pages of this book.

This is one of the most challenging books that I have read on the subject of being a Godly husband. In all the confusion and misconceptions about the concept of submission, this book clearly concentrates on the husband's role of submitting to the will of God (as Christ did). And God makes it clear in scripture that His will for marriage is that "the two will become like one."

If it is God's will that the two individuals come to be like one, and if the husband is is going to be the leader of the household, then it stands to reason that the husband has got to learn to give up his own desires and submit to oneness (just as Christ submitted to the will of God to re-establish a oneness with the church which was lost after the fall of man)

This book is a must read for every husband. My wife and even listened to it together in its audiobook version.

This is the best book, outside of the Bible, that I have ever read. That said, this book is not for everyone. I see a number of people that gave it low marks and I can understand their perspective.

Criteria for evaluating whether this book is for you:
1) You must be a Christian. There are many Christian themes and Biblical references. If you're not a fan of the Bible, then those probably won't have the same impact

2) You must be a male. It's better to remove the expectations from women - guys have a hard enough time figuring this out. Women may not like how they're positioned as someone that should be wooed and cared for, but it's a great reminder for how men should approach their spouses. Men will, hopefully, integrate the information and take the correct approach in accordance with their spouse's personality.

This book helps men to understand how to approach relationships properly. Too often men are concerned with themselves alone and don't give the proper consideration for their spouses. I never thought I had a problem in this department, but when you consider God's standard, not Man's standard, you realize a whole different level of happiness and joy in your marriage.

Last year may have been the roughest of my ten year marriage. As a result of my application of the principles in this book, this eleventh year is turning out to be our best yet. Our relationship resembles the emotions and romance of our courting days, back when we made the decision to commit to each other for the rest of our lives. This book provides the tools to resist living like two friends under a single roof, but to live as two lovers that are focused on each other's needs.

If you meet the eligibility criteria, this is the best $10 you'll ever spend.

This is an absolutely amazing book! Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoker, the primary authors have done a wonderful job of breaking the paradigms about male leadership. It definitely provides the roadmap to the elusive oneness we all desire in a marriage. I have heard this book advertised before and must admit that I thought it was written primarily for women. The original title of the book is, "Every Woman's Desire." It has now been changed to "Every Man's Marriage." This is a much more appropriate title.

Most men who read this book with an open mind will find themselves saying, "wow, that fits me to the "t"--particularly those parts that speak about trampling your wife's essence. I thought (until I read this books) that I was a fairly sensitive guy, but now I see that many of the problems that I had in my previous marriage and in my current relationship stem from my inability to see myself as a "servant leader." Its no wonder that the women in my life have rebelled against it.

I see such a difference in my fiance's response to me since I began to place her needs above (or at least equal) to my own. I always had problems with the idea that the man controls the thermostat of a marriage, but I now see how true that is.

Having said that, I do have a couple of criticisms of the book. First, the authors continually use the analogy of a man being the bondservant to his master (wife). It was presented so often that it began to sound patronizing. If we are to compare marriage to our relationship with Christ, then it is clear that while Christ condescended to our level, we are in no way "his master." In the same way, I have a problem with the idea of the man being the leader, but his wife being his master. It sounded a little like thinly veiled politically correct double-speak to me.

I also had to force myself to read the first several chapters. While it had great information, one has to wade through the idea that the authors were presenting something different than the commonly held idea that men are nothing more than neanderthals who need to be saved from themselves by their women. About halfway through the book, the authors finally clarified that being a servant leader does not mean giving the wife everything she wants. I would have liked this to have been clarified a little earlier in the book.

Finally, at some point the book begins to sound like a collection of anecdotal stories, many of which show how self-sacrificing one of the authors is toward his wife. That probably was not his intent, but that is how it began to sound. It became a little repetitive after a while.

In conclusion, this is an excellent read. One that should be read by every man who wants to truly invest in his marriage and experience the oneness that God intended for us. There are some problems with the book, as I noted above, but if one can get past those, he will find a virtual treasure chest of information.

Our marriage is completely transformed. It's not what he's told me but how he expresses his love to me that has changed. I feel honored, appreciated & loved ... he has made me feel precious, again. The desire to bless my husband & seek ways to bless him has returned because his criticism of me has left. I now have the HUSBAND that every woman desires. This book has blessed my life, our marriage and our children as they see how beautiful marriage can be.

I don't have a wife yet, and in fact I am MANY steps away from getting one (LOL!). But I am very glad that I read this book. Not only it will help me become a better husband, it also helps me better understand women in general. This book explains, in a convincing way, what it really means to be "manly" and be the head of the family: rather than being macho and force your wife to submit to you, YOU have to submit to HER first. She will then return in kind and submit to you back. In other words, mutual submission is important, and the husband needs to take the lead to do this. All guys should read this, and if we all follow the guidelines suggested by the authors, I bet this would be a better world because both men and women will be happy.

The marital oneness is not a new theory, however, it is written about in a way that we can all understand and relate to. It is also the one thing that will keep your marriage together. Without it, couples struggle and can't figure out what is wrong. They divorce and remarry only to go through more struggles. God Bless the authors for sharing in this way. This book has revolutionized my marriage. This is an excellent book for wedding gifts, anniversary gifts. Every married couple should own it. Every single person desiring to be married must read it! Because if you cannot submit as described in this book or do not have an interest in creating marital oneness, then you should NOT get married.

This book is a must read, not just for husband's but for wives too. As a wife, it helped me to better understand my husband's need. Most of all it taught me what "mutual submission" means, as defined by Christ and His example. To all the men who have thought about reading it - or have been asked to read it. Please Do! My husband has started to read it and says he wishes he would have known these principles sooner, and he's just in the second chapter.