This book is a revelation, and at last, finally an entry in this genre that doesn't take sides.
A lot of these books read as if the author is crying foul for personal grievances rather than trying to educate the reader. In my opinion, female writers often seem to find this sort of book as a chance to point fingers or nag men by making broad spectrum criticisms and accusations about our collective state of mind. Male writers seem to be using the genre as a mechanism to 'outwit and outsmart' female dating strategies by overpowering them with complex counter-strategies. The 'hunter and the hunted' perspective so many men write about is no better than the 'nagging mother' aspect a lot of female authors seem to advocate. Ms. Lucas advocating approaching from the context of equality- truly of equal worth despite our differences.. is a breath of fresh air.
Men and women are different, and in relationships (depending on how you define them) there are certainly roles to be played. That said, these roles are not suits of armor or cloaks of deception to be worn to 'win' against an opponent. They're complimenting parts to a greater whole. Ms. Lucas focuses on this concept well. She calls on both men and women to step up their self awareness and to stop playing games and get real. Most importantly, she stresses the importance of taking responsibility for one's own actions, and that gender stereotypes do not excuse abusive, manipulative, or childish behavior. Two thumbs up for this one.
