What exactly does it mean to have married the wrong person? It means everybody goes wrong. It means everybody clings to unrealistic expectations about marriage. It means the old marriage model is a failure and it is time for a new paradigm. For most of us, misconceptions and myths about romantic relationships remain unquestioned. We follow conventional guideposts because everyone else is following them. Everybody Marries the Wrong Person discusses the 20 misleading beliefs about romantic relationships and addresses the big six warning signs of users and abusers: substance abuse/dependence, mental cruelty, physical and/or sexual battery, anger, controlling behavior and under-functioning/under-responsiblity. This helpful guide discusses the eight basics of mature love and four behavioral goals that a healthy marriage requires. Heathly marriages develop as we manage personal expectations and reactions, focus on partners strengths, and choose to be both loving and lovable.
{"itemData":[{"priceBreaksMAP":null,"buyingPrice":11.15,"ASIN":"0882823191","isPreorder":0},{"priceBreaksMAP":null,"buyingPrice":11.84,"ASIN":"1570628122","isPreorder":0},{"priceBreaksMAP":null,"buyingPrice":12.69,"ASIN":"159030571X","isPreorder":0}],"shippingId":"0882823191::jRgVPppXsPm4Yp8NT4D%2FLh9bFa8ZtpVvOKxAe9R9wrt7cmGfw3kcwNkMih%2BAhIxCaeT5r5Vf5dpGvzot%2FWUs74sNquqZ6wx9sxUHpxNwZwQt7jOCzPkVSA%3D%3D,1570628122::gCdqzeiOxxQYq1ki63d%2FXWUf2RyY1HPTrzmyHagtZfYaePhJOp0WOau0%2FQxrHzk4YWUPOqZcjAczjrY0mILkHOsV5qOfuAkk4Oxvef79B74%3D,159030571X::yqkFjYuADDLSV2AyA0%2FKAr3hCaP90NwtwGF3KUwlWTlq%2B5EUUletSqnrfiJ7%2Flp7ibkwg9O3aHJZaGfOg9c9WESdrWszHjJ2nZ3uQVSgreU%3D","sprites":{"addToWishlist":["wl_one","wl_two","wl_three"],"addToCart":["s_addToCart","s_addBothToCart","s_add3ToCart"],"preorder":["s_preorderThis","s_preorderBoth","s_preorderAll3"]},"currenyCode":"USD","shippingDetails":{"xz":"same","yz":"same","xy":"same","xyz":"same"},"tags":["x","y","z"],"strings":{"addToWishlist":["add to wishlist","Add both to Wish List","Add all three to Wish List"],"addToCart":["Add to Cart","Add both to Cart","Add all three to Cart"],"showDetailsDefault":"Show availability and shipping details","shippingError":"An error occurred, please try again","hideDetailsDefault":"Hide availability and shipping details","priceLabel":["Price:","Price for both:","Price for all three:"],"preorder":["Pre-order this item","Pre-order both items","Pre-order all three items"]}}
Christine Meinecke, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist with thirty years of clinical experience. She completed a doctorate in Counseling Psychology at the University of Kansas, an internship at Colorado State University Counseling Center, and a postdoctoral fellowship at The Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Medicine. Dr. Meinecke has taught and guest-lectured undergraduates, graduate students, and medical residents. She has worked with adults, adolescents, and couples in university and hospital settings. For the past twenty years, she has maintained a fulltime private practice.
Dr. Meinecke is also a playwright. Her full-length, comedic play, Flutter the Dovecotes, won the 2009 Iowa Playwrights Workshop competition and was premiered by Tallgrass Theatre Company, West Des Moines, Iowa.
She has practiced yoga (and taught classes, off and on) for more than thirty-five years.
She met her beloved wrong person, Deems, while both were doctoral students at the University of Kansas. They have been married thirty years and live in Des Moines, Iowa.
Visit author's website - www.everybodymarriesthewrongperson.com Visit author's blog - psychologytoday.com - Everybody Marries the Wrong Person
This book is based on Dr. Meinecke's personal experience as a marriage counselor, but it's not all about marriage problems. Dr. Meinecke has tapped into a massive knowledge base from many well known colleagues and some clients to create a comprehensive explanation of what it takes to succeed in any personal relationship, and blows away old misconceptions on "the perfect marriage". Have you ever wondered why your mate (or anyone else) isn't just like you think he/she should be? The answer lies within yourself and your own perceptions...a must read for anyone wishing to make changes for the better.
Purchased this for my wife and I after reading the February 2012 psychology today that referenced the book. My wife took it first. She really liked it and was quoting from it within the first hour. Which would have been annoying, if I hadn't read the article first and known what it was about. Out has helped us both to look at each other with a more forgiving eye. I'd say it is worth the time to read, since it's got a lot of wisdom in it.
I enjoyed the ideas in this book very much. Meinecke does not beat around the bush when it comes to realizing your own faults and not blaming others for them.
