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Product Details

  • Paperback: 174 pages
  • Publisher: Hampton Roads Publishing; First Edition edition (February 1, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1571745602
  • ISBN-13: 978-1571745606
  • Product Dimensions: 8.6 x 5.6 x 0.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (61 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #517,778 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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From Publishers Weekly

Professional matchmaker Martenson, who successfully landed her own soul mate, presents a chatty advice book that shows readers how to "stop searching and start attracting" your ideal partner. Though peppy, welcoming and entirely encouraging, there's much here that will ring familiar (you've got to love yourself before you can love someone else, "You cannot change someone"); Martenson also leans heavily on the "law of attraction" most recently popularized in Rhonda Byrne's The Secret, instructing readers to "identify what I do want" and then "expect, listen, and allow it to happen." Throughout, Martenson provides personal stories, anecdotes and exercises that reveal strategies for understanding and making the most of yourself, including plenty of self-affirmation and self-assessment. A Q&A chapter covers overlooked odds and ends and specific problems, such as how to impress over the phone, why sex on the first date is a bad idea, and whether it's permissible to slip out the back door "if my date is creepy." Entirely optimistic, if occasionally self-serving (an appendix on "How a Matchmaking Service Can Help"), this guide makes a dependable cheerleader for those falling behind in the game of love.
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"Enjoy this book . . . and let it help you find your own soul mate.” —John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“While Excuse Me, Your Soul Mate Is Waiting can be laugh-out-loud funny, it is a supremely serious guide to creating the kind of life that will attract your perfect mate. Brilliant.” —Victoria Moran, author of Fat, Broke, and Lonely No More

More About the Author

In her latest book, Hearts on the Line, Marla's day might begin with an email like this: Marla, I hope you don't plan on charging me for the last two setups--Penny and Lydia. Let me make it crystal clear for you, even 5 pounds overweight is a deal killer.... I won't waste any more time on another date with a plump gal. Clarence Penny and Lydia are both under 110 pounds--including implants. Marla facetiously refers to the dating service as the Double D--which doesn't stand for dream date--and often finds herself introducing SHBRs (short fat bald rich guys) to GDGDs (gosh darn gold-diggers) and, despite the odds, countless couples find that Marla has linked their hearts. The exasperating clients stand out, but many are terrific people, and you'll follow their dating stories with interest, as Marla struggles to work for a boss who requires her to cross ethical lines, pushing Marla to her limits. A tiny spark is all it takes, and Marla goes from being vice-president of a multi-city enterprise to being unemployed--which takes her career in matchmaking to a whole new level, all while staying true to her most authentic self.

"Marla is a gifted writer who can take everyday situations and those even ridiculously insane and weave humor through them to share with her readers."
~Autumn Blues Reviews

Marla was born in Tacoma, Washington, the "City of Destiny." Growing up she had a natural flair for acting and a deep interest in reading and writing poetry and short stories. At the age of sixteen, Marla was living in Iran with her family, learning to speak French and Persian, when the revolution forced their return to Washington State. At the age of 19 the pursuit of an acting career drew her to Hollywood and a stint in television commercials and print modeling.

Restless and eager for new challenges, in the early nineties it was on to Chicago, where she discovered that she could use her personal dating experiences to help others. She subsequently turned this talent into a career as a matchmaker back in Los Angeles, where, since 2001, her skills have led many couples to matrimony. Marla found an outlet for her love of writing in two relationship advice books Excuse Me, Your Soul Mate Is Waiting and Good date, Bad Date, and in 2010 her memoir, Diary of a Beverly Hills Matchmaker was published.

Marla's work inspires people and gives them hope that they can find their soul mates. She found and married her own, musician and composer Adolfo Jon Alexi, in Mexico City in 2002. A world traveler and culture nut, Marla describes herself as having a French flair, a Persian heart, Italian fire, and Mexican taste buds!

Customer Reviews

The book is very interesting, clear and easy to read.
In her book Excuse Me, Your Soul Mate Is Waiting, Marla Martenson takes us through the journey of finding The One.
This book will empower you to take control of your destiny and finally find your soul mate.
Marcus Gassei

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

28 of 30 people found the following review helpful By merlot on January 30, 2008
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i waited until i read the whole book to write my review even though i suspected from the beginning it was going to be a good one. the book has a very positive and upbeat tone. there are a lot of short stories of couples or dating situations thrown in to drive home the author's points. the book is based on the law of attraction but it really just explains how you need to think about dating so that you attract someone good into your life. it teaches you how to talk to yourself about dating so you encourage yourself instead of discourage yourself in the process.

i really loved this book. i did all the exercises and really thought about them, they are spaced throughout the book. i actually felt lighter after reading this book. the author gets you excited about your future and that's what i needed. she also stresses that it's important to be patient and to not get discouraged if finding your soul mate doesn't happen right away. it really is about you being positive and letting the universe send you a mate that is perfect for you. there is so much sincerity that i just feel like it's all going to work out.

the book speaks to men and women as well as those that are younger and older, after all, everyone deserves love! i suggest buying the book, reading it and doing the exercises, reflecting on what the messages mean for you and then just living your life to the fullest as you wait for you and your soul mate cross paths.
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15 of 16 people found the following review helpful By Helen Nadel on January 6, 2008
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Marla Martenson, the well known Match Making authority uses her vast knowledge to take the reader through a journey in self discovery. In "Excuse Me Your Soul Mate Is Waiting", she shares a proven and effective method created by her, to empower the reader so they clearly identify what they want, and how to actually get it!! Marla goes even further, by answering questions which clarify anything from the "why not me?", "why not yet?", "why not him/her?", to the very much awaited answer to the main question asked by anyone single: "How do I make it happen now?". Whether you are in a relationship or not, or just looking to create unprecedented events of any type in your life, you have a good reason to read "Excuse Me Your Soul Mate Is Waiting". Marla Martenson, with a sharp sense of humour has figured out the Law of Attraction, the reason behind the human quest for Love, and YOU! Indeed, as you read her book, you really feel she is speaking directly to you most of the time!! I hope you'll enjoy it as much as I did.
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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful By Karina Moore on January 9, 2008
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I have also just finished your insightful book. I really have a deep admiration and gratitude for you and your wisdom and the clarity I found through your writing.

This book has so many fabulous pearls of insight and wisdom and I have been doing everything wrong on dates. The Soulmate assignments were so clarifying and I think I have been coming from a place of scarcity and and confusion about what I really wanted and now I have all this space to set my dreams free. I am a huge believer in the laws of attraction and feel my lack of clarity may have been keeping me running in cirlcles. I think most profoundly I heard the message to fully live my life and enjoy myself and trust the Universe now that I have clearly defined my Soul Mate. I am so grateful for this book!
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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful By BigBanker on March 28, 2010
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The author continuously refers back to original Excuse Me, Your Life is waiting. She even goes so far as to call the original book "her Bible." Skip this book and just read the original. I am sure the original is much better.
There is nothing new in this book that has not been covered before by better writers. I prefer Kathryn Alice's Love Will Find You and Frank Polancic's Why Wait? Create Your Soul Mate Now! I think those books do a much better job of getting one on the path to finding a soulmate.
I was also put off by the author's insistence on using a matchmaker, which she is. I spent a couple of thousand dollars on a matchmaker (highly reputed)and it did not work for me. They do not work for everyone, nothing does.
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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful By Dr Lisa Love on December 22, 2007
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With wit and wisdom, Excuse Me Your Soul Mate is Waiting gives you just the right tools to attract the right partner into your life in a fun and effortless way. It teaches you to be clear about what you "don't want", identify what you "do want," use the law of attraction technique to feeling good about wanting it so you increase the odds of attracting it, and then getting into the right allowing space to increase the likelihood that it will happen.

The book goes further than some of the classic Excuse Me books in that it is also filled with great dating advice that come from the author's years of experience as a Matchmaker. The tips are a little more oriented towards women (women tend to read these kinds of books more than men), but there is also useful for advice for men as well making this a great book for both sexes to enjoy. One tip I really enjoyed was the answer to the question, "Is he not ready for a relationship, or not ready for you?" The answer? (Brace yourself..) He is just not that into you! Why, because as the author also asserts any guy who really is interested in a woman will reserve her for himself. He will not want to let her go. He will just know that she is "the One." How? (She has numerous advice and I share a bit here with you so you can again get the idea of how this book is filled with great dating advice).

He will just have a gut feeling that she is "the One."
He just wants to be with her and ONLY her.
He likes everything about her.
He feels comfortable and relaxed around her.
And much more....

So, don't miss out, find out what you need to for attracting the right soul mate for you and releasing the ones you don't want who don't want you. -- Dr. Lisa Love, Beyond the Secret
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