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Excuse Me, Your Soul Mate Is Waiting: Name what you want. Feel what you want. Allow it to happen. Paperback – February 1, 2008

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Professional matchmaker Martenson, who successfully landed her own soul mate, presents a chatty advice book that shows readers how to "stop searching and start attracting" your ideal partner. Though peppy, welcoming and entirely encouraging, there's much here that will ring familiar (you've got to love yourself before you can love someone else, "You cannot change someone"); Martenson also leans heavily on the "law of attraction" most recently popularized in Rhonda Byrne's The Secret, instructing readers to "identify what I do want" and then "expect, listen, and allow it to happen." Throughout, Martenson provides personal stories, anecdotes and exercises that reveal strategies for understanding and making the most of yourself, including plenty of self-affirmation and self-assessment. A Q&A chapter covers overlooked odds and ends and specific problems, such as how to impress over the phone, why sex on the first date is a bad idea, and whether it's permissible to slip out the back door "if my date is creepy." Entirely optimistic, if occasionally self-serving (an appendix on "How a Matchmaking Service Can Help"), this guide makes a dependable cheerleader for those falling behind in the game of love.
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"Enjoy this book . . . and let it help you find your own soul mate.” —John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“While Excuse Me, Your Soul Mate Is Waiting can be laugh-out-loud funny, it is a supremely serious guide to creating the kind of life that will attract your perfect mate. Brilliant.” —Victoria Moran, author of Fat, Broke, and Lonely No More


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 174 pages
  • Publisher: Hampton Roads Publishing; First Edition edition (February 1, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1571745602
  • ISBN-13: 978-1571745606
  • Product Dimensions: 8.6 x 5.6 x 0.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (63 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #190,592 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Over a decade ago, Marla Martenson never dreamed that she would launch into a new career as a Beverly Hills Matchmaker, working tirelessly to find her financially upscale male clients the perfect ten to walk down the aisle with. But when a friend of her husband's offered her a job at a video dating service, the course of her life was changed for good. After a year and a half at the dating service, she accepted a position at an exclusive Beverly Hills introduction agency as the head matchmaker.

After years toiling in the trenches unearthing the most exquisite gems to match to her well- heeled gentlemen, Martenson felt moved to a memoir, Diary Of A Beverly Hills Matchmaker. In a town chock full of aspiring actresses, wannabees, gold diggers, poseurs and opportunists on the hunt for Daddy Warbucks, as well as no shortage of male egos on the lookout for Heidi Klum clones to pair up with, it's no wonder that these types of introduction services are cropping up faster than hair plugs at the Men's Club. Everyone is looking for the perfect 10.

The American dream is "to have it all", "hold out for the best" and, "don't settle." After all, it's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor man, right? But just how long are singles willing to wait for the perfect specimen to hook up with? It's fine and dandy when a woman is in her twenties and looking like a million bucks, but when she has reached the forty mark and higher, things start to crinkle and sag, eggs dry up and dreams are dashed. The competition is the new arrivals with taut young bodies and stars in their eyes and the over forty male is often considered "distinguished" rather than the over forty woman who is just considered "old."

We have now reached a time when online dating and matchmaking services are no longer taboo. One is not considered "desperate" to reach out for some help in finding love. But with that convenience and technology comes the expectation of "putting in an order" for the perfect mate. Martenson writes about the mentality of many male clients and the attitude, "I've paid you thousands of dollars to match me, so find me exactly what I want even if that means specific hair color, eye color, height, weight, and nipple preference. Yes, nipple preference. Martenson tells a story of a member who broke up with a woman because her areolas were "too big."

And did Martenson find her fairy tale ending with her perfect ten, or did she settle for second best in a heartless city in the knowledge that her clock had all but stopped ticking? A hopeless romantic, she is certain that it was kismet meeting the woman late one Friday night at a Rite Aid store on Sunset Blvd. who would introduce her to her husband a month later.
For a woman who had given up on finding her soul mate and accepted her fate of remaining single, living in a studio apartment in Hollywood with her dog, having an open heart and mind has proven to be golden.

"Marla is a gifted writer who can take everyday situations and those even ridiculously insane and weave humor through them to share with her readers."
~Autumn Blues Reviews

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28 of 30 people found the following review helpful By merlot on January 30, 2008
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i waited until i read the whole book to write my review even though i suspected from the beginning it was going to be a good one. the book has a very positive and upbeat tone. there are a lot of short stories of couples or dating situations thrown in to drive home the author's points. the book is based on the law of attraction but it really just explains how you need to think about dating so that you attract someone good into your life. it teaches you how to talk to yourself about dating so you encourage yourself instead of discourage yourself in the process.

i really loved this book. i did all the exercises and really thought about them, they are spaced throughout the book. i actually felt lighter after reading this book. the author gets you excited about your future and that's what i needed. she also stresses that it's important to be patient and to not get discouraged if finding your soul mate doesn't happen right away. it really is about you being positive and letting the universe send you a mate that is perfect for you. there is so much sincerity that i just feel like it's all going to work out.

the book speaks to men and women as well as those that are younger and older, after all, everyone deserves love! i suggest buying the book, reading it and doing the exercises, reflecting on what the messages mean for you and then just living your life to the fullest as you wait for you and your soul mate cross paths.
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15 of 16 people found the following review helpful By Helen Nadel on January 6, 2008
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Marla Martenson, the well known Match Making authority uses her vast knowledge to take the reader through a journey in self discovery. In "Excuse Me Your Soul Mate Is Waiting", she shares a proven and effective method created by her, to empower the reader so they clearly identify what they want, and how to actually get it!! Marla goes even further, by answering questions which clarify anything from the "why not me?", "why not yet?", "why not him/her?", to the very much awaited answer to the main question asked by anyone single: "How do I make it happen now?". Whether you are in a relationship or not, or just looking to create unprecedented events of any type in your life, you have a good reason to read "Excuse Me Your Soul Mate Is Waiting". Marla Martenson, with a sharp sense of humour has figured out the Law of Attraction, the reason behind the human quest for Love, and YOU! Indeed, as you read her book, you really feel she is speaking directly to you most of the time!! I hope you'll enjoy it as much as I did.
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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful By Karina Moore on January 9, 2008
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I have also just finished your insightful book. I really have a deep admiration and gratitude for you and your wisdom and the clarity I found through your writing.

This book has so many fabulous pearls of insight and wisdom and I have been doing everything wrong on dates. The Soulmate assignments were so clarifying and I think I have been coming from a place of scarcity and and confusion about what I really wanted and now I have all this space to set my dreams free. I am a huge believer in the laws of attraction and feel my lack of clarity may have been keeping me running in cirlcles. I think most profoundly I heard the message to fully live my life and enjoy myself and trust the Universe now that I have clearly defined my Soul Mate. I am so grateful for this book!
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12 of 13 people found the following review helpful By BigBanker on March 28, 2010
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The author continuously refers back to original Excuse Me, Your Life is waiting. She even goes so far as to call the original book "her Bible." Skip this book and just read the original. I am sure the original is much better.
There is nothing new in this book that has not been covered before by better writers. I prefer Kathryn Alice's Love Will Find You and Frank Polancic's Why Wait? Create Your Soul Mate Now! I think those books do a much better job of getting one on the path to finding a soulmate.
I was also put off by the author's insistence on using a matchmaker, which she is. I spent a couple of thousand dollars on a matchmaker (highly reputed)and it did not work for me. They do not work for everyone, nothing does.
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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful By Dr Lisa Love on December 22, 2007
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With wit and wisdom, Excuse Me Your Soul Mate is Waiting gives you just the right tools to attract the right partner into your life in a fun and effortless way. It teaches you to be clear about what you "don't want", identify what you "do want," use the law of attraction technique to feeling good about wanting it so you increase the odds of attracting it, and then getting into the right allowing space to increase the likelihood that it will happen.

The book goes further than some of the classic Excuse Me books in that it is also filled with great dating advice that come from the author's years of experience as a Matchmaker. The tips are a little more oriented towards women (women tend to read these kinds of books more than men), but there is also useful for advice for men as well making this a great book for both sexes to enjoy. One tip I really enjoyed was the answer to the question, "Is he not ready for a relationship, or not ready for you?" The answer? (Brace yourself..) He is just not that into you! Why, because as the author also asserts any guy who really is interested in a woman will reserve her for himself. He will not want to let her go. He will just know that she is "the One." How? (She has numerous advice and I share a bit here with you so you can again get the idea of how this book is filled with great dating advice).

He will just have a gut feeling that she is "the One."
He just wants to be with her and ONLY her.
He likes everything about her.
He feels comfortable and relaxed around her.
And much more....

So, don't miss out, find out what you need to for attracting the right soul mate for you and releasing the ones you don't want who don't want you. -- Dr. Lisa Love, Beyond the Secret
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