Extended Massive Orgasm: How You Can Give and Receive Intense Sexual Pleasure (Positively Sexual) [Paperback]

Ph.D. Steve Bodansky (Author), Ph.D. Vera Bodansky (Author)

Book Description

Series: Positively Sexual | Publication Date: November 30, 2000

Couples who know how to give each other extreme intimate pleasure enjoy plenty of other benefits, including reduced stress and increased closeness. In this hands-on guide to getting it right, behavioral scientists Steve and Vera Bodansky describe how to give and receive remarkable orgasms, taking the experience of sex to a new level of enjoyment. Focusing primarily on women but addressing the needs of men as well, they cover anatomy in detail, address inhibitions and fears, suggest useful exercises, recommend the best positions, and most of all offer insightful advice for every technique covered. While the authors include emotional and psychological components of a relationship, they focus on how and where to touch a partner to produce the most pleasure. No matter how long a couple has been together, it's never too late - or too early - to greatly enhance sexual response.

Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Hunter House (November 30, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0897932897
• ISBN-13: 978-0897932899
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (37 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #70,287 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

I love women, especially my wife and co-author Vera who has been my inspiration for the past 25 years. We have been facilitating others in having outstanding relationships by example as well as by giving private instruction and teaching classes in sex as our book titles describe. Our books are actually a by product of Vera's desire with what we have learned through our studies and mostly through our years of teaching together. We still give private instruction or DEMO classes either in Northern California where we live or in NYC at Mamagenas School for Womanly Arts about twice a year. We have a DVD of one hour of extreme pleasure available directly from us or through our website which is www.extendedmassiveorgasm.com.

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79 of 83 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Wow, I thought I knew it all, July 13, 2001

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This review is from: Extended Massive Orgasm: How You Can Give and Receive Intense Sexual Pleasure (Positively Sexual) (Paperback)

I wondered if this would just be a rehash of stuff I already knew. I was wrong. It's simply fantastic. I've been studying the female anatomy since I was 15, starting with the Hite Report. I've read books on tantric sex, The Joy of Sex, I've read all the sites I could on better sex. I've even gotten those Better Sex videos. Nothing came close (sorry for the pun!) to this book for my wife and me. I took her to new heights in only the first few times we used the methods described (pay attention to 1:00, oh boy)...and she was used to hitting some pretty high places. She's also begun to understand the potential of my physical sensations and to pay more attention to *my* pleasure instead of the wham-bam stuff.

Best of all, it increased our intimacy by a huge factor. And she loves me so much more for caring enough to buy this book for us. Okay, it's mostly a female-pleasing book, but there is a lot of great info in here for us guys. And for making the most of your relationship. Get it, be honest and open in the sack (and everywhere else) and see what happens. Again, wow.

30 of 30 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Her pleasure - a desireable goal for both of you!, April 8, 2003

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This review is from: Extended Massive Orgasm: How You Can Give and Receive Intense Sexual Pleasure (Positively Sexual) (Paperback)

First a disclaimer: this book is about one thing and one thing only - manual genital stimulation, and primarily female at that. If that is not of interest to you don't buy it, you will be dissapointed. There are no new intercourse positions or secret oral sex methods contained in it. Not only that, but the techniques contained are actually quite simple and unadorned, almost obvious if so many of us hadn't received such misinformed socialization. BUT if you are interested in deeply pleasuring your (female) partner, if you are interested in the sexual concept of "doing", if you are open-minded to perhaps a new way of experiencing and expressing your sexuality and that of your partner, then , by all means, read this book. In it you will not only find a refreshingly simple approach to pleasuring your partner, but also a great deal of coherent thought (mostly) on why you might want to do that, and why, indeed, your partner might view that as a valid pursuit and herself a deserving recipient of such focused and sustained effort. We men I'm afraid often underestimate the significance of this latter concern for our female partners, partners who have been conditioned through a lifetime of disinformation and preventative avoidance to not recognize the joy they may bring to a relationship simply by embracing their own birthright pleasure, and encouraging and educating their male partners to actively help them attain it, as they actively relax into the sensations their own bodies are capable of providing them. As well, we men seldom recognize the deep satisfaction to be derived from feeling fully engaged and truly competent in the pleasuring of a partner, and more generally caring for and nurturing her, all decidedly unmodern (and unmanly?) ideas. This simple concept, so blindingly obvious, is the heart of "doing" - a silly term perhaps, but a worthwhile skill and endeavor for any couple seeking increased contentment. Pleasure is the gift and the glue that nature or the deity has provided us to cement our bond in shared moments of bliss. Not to suggest that sexual pleasure can solve all ills, but done well it certainly can't hurt now can it, to experience on a visceral level the wonderous sensations a generous and giving partner can offer, and too the deep sense of satisfaction a truly contented partner may evoke in the giver.

The techniques in this book are sparsely illustrated by not the greatest of drawings. The authors have a subsequent book that promises better illustrations. I haven't seen it but if you tend to be flummoxed by complicated geomtries you may find that helpful. I really see this book as almost providing more of the philosophy of "doing" than a great deal of detailed methodology; though, the basics are certainly here. In many ways once the concept is embraced the techniques may flow from practice, as feedback-guided learning is a key element in this method (ie - ya gotta talk before, during, and after). One addition I wouldn't hesitate to recommend is combining this practice with vibrator and g spot play which is completely complementary. For those women who may require a bit higher level of sensation to reach lift off, the results will be guarantee of success. And alternating the two may provide for an incredibly blissful sustained event, both for the recipient and the less fatigued giver. (See Betty Dodson's books or videos for guidance there). Once the orgasmic threshold has been reached many of these techniques (not to mention others) may show higher effectiveness in subsequent stimulation. So fasten your seatbelts dearies, it's going to be a bumpy ride!!! But one worth every sighing, moaning, writhing, and giggling minute.

25 of 27 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Real "HOW-TO" Not a thin read for the toliet or airplane!, February 27, 2004

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This review is from: Extended Massive Orgasm: How You Can Give and Receive Intense Sexual Pleasure (Positively Sexual) (Paperback)

A Gentleman's take on EMO:

Every book has negative reviews. But the ones in here for this book must come from people who definitely did NOT READ THE BOOK!

If you are looking for a smut book, this is not it. If you are looking for some magical gimmick, there are none in life.

The Bodansky's put out their first book on ESO, (now EMO), back in the early 80s. I thank god for it! Otherwise I would have never known all these years what a couple could earn if they are willing to learn. It is so sad that so few have any idea what Great Sex really means.

This is not a book that is going to give you some quick gimmicks to quick orgasms; or some 'new position' that will light you on fire. (It's so funny to hear when some people equate the mystery of great sex to some mystery position).

One caveat: If your partner isn't likely to try something like this, you'll simply need to upgrade to a newer and more versatile model. For the most part, the benefits of this book require the full participation of both parties, (not one).

In summary: This book goes into the physiology & psychology of intimacy, (trust building exercises to how to control and enhance the partners level of arousal). This newer edition expands greatly on the first!

If only this book was distributed like books of faith, most of our world's problems and pains would be gone.