Affair! How to Manage Every Aspect of Your Extramarital Relationship with Passion, Discretion and Dignity [Paperback]

H. Cameron Barnes (Author)

Book Description

ISBN-10: 1581126964 | ISBN-13: 978-1581126969 | Publication Date: February 15, 2001 | Edition: 2

In the face of near-universal disapproval, between one quarter and one half of all married Americans (including 15-30% of married women) will, at some point, engage in an extramarital affair. They will have either an enriching experience or the sad, destructive, ugly mess for which affairs are far better known. There is one self-help book that every one of these millions of people wants and needs to read. It has never been written. Until now. Affair is for them: a thoughtful, detailed discussion of every aspect of considering, preparing for, beginning and conducting a successful and emotionally fulfilling extramarital affair, including advice, case histories, numerous first-person narratives, humorous anecdotes and step-by-step guidance for every facet of the process. Contrary to what the media like to portray, many of the major pitfalls are avoidable and an extramarital relationship can bring a person greater happiness and personal growth if properly managed. Affair shows how. Key sections include: Making the Decision to Have an Extramarital Affair, Planning and Preparation for the Adventure Ahead, Beginning Your Affair, Managing Stealth: Keeping Your Affair Private in an Unprivate World, Building, Strengthening and Celebrating Your Extramarital Relationship, and Accepting the Odds: Preparing for the Possible With Your Dignity Intact. Contrary to what the media like to portray, an extramarital relationship can bring a person greater happiness and personal growth if properly managed. Affair shows how.

--This text refers to the Kindle Edition edition.

Editorial Reviews

Review

I loved this book! It contains the most open and honest assessment of extra marital affairs I have ever seen in a book. It reveals a fact about which our culture has been in denial: affairs are common and need not mean the end of an otherwise good and practical marriage. Ben Franklin once stated that "as long as there is marriage without love, there will be love without marriage." Many people will not like this book, as its ideas run counter to the prevailing cultural winds, but anyone with an open mind will appreciate it. Although there are lots of books directed to "hurt" spouses, this book was the first one I found that seriously and compassionately deals with a real problem that people seldom admit: What do you do when you are married and have children with someone who is self-absorbed or self-centered and months or years of marriage counselling haven't changed them? They may be a good parent and, knowing how important it is for your children's well-being, you stay for their sake. I felt that I was stuck in a bad situation that would be going on for years while I grew older. Religion, hobbies, sports and community service can't be everyone's substitute for a loving adult relationship. This book was a lifesaver for me. It's very well written and full of practical advice. It helped me find and keep my special friend to help me through this until my children are older. My life is so much more bearable, so much happier now. It's not an ideal situation, but it has made it possible for me to stick it out for my kids. --This text refers to the Kindle Edition edition.

From the Publisher

In the face of near-universal disapproval, between one quarter and one half of all married Americans (including 15-30% of married women) will, at some point, engage in an extramarital affair. They will have either an enriching experience or the sad, destructive, ugly mess for which affairs are far better known. There is one self-help book that every one of these millions of people wants and needs to read. It has never been written. Until now.

Affair! is for them: a thoughtful, detailed discussion of every aspect of considering, preparing for, beginning and conducting a successful and emotionally fulfilling extramarital affair, including advice, case histories, numerous first-person narratives, humorous anecdotes and step-by-step guidance for every facet of the process. Contrary to what the media like to portray, many of the major pitfalls are avoidable and an extramarital relationship can bring a person greater happiness and personal growth if properly managed. Affair! shows how.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 221 pages
• Publisher: Universal Publishers; 2 edition (February 15, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1581126964
• ISBN-13: 978-1581126969
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.4 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.6 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,983,153 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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67 of 76 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A superb and useful book on a controversial subject, June 1, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: Affair!: How to Manage Every Aspect of Your Extramarital Relationship with Passion, Discretion and Dignity (Paperback)

Although there are lots of books directed to "hurt" spouses, this book was the first one I found that seriously and compassionately deals with a real problem that people seldom admit: What do you do when you are married and have children with someone who is self-absorbed or self-centered and months or years of marriage counselling haven't changed them? They may be a good parent and, knowing how important it is for your children's well-being, you stay for their sake. I felt that I was stuck in a bad situation that would be going on for years while I grew older. Religion, hobbies, sports and community service can't be everyone's substitute for a loving adult relationship.

This book was a lifesaver for me. It's very well written and full of practical advice. It helped me find and keep my special friend to help me through this until my children are older. My life is so much more bearable, so much happier now. It's not an ideal situation, but it has made it possible for me to stick it out for my kids.

41 of 51 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars For those who MUST have an affair, here is the how-to., March 25, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: Affair!: How to Manage Every Aspect of Your Extramarital Relationship with Passion, Discretion and Dignity (Paperback)

This book is interesting, entertaining, and practical. Filled with common sense, this will greatly help those wanting affection from outside their marriage. If an affair is something that a person can not avoid, then this is THE guide to have. I think every detail pertaining to the subject is addressed very well.