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Extraordinary Sex Now: A Couple's Guide to Intimacy

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The first 125 pages or so described my marriage to a tee! I can honestly say that if both of us had read this book we might still be married. That is a HUGE statement to make about a book, and obviously both parties have to WANT to change, but I believe this book can help. The book breaks down the typical men and women are different writings that are so prevelant nowadays. Yes we are different. But why are we different? How are we different? Dr. Scantling makes the argunment that there are four different sexual styles and each has it's own description, M.O., definition, traits and style. After reading her description it was fairly easy to figure out what I am. But, I found that I also had the traits of the other three styles as well. THAT is what is so key to this book. It provides the ability for the reader to not only identify with one's self but with one's mate. It is like having the answers to the SAT prior to taking the test. It also gives key talking points that can be used to open up a dialogue between you and your mate.

I highly suggest you pick this book up if your marriage or relationship is in trouble. As I stated in my opening paragraph, if I had this about 18-20 months ago I might have not gotten divorced. Keep the lines of communication open between both of you, don't demeen your partner, remember why you married them and most of all - BOTH OF YOU MUST WANT TO DO THIS.

I found Extraordinary Sex Now to be a very readable self-help book. It is set apart from others of its ilk by its easy style and innovative approach to increasing intimacy. The quiz was fun to do by myself and with my partner. The "animals" are a great metaphor for understanding our individual personality types. It has been easy to talk about how the lion in me feels about how the bear in you is acting. It makes dealing with sensitive issues less threatening and more rewarding. I would recommend this book highly if you are at all interested in improving the quality of your relationship with your loved one. Go on. Read it!

Dr. Scantling's latest effort cleverly addresses the fundamental problem arising in any relationship - that of knowing yourself and knowing your partner. Dr. Scantling has devised an animal metaphor - a simple and accurate way to remember one's strengths and weaknesses. Thus armed a couple can now perceive each other from a fresh vantage and help each other discover where problems may arise in their relationship. The couple may then work creatively with one another to balance their union. These efforts pave the way for a deeper, more intimate relationship as the partners challenge themselves to be more receptive to stretching the boundaries of their comfort zones which are framed by their animal archetypes. Dr. Scantling guides the reader through an entire process of self discovery and growth resulting in Extraordinary Sex Now.

As a clinician, and sex therapist treating couples for over 20 years I often recommend, Dr. Scantling's book to anyone seeking more passion in their relationship. It is full of practical ideas for individuals and couples who want to deepen their capacity for intimacy .

From the shcolarly tomes through the breezy pop psych manuals, this charming and inspiring book stands above the crowd and cuts through all the formulae and formulations. Dr. Scantling combines clinical expertise with folksy wisdom and a rich personal voice to lead us to inspiring intimacy. Not a "sex" book. A life book!

I'd still be married if only I'd found this book much earlier! Communication is all important, but you can get by without it, for a time. If you are looking to have the most incredible sex of your life, and are open-minded, this book is for you!!! My present partner and I are ALWAYS surprised at how deep and meaningful every encounter is. Even the 'quickies!!

This is a wonderful book. It helps to understand the difference's between individuals. Great insight into understanding yourself and your partner. Also gives you both a common language to be able to communicate about those difference's. Helps both individuals party's to be able to express themselves to each other.

I thought this book was very helpful. I actually read this book from cover to cover. I usually fall asleep with most books after the first chapter or two but this one kept my attention and I found it very helpful in understanding why and how my husband and I react and respond to each other. I could see each one of our personalities by reading this book and have found new ways to deal with difficult situations and even better how to improve our love life.

This is one of the worst sexual help books I've read. She doesn't even address ISD (inhibitied Sexual Desire) which is a common problem among women my age (25-30), instead she talks about some group therapy nonsense and psuedo-animal roles via sexual archtypes. YAWN. This book educates no one. It seems like this doctor helped out some friends of hers through a rough patch and now she considers herself an expert. Kudos to the promotion people for the design and hype of the book...please DO NOT JUDGE THIS BOOK BY ITS COVER!

I thought from the cover that this book would be about sex, or at least interesting. But it's a real yawn. Lots of pseudo-psychobabble that doesn't make much sense. If you're looking for something good about sex, you'd be far better off with anything by Lonnie Barbach, or (if you're into psychobabble, Dr. Judy Kuriansky). This book is a joke.