From Library Journal
This is one of those self-help books that asks you to choose what type of animal you are (lion, bear, bee, otter) and then gives suggestions for each type. Surprisingly, this seemingly dopey approach works very well. These four fauna are used as a workable shorthand for giving excellent advice about complementing and learning from one's partner to enhance sexual intimacy. Scantling, a psychologist, sex therapist, and coauthor of the intriguing Ordinary Women, Extraordinary Sex (Dutton, 1993), writes about imagination, communication, empathy, and flexibility?not about sexual techniques, plumbing, or dysfunctions. Her sample couples are heterosexual, but the advice transcends gender. Recommended for all public libraries as a companion to more general sex manuals for couples, such as Barry and Emily McCarthy's Couple Sexual Awareness (Carroll & Graf, 1990) and Douglas E. Rosenau's Christian-based A Celebration of Sex (Nelson, 1994).?Martha Cornog, American Coll. of Physicians, Philadelphia
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From the Inside Flap
Based on the help she has provided for the thirty to forty couples a week she has seen in her twenty years of clinical practice as a sexual therapist, Dr. Sandra R. Scantling has written a new erotic guide to restoring the vital connections that bring couples together and make it possible for them to enjoy extraordinary sex. This is not a sex manual; it is a book about achieving true intimacy--both in and out of the bedroom
Great sex is not dependent on being able to achieve contortionist positions or finding that elusive G-Spot; it is based, rather, on couples' becoming aware of those ineffable forces that originally brought them together--forces that may have been based on differences rather than similarities in style and personality, forces that now may be pulling these same people apart. Having achieved an understanding of these forces, they will be better able to communicate, achieve intimacy, and enjoy extraordinary sex. The first step toward understanding is self-awareness, and Dr. Scantling has devised a simple but accurate paradigm of the four basic personality types: Energizers, Stabilizers, Workers, and Pleasure-seekers. Through storytelling, anecdotes, and an easy-to-complete quiz, readers will learn to identify their own personalities and sexual styles--as well as those of their partners--and so to understand why they each behave as they do and--above all--how they can each modify their styles to achieve Extraordinary Sex Now.
This is an inspirational, must-have guide for any couple seeking to rekindle their passion. Dr. Scantling proves that lovemaking need never grow dull--that it can be an ongoing, joyous event, now and for the rest of our lives.