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Face It: What Women Really Feel as Their Looks Change Hardcover – February 15, 2010
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FACE IT seems to be entirely made up of asking various women the same questions: "When did you first realize you were getting old? When was that 'uh-oh' moment when you realized you are losing your looks?"
Over and over again. We get it. There are women who are afraid of losing their looks. Lots of them, according to this book.
But where are the chapters about what to do about it emotionally, how to cope, and were are instructions to feel good about ourselves? Only the last few pages are given to that, and even that seems to be just a brief over-view.
In the meantime, we hear about a women whose husband constantly cheats on her with younger women. That is supposed to help us? She leaves him only to realize that being a 50-year-old single parent is hard and depressing. We needed to know this from a book?
Then how about the woman who is so afraid that younger women will take her job that she cannot sleep at night. Well guess what: this is a 25-year-old! Sure, she is a model, but what message does it tell us when 25-year-olds are worried about aging? Again, we needed to know this?
Why can't we read about strong women who change their lives for the better when they retire, such as those who take up oil painting, creative writing, or volunteer to feed the homeless? Why doesn't this book encourage women to pursue the things they are passionate about? Where is the meaning? No, this book focuses on the superficial; it seems to encourage women to study themselves in the mirror.Read more ›
We all know our culture links youth with beauty; the authors tell us not to punish ourselves for trying to live up to such an unreasonable standard. We can't get any younger, it's just not gonna happen. So how do we face the fear--the real fear here--of becoming unloved, unlovable, marginalized, dead-to-the-world, still-walking-around female human beings? These galz give us a road map. I can't do it justice in this short review, but I think their case studies and practical suggestions are gold.
When young women can't imagine what they'll do with their lives after they turn 50, then we need to show them. It's the least we can do for them, and ourselves.
The authors have an incredible insight on the psychological effects of women aging. As a former beautiful co-ed turned middle age suburban housewife/professional counselor/mother, I couldn't agree more with the authors take on beauty and the aging woman. We go through an "Uh-oh" moment and thus begins our journey. For me it was when the cute guy flirted shamelessly and I realized his target was my little girl. Little meaning 14 years old and 5'7".
The authors' approach to the aging process is to resolve the beauty paradox. Through specific steps and anecdotal evidence based on their combined years of private practice, the authors guide the reader through the process. Frankly, the steps could be used for any life altering event.
Step 1. Turn Uh-Oh moments into Ah-ha moments.
Step 2. The only mask you wear should be made of honey and yogurt. Essentially, aging is not a dirty word. Come out of hiding and accept the outer self you are becoming
Step 3. Talk back to your internal dialogues. What is the message you are hearing in your head? Reframe it.
Step 4. Give Mom her due. Take the best of her and leave the rest behind. Her aging process is not the same as your own. The cultural experiences are different. It's not your mother's fault. Or your father's. Or your own. Again, reframe the experience.
Step 5. Use adolescent memories instead of repeating them. Remember how awkward we felt growing into our bodies and fashions? Avoid the impulsive decisions we made back then.
Step 6.Read more ›
We need something more honest than this. If we want to be told how to look more beautiful (younger) there are plenty of alternative books that come up under "Customers who bought this item also bought." Clearly, that's what some women are looking for and there's no dearth of authors/publishers/cosmetic companies happy to help us do that. That's not what I want, and I think, not what a lot of women want. I thought this book was supposed to be about moving past our attachment to looking younger and into a healthier mindset (i.e. face it, don't fight it because we all age and fighting it simply Does Not Work). The authors tell us face it, but don't face it. I hoped it would be about evolving--growing into our real selves basically.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
I'm a little puzzled by the positive reviews. I did read it cover to cover but didn't find anything helpful or informative. Read morePublished 14 months ago by Lisa
I was going through a really hard time accepting my aging face and neck. This book helped me face it, as the name says. Read morePublished on April 27, 2014 by Susan Sweeney
As a 49 year old woman, I totally enjoyed a book devoted to a subject that many refuse to talk about in any detail. It sounds too shallow. Read morePublished on January 18, 2014 by pushingupdaisies
An easy to read, easy to understand book that gently guides you to a place where you can honestly love yourself and feel beautiful.Published on January 4, 2014 by Heather L. Stpeter
Good heavens, this is an awful book. It's so bad, I've returned it on my Kindle and am hoping for a refund. Read morePublished on December 21, 2013 by SecondCherry
Not finished reading this yet, so I can't give a really definitive opinion, but so far, the book is thought-provoking and well-written. Read morePublished on September 10, 2013 by kitten
I loved the fact that the authors were former models who learned to find strength and power in their achievements and mental capabilities and in this book they attempt to help... Read morePublished on July 16, 2013 by Linda M. Robertson
The authors are former models who became psychologists after their careers ended, which is admirable. Read morePublished on November 1, 2011 by Maria S.